To move in with family?? Or not???

Of course everyone makes his/her own decision but i defenitely never would move in with releatives. They might influence your children, maybe in a way you don't agree with. Also they will interfere with what you do and how you do it. I see frictions on the path. Maybe i'm too pessimistic but i wouldn't give it even a second thought. And when things go wrong, guess who will get the blame???

Moving in with the family is a big help most especially if you are saving up to have your own place in the future. But also, be aware that even though how close you are to your mother in law, there would still be clashes of ideas over a lot of things. So, be prepared for it. And maybe, as early as now, you talk to your husband and tell him up to what extent can his mother interfere with your own lives.

That's a good idea to save from renting a house and later you can buy your own than renting for a long time. Since you and your mother in law get along well, maybe then you will come to get close with your father in law. Maybe your father in law doesn't like the idea at this moment, but once he play with his grandkids- I am sure everything will be fine.

It is indeed a great idea to move in with the family to save those rental money and specially when you have 2 young boys with you. It is hard to manage and you can't waste money just like that. It is the best thing to do now! Go ahead with your decision and enjoy with your family. AS it is life with the family is always a great way to live life!

Thanks a ton sharing this discussion. Well i can understand your situation but i think there is no one bigger and greater than one's own family. They have taken so much pain just to give u a beautiful life and now its your duty to give them a beautiful life. Can u imagine life without parents in your life? Your mother in law came in the second half of your life and she hardly knows anything about u. Support your parents always no matter even if their decisions are harsh for u. Do not move anywhere and stay with your family. What say?

Since you are getting along well with your mother in law, then why you worry about it? What to worry about? Of course, we do not want to leave our own family and family members, they are the most intimate persons to us, but we have to leave one day! The two young boys running around, are they your children? Haha, you might be tired with them because they are full of energy! But I do think living together with mother in law is not good idea, even you are getting along well. Because we need privacy, and some trivial daily things may affect your current good relationship. You can live near each other, but not together, day and night! If you have better choice, do not do it!

Sometimes as much as you love someone it is hard to live with them. With two young boys and all the energy they bring, sometimes it takes a toll on everyone in the house. I think if this works out good for you, that is great! But just remember to take yourself and the boys out to visit other friends or family once in a while to give the in laws a break!

Well, it is your decision...I just have to advice you to stay close and be nice and friendly with your mother in law, so that you will not face any problems later...as you know, few in laws relationships lasts....and some turns out to be a great problem dealing with their in laws...

Whatever it is that will be for the better of the family, then choose that. You said that you want to save money and need help with your boys and you think your mother-in-law can do give you that, then I suggest that you move in with her. Getting adjusted to in-laws may be a little hard but it can be done.

My son and his wife and son moved in with us a couple years ago. It seemed like a good idea at the time, but that soon changed. We just hove different ideas about how things should be done. Not that those differences were either right or wrong...they were just different. We disagreed about food, child care, household chores, finalcial responsibility, and lots of other things. I asked them to pay anything over the amount we had been paying for utilities, and they didn't think that was fair. I asked them to buy groceries more than once a month, and they didn't like that. I got tired of hearing them yelling at my grandson all the time and that made them mad, too. He got mad if my radio at night was too loud and he couldn't hear his TV. Neither of them helped with the household chores, leaving it all up to my husband, since I am disabled. He never even cut the grass, and he wasn't even working. She was working, but refused to do anything on her days off, because she was off. My husband cooked all the meals, with few exceptions. We put up with it for a year, then asked them to leave. I could go on, but I think you get the idea. Be very sure you can handle all the little things that can quickly become massive in that situation. You have to remember that it is their home, and, as they say, "when in Rome, do as the Romans do". Are you ready to go by their lifestyle and give up a ton of privacy? Think about it.

I would personally not want to move in with family. I think a family has to get along really well for that to work. We recently had to live with family for a total of one month before we could get into our new place and let's just say it wasn't the greatest time. Especially if you have kids,pets, etc. Everyone is usually happy to say that you are more than welcome but come moving time everyone's little pet peeves gets under everybody's skin. I hope that things will work out for you guys. But I would suggest getting your own place if at all possible. Everyone likes their privacy.

Don't you know the old saying about mothers-in-law? Stay as far away as you can. You do not mention a husband so I am assuming you are apart. I am glad to read that you get on with your mother-in-law but be careful. Familiarity breeds contempt. Have fun, help one another, but don't forget the hierarchy in marriage. Even though you are going to live in the same house, give each other space. Go out together but also on your own. Too many people living together can become claustrophobic over time. Never lose sight of what you are to one another; mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Don't overstep any boundaries.

You have to do the best thing for you and your family. If moving in there saves you money, and you are happy do it. The little things will fall into place. Good luck to you. You better get packing for the move.

I say go for it especially because you and your mother in law get along well. She will love being around the kids and so will the kids. I think it is a great idea.

Hi Hrozean, First of all, why in the world does your father care about this and how does it affect him? Personally, I would do anything in the world NOT to move in with family but that is just me. I would not feel right in saving money at someone else's expense and it almost always an expense to the other person. My daughter and my little grandson moved in with me a few months ago for the same reasons. I love them both dearly and would do anything to help. They are in a bad spot and so of course, I would not have it any other way but honestly...it's not the easiest situation. It really isn't easy and I think you will see that once you move in with her.

If you get along as well as you say you do than maybe its a good idea to save some money. Me personally, I would NEVER want to live with family ever again! I have had too many bad experiences with that. That is just me and my family though, they have issues Lol.

You must attached yourself to your mother in law so that the both of you will not so hard in dealing with each other. You should be more patient with her. I know it is not that easy for I also noticed that between my mother and my grandmother. At first, they do not like each other.But then, as years passed by, they became good friends and my mother treated my grandmother as her mother also.

If its what is best for your family then I'd say go for it. Besides you and your mother in law get along so well and are excited about this arrangement. Times are though now many people are living together that otherwise wouldn't anyways. Also you would be getting the extra help that you need with your two boys from someone who is delighted to be involved.

It's not a bad idea to live in with family.But what you should consider is the relation with you mother in law.