How to attract her??
@Jeffery_superman (179)
China
November 8, 2012 6:16pm CST
First I just want to give a brief introduction of myself. I have gotten the bachelor degree this year, and entered in a big company with a comparatively fat pay.
The girl is my high school classmate, but we have little touch after graduation. With the memory flash back to the high school period that i once had crash on her before the college entrance test. At the moment i just caught the same feeling from her. But the test was drawing near, to put 100% energe on the school work, we became distant since then.
But recently i just unconsciously had a great interest on her. But to her, I am never the guy whom can share everything with. Texting messages can never be such a casual thing as before for i have to make great condieration when i prepare to send it out. I always think that at this moment i got a better job with a fatter pay, perhaps i will get more chances. But I am still confused and annoid about it.
What it matters is that how can i get back the lost attraction to her. Can you guys just give me some tips to pull me out of the trap!!!
6 responses
@jeztrose (1405)
• Philippines
19 Nov 12
Hi there jef!! ehehe
Your awesome!!For liking a girl when you are in high school until now. It rarely happens i guess.After so many years still you are attracted to her and you want to continue the memories you started on your high school days, it is so nice! How lucky is that girl, and now you are trying to impress her for having a good job. I think on that alone, you can catch her heart.Knowing that you really have efforts on trying to win her.I know it may not sound easy coz you lost your contact but i guess there is no harm in trying.
Do your best and i wish you the best of it! 
@Jeffery_superman (179)
• China
19 Nov 12
I am poor Jeff, and just several weeks ago i got her message with a negative feedback. I just try to send her a message but she refused to talk me and asked me to talk someone else. The memory has been past, and it cannot be regarded as the reality. What i want to do is just striving and working hard in order to earn money.haha..That's my ultimate goal i think. If i met the one i can love, i will try again.
Jez, i just want to you happy everyday, ok? Whatever you live, the happiness will be around you all the time.
@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
Well, you have to be sure if you like her or not. Then you can make your first move by being friends with her first. Don't let her feel that you are in a hurry, just first be close to her and know more about her. It could start in sending text messages or calling her, but you should always see her everyday. Be with her as a friend and take it from there. I know you have a job and maybe have a busy schedule but make time for a get together with friends or with her. 
@jvincent_129 (4994)
• Philippines
10 Nov 12
Well, maybe she is not yet interested in those kinds of things. She doesn't get like to get into relationships. Does she hangout a lot? Or is she the type that stays home most of the time?
Well, you can ask her out after work for dinner maybe. Maybe she will say yes.@Jeffery_superman (179)
• China
9 Nov 12
Texting everyday?? I just ask her to hang out but she just want to stay home for the whole weekend for a break!!
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
Do you feel you are attracted to her or just think that you are attracted to her? Those two are different. If a person lets you feel that she is someone that you really need in your life, then telling what is exactly on your heart and mind would not be difficult. You should be able to say what ever the first thing you have in mind without having to delete or edit whatever it is.
You might just be wanting to be attracted to her and not really have the genuine attraction towards the person. Think about it well.
@vt689586 (584)
• India
11 Nov 12
Dress to impress.Not only will you look and smell more attractive, taking care of your grooming shows her that you're mature and capable of important daily tasks.
Be polite.Being well-mannered doesn't mean you're boring — it means you know how to treat other people with respect, a quality most girls want in their boyfriends. Show her you know how to be considerate by doing these things for everyone, not just her.
Spend time on self-improvement. Dedicate the hours you would otherwise spend with her (or thinking about her) to feeling better about yourself. You'll be a new and improved guy with better self-confidence, whether or not she's interested in that at the end of the day. Remember that you're not doing it for her right now you're doing it for you, so that you feel like the best version of yourself.
Don't offer your time so freely Instead of being constantly available for her whenever she wants, make her work a little for your attention.
@lizlee (208)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
Hi! Seems you really like the girl huh? Best advice? Just be yourself, be grounded, make her laugh, simple jokes can really make a girl talk to you even more. :)
But you mentioned that you lost contact with her, why not try to ask around for her number or facebook account. I'm sure she'll respond to you when you just say hi and tell her how's everything going for her.
Relax, I'm sure when you two get to communicate again, you'll be more at ease and be able to show your true self to her. Just be simple, girls like that. :)
@Jeffery_superman (179)
• China
9 Nov 12
For the temporory lost-contact, because i failed in the college entrance test, entering an inferior college. So i lost confidence at that time. I am just the guy one want to show his brightness to the outsiders while hiding my shortbacks.
But now, since my enduring hard work, i have acheived a very good ofer. Now i have the ability to bing someone well-being. But now i am so confused that wether she will accept me or not!!
@lizlee (208)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
Well, probably she will accept you if you'll just be yourself. I know you have a good job with a great pay but don't try to flaunt it at her. She will be intimidated and that would probably be a reason for her not accepting you. Just keep it simple, it always works :)
@olivetree27 (495)
• Greece
9 Nov 12
Just be yourself and always remind her of your high school times together. We girls don't usually forget our experiences and we love it if guys can remember them too. It makes us feel that nothing changes despite of not seeing each other for many years. It will make her comfortable with you and another important thing is to have a good sense of humor. Girls love guys who can make them laugh. But make sure not to annoy her. And don't worry, you guys have greater advantage than girls when it comes to professing your attraction as girls can be labeled as desperate whenever we say to a guy that we like them. Good luck and believe in yourself.
@rog0322 (2829)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
9 Nov 12
Hi Olive,
Nice insights from a woman there, we do have our advantage for being the initiator and there's no finer way to start something than with a laugh or two. Right, all we had to do is to be our very natural self, I attracted my wife that way.
