Why Can't I Stop Reliving a Recent Confrontation? 'What I Should've-Said' ...
@mythociate (21432)
Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
November 10, 2012 6:50am CST
Even while I'm sitting here, writing responses to fellow myLotters; I'll suddenly 'respond' (talk to a past disagreement with someone in my memory) with a clever retort that I should've levied: telling that security-officer, 'I know, I own this "private property!"'; telling some Bible-beating Jesus-freak, "Jesus was a Muslim. 'Submitting to the Will of G-d?' That is THE LITERAL MEANING of the word "Islam"'; asking some church-leader, 'If it's G-d's Will that a man should not be alone, WHY HASN'T MY WOMAN FOUND ME?'; etc.
Can't I just forget about those past/possible-future arguments? How?
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
10 Nov 12
I think it is because you are a sensitive man. All I can suggest is to try to forget it. I know it will be hard but try.
Your mate and you will find each other. But unless she is a traveling salesperson , you won't meet if you are stuck in the house! Go get out and do something you like to do!
@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
2 Dec 12
I do, but somehow they're not conducive to 'getting me a wife'!
That was one of the MAIN reasons I kept on 'going to church' when I became "different"---because I thought--of ALL places--that would be the place that would WANT to see me married; but no! 'Giving ME a fulfilling, satisfying, peaceful life' is usually the LAST thing on anyone's mind.
I've had better luck (scored with a few beautiful ladies) at the neighborhood Karaoke-bar! (But that crowd is obviously not as family-focused as future-spouses ought to be.)
I guess that's how I should "change" to 'prove' that I'm ready for marriage---not so much 'change' as 'shift focus' ... focusing more on 'serving my place in the family' than on 'whatever I was focusing on before ("having fun," I think).'
That includes changes in 'what I usually do (myLot ... maybe making more 'family man'-discussions)' AND in 'children's story at my Church-Fellowship' (where I might need to be more like 'a father giving his children advice' than like 'a fun uncle telling his nieces & nephews how scary the world is').
Sound good?
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
4 Dec 12
I think you can do whatever you want to do. As for being kid friendly? I have no idea how to do that.
@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
4 Dec 12
That's not it. Well ... I CAN do whatever I want to do, but only with the trust of the right people.
That's it; I want to be President of the United States, but I want that office changed into a "phantom" office---i.e. one with no definite location, and people won't even recognize me as President ... public-addresses will be given in a 'Big Brother'-way (as in George Orwell's 1984).
Laws are more like 'guidelines,' to be enforced by the organized parties. And safety will be insured by 1) near-hypnotic media-stuffing with the Two Principles of Jesus--Love G*d Above All & Love Your Neighbor as Part of Yourself--& 2) the organized parties' policing the misguided souls who evade being indoctrinated by the Two Principles.
That's the plan, and it doesn't even matter if I'M the President who uses it!
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
10 Nov 12
hehe i think it is but normal. sometimes we talk and immediately react to a conversation only to realize we shouldn't have said something, or that we should have said different things. i think i have had my shares of such a moment as well and sometimes it frustrates me, or worries me too that it could get me in trouble. hehe
@mzz663 (2772)
• United States
11 Nov 12
I think it bothers you because you might be disappointed in the way you handled things. I used to worry about things I could have or would have said in certain situations but then I learned that 'hind sight is 20/20' and in a similar situation, you will know exactly what to say and do.
I wouldn't worry so much about past confrontations, sometimes the people you think about in your past, really don't matter as much as the ones in your future.
