Needing less gestures when the Love is real
By katie0
@katie0 (5203)
Japan
November 8, 2012 5:04pm CST
Do you feel like when you find the one and you are sure you are loved you don't need as much kisses, gestures and the 'I love you' from the person?
Even though I heard it before it means so much more real from him and I don't need any big gestures. This year there was this thing I wanted and it wasn't so cheap and I'm always reluctant to ask but I did and he gave me, but i said no Christmas present then that that would be my present and only because of that I accepted. He accepted without thinking and just recently was again thinking about my Christmas present. He makes a big deal of it like every year he wants to thank me with this big gesture.
Yesterday we talked a lot but the thing that caught me waking up thinking was a short, quick hug I received in a moment he was thanking me for the Vegan dinner, the vegan deserts, that I cared and took really good care of him and that hug was a gesture in some days but that I'm satisfied with that.
When it's real love we need less gestures?
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5 responses
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
I am use to be showered with love, both actions and words.
Until I found someone who is less of showing love in both aspect.
At first I thought his love is not real- maybe because I demand to much.
Later he explained that, love is not all about action or words- it is honesty and faith towards the person.
He told that, he is not asking anything from me because he trusted me that much- I don't need to keep saying I love you - a simple hello is enough because it means a lot when it comes from someone you love.
It's not easy to understand since I am use to be showy- but slowly I understand and now I am more secured than ever.
@BethelSophia (538)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
Loving someone is the special feeling you can ever have and the most happy thing is to be loved in return. Expressing your love depends upon the person's personality. There are people who are very showy in their love that they don't only say it in words but in actions as well. There are also people who feels happy and satisfied just to see their love one without saying any word. In my case my hubby and I always say I love you, we do hug and kiss everyday. But it doesn't mean that those who didn't do this kind of gesture don't love each other it's just that this is our personality and this is how we show our love, another couple also who love each other so much will not do like what we did but the love is there!
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
8 Nov 12
People may want to offer/give you something in exchange for something you did to them. it makes them feel good by giving it to you as well they would want to tell you how important you are to them. But either way, I am fine with it. The most important thin is you are happy with your relationship.
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
16 Nov 12
I don't know about that. I really love my boyfriend but it always feels great to hear him say I love you or give me a nice hug or kiss my forehead. I think that with real love more gestures come along, but not necessarily grand or expensive ones. I think that with real love the gestures change to the sweet little ones rather than the ones where you're just trying to impress each other. Yes with real love there can still be an expensive gift that maybe you've been wanting, but everything won't be about money and the cost of things. With real love, what really matters is the love you share and the affection you give each other.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
8 Nov 12
Id rather have a friend that loves me, rather than all that mussy stuff. Been there, didnt work out for me.
