do you find it hard to talk to people

I am the same as you have mentioned. I also don't know why I am this way, but I am like this. My parents and my bro know about this and they understand me well so I actually have no problem with others judging me or misundersatnding me. When I am angry, I do speak to people peacefully from outside, but then, I am not at peace from within myself. I can cover up the anger behind my smile!

Have you evaluated why you are that way my friend? Perhaps you have an underlying problem that makes you always feel irritable? Everyday of my life, upon waking up and thanking God for giving me another day, i also ask God to help me make my day a nice day and to give me Christlike attitude. And on my part , i help myself by having a happy outlook of life, thus helps me to be in control of my temper.

I used to be really shy and it caused me a lot of problems just because other people assumed I was being snooty or stuck up. Really, I just didn't know what to say a lot of the times or I didn't have anything to say. I didn't smile and when I was younger no one told me that my smiles looked sad and pathetic and not like smiles at all, so everyone thought I was really scowling. I don't smile in the morning, I don't talk to anyone until I've been up for at least a half an hour or an hour. I have to have my coffee in the mornings and then from there I am usually okay. I can't even drive as soon as I wake up, it's too hard to concentrate. I had to take my son to school this morning, we woke up late. One of the teachers walking in waved and smiled at me and all I could do was raise up my cup and nod. No smile. No saying 'Hi' to her, I just don't have it in me in the mornings to be bright and cheery.

If I find it hard to talk to people, it is because I cannot find any interest in those that are not nice and kind or friendly to me. If I feel it hard to talk to them, I don't talk, but a Hello. I think that it is good enough for me to show my politeness. Thanks for the discussion.

I am also like me having same kind of attitude but pure at heart. HOWEVER,many people have not understood the inner mind and want formalities. WHAT to say about these people

i think this due to our natures,when i feel sad and angry ,i will chose to be silent.but i found that if i get along with people all the time ,the i can easy to talk to them,because they know me and i know them.

The similar problems to mine...I find it hard to talk to people mainly because I cannot find the appropriate topic to discussion. In my heart, I want to communicate with other people, but when doing it, my brain is blank suddenly and make my best to review what could be talked about. Usually it's failed, which make other people think I'm hard to be close or friendly. Maybe it's about my shy character inside. When I am angry, I cannot control my temper, and these things generally happen between my boss and me, which make me be in the bad working situation. But I continue to change my temper and learn to control it. Now it's a little bit better and I'm glad to realize it.

Sometimes I also find myself having a hard time to talk to people mostly because of my shy nature. I am not that outgoing enough to be at ease when talking to people I just met or barely know. I guess it's just my introvert nature at play. I do however can speak a couple of civil sentences but I am not really someone who can strike up an instant conversation with just about anyone. My husband says I just need a bit polishing of my people skills.