The Threats of Bullies

you said it right.The people who bullies are from complicated family like mine because my other family members have such negative attitude.I am also being bully and don't be surprise if I tell you it's my own family who keep on bullying me.Before I live with anger. but now I put everything to God to what they are doing to me.

Unfortunelly they find this violence way a good way to impose there power! but I think that in essence they have problem with their self confidence!

A lack of self-esteem being bullied themselves at home, they will bully others to hide their shortfall as a person, they will usually go around in gangs, because most bullies are too cowardice to bully others on their own, take a bully away from his cohorts and they are not so brave. It's also peer pressure as well, if you don't form the norm, in other words if you don't have the latest fashionable wear or if you look different, you become vulnerable, bullies like to pick on people who are isolated from others and not part of another group or gang, they are easy prey, like the wild, it's a survival of the toughest where the weak get pushed around, bullied and manipulated.

Bullies usually suffer from inferiority complexes or come from a background where they always have to fight and use their fists or threats to survive. A healthy person wqould not find satisfaction in humiliating other people.

They are just found everywhere. From school to universities,even when we get older and word,they also exist at the office. I agree with you. They surely are insecure people who knows you may be better than them. So to bully is the only way they can be superior to you, because you may have shown abilities and skills that seemed to overpower them =) I've met a lot of this on my first months of work, and I was very vocal when I told them I thought bullies just exist at grade school, but upon meeting them surely I was wrong.

Yes, I agree with you. They harm because they want their worst life experiences will also feel the other person. They are insecure. When I was a kid, I am also a victim of those bullies and thanks God I conquered that feelings. I took it as a worst nightmare during my childhood. I was bullied by my elementary grade classmate because I am very thin and weak. Now that I am a full grown up lady, I will not allow him anymore to be bullied by him. He owe a lot from me.

I came from a very bullying, oppressive and even abusive family but decided not to pass it on. Of course personally I feel my Christian faith healed me, etc. Or rather, my relationship with God and Jesus. But plenty of folks do not pass on the bullying. Each person in life must be responsible for their actions. If someone has hurt us, well, then we know it is hurtful. All the more reason to not do that type of thing! (More and more it seems as though debate on issues and politics is getting abusive, anytime instead of discussing an issue, it degrades into name calling and vilifying. This too is not acceptable.)

This doesnt suprise me that bullies have problems at home.. Children are like sponges they will mimic what they see; especially when its at home every day.. I do not think it is the only factor though.. I know plenty of people that grew up in broken homes but are the kindess people out there.. Granted there is a lot of anger that is repressed.. But it doesnt give someone the right to hurt another, or a get out of jail free card.. As a child there are a lot of things that we have no control over.. We can control our emotions and how we express them.. Using fists or other ways is not right.. There is no excuse!!

I don't consider blabber-mouths to be bullies. I've also been bullied before but it was more physical than verbal. I never liked being touched the wrong way, and when bullies find out what you don't like, they do it to you. Maybe that's why I got beat up most of the time than get teased. I'm mostly immune to teasing, and maybe it's because I got bullied physically before.

that's right. because some member of my family are like that. we live like a war freak family always fighting. small things makes big issue. so their attitude towards others like that. And I myself is also victim?don't be suprise if I tell you that it's also a family members of mine who bullies me..

I agree. They might not had the affection and love they need, so they're trying to bully others to get some attention. The parents play a vital role to every child's action. Being bullied on the other hand can turn down someones confidence and self worth. It should be avoided and discouraged.