School is ending and yet I still don't have friends
By olivetree27
@olivetree27 (495)
Greece
November 7, 2012 6:35pm CST
This is my second year with my classmates and we are currently on our last year in college. Some of them are really close to each other and they have their own group inside the class. Except me who do not speak with anybody except for hello and bye. I don't event greet some of them. During group work, I am the only one who do not have group especially if we're being ask to choose our own members. My teacher is kind enough to assign me to a group but it still sad as I feel out of place whenever I'm in class which is why I started missing classes recently. I think they get the idea that I'm snob but the truth is I'm just shy. I wanted to make an effort and try to be close to them as this is our last year in school. But how will I start?
6 responses
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
8 Nov 12
That is sad!
What seems to be stopping you from reaching out to other people? I mean, you could not live all by yourself, so why is making friends difficult for you? Are your classmates rich and snobby that you are not able to penetrate their group? I think there are instances where a person gets shy, but being shy most of the time leads you to nowhere? You are young! Enjoy life! What better way to enjoy life is to be with friends that you can share your thoughts and dreams with and be able to go to different places together and talk about BOYS! You are missing a lot. I say that you start building your confidence and always think that you are not different from the others.
What seems to be stopping you from reaching out to other people? I mean, you could not live all by yourself, so why is making friends difficult for you? Are your classmates rich and snobby that you are not able to penetrate their group? I think there are instances where a person gets shy, but being shy most of the time leads you to nowhere? You are young! Enjoy life! What better way to enjoy life is to be with friends that you can share your thoughts and dreams with and be able to go to different places together and talk about BOYS! You are missing a lot. I say that you start building your confidence and always think that you are not different from the others. @olivetree27 (495)
• Greece
8 Nov 12
They are not really snob but I do get the feeling that they are not comfortable talking to me as we don't share the same interest. But I'm really willing to prove to them that I can also be fun to be with and that I also enjoy going out because some people think that I don't really go out for parties well in fact, I do love going out.
@mikyung (2232)
• Philippines
8 Nov 12
You may start by accepting their friend request to their Facebook accounts, "like" them - their shoutouts,pictures etc.. Follow them in twitter. I believe that is a good start. Baby steps it is. You dont need to make any abrupt adjustments, it's never too late. Also, strike a smile that often to your classmates. Simple, yet effective, I believe.
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
8 Nov 12
I feel bad about you. It is not yet over. You still have time to win friends in your school. I was also like that before. I always choose the best friend I know and I can not talk to much with my other classmates. I had only one friend. I felt sad when that friend of mine became very distant with me knowing that she was the only one that I used to be with. That moment I started to win another friend and unconsciously I realized that it is better to have a lot friend but be sure also that they are very true with me. I do not keep fake friends. You should start to approach your classmates and submit yourself with them so that you might find the right friend who you will keep.
@lizlee (208)
• Philippines
8 Nov 12
hello! You can probably start by greeting them whenever you cross paths. You mentioned earlier that you don't do that. And by not doing that they would probably think that your a snob instead of just being shy.
If you don't want to say hi or hello, you could just simply smile at them. That way, they would feel that you're trying to reach out to them and that you're just shy :)
