my long distance relationship

Each relationship has it's ups and downs. It's not said that a long distance relationship is easier or more problematic as a relationship nearby or when you live together. Living together can be very annoying also and cause a lot of stress. Especially if you always have to be there for your partner, or your partner is way more interested in his/her hobbies, family, job, etc. If you start a relationship it's good to talk about what you both expect from it. What the ups and downs may be and how to handle them. People are different, so are their needs if it comes to a relationship. Since you say you still have obligations to your family I don't think in your case a relationship nearby would change anything. You would not have the time for real to just invest in your partner the way your partner would like or want.

I once have a long distance affair. I may say that it's worth my time and effort. My partner and I contributed something, our fair share, just to make things work. But I believe, our efforts were not enough. Though we are separated now, we remain as friends, I learned my lesson, that is no matter what we have either a long distance or not, as long as we work for it, the trust and the open communication, relationships will run smoothly. Though I believe things will not be easy at times. Thanks

In my opinion,long distance relationships are hard to cope up with.Me and my ex-girlfriends were separated by just 300 miles and our relationship did not work our.I was too much into her and kept my promise.But she went on with other guys and huge story happened and yet I was able to hold on for 3 painful years,after which she finally ditched me and went on with a guy whom she found through facebook. Both the partners must have a high degree of commitment to keep this going.

i know its hard to be in long distance relationship. i been there,but only work for a 3 month. he just cannot i stay far from his,even that time i just went to study, i still will come back but he just cannot wait for that day.

I wish you all luck my friend. May you be happy in your relationship

Long distance relationship needs a great wall of trust, a strong foundation of love and ocean-wide of understanding. I had it done before but it did not work because the great wall of trust was shaken and broken and totally collapsed. The strong foundation of love started to weaken by the miles away of distance between each other and ocean-wide of understanding begun to dry up. Though I convinced myself .. maybe we were not meant for each other and it's good thing to find out at early stage of the relationship. Life has to move on and go on. Just give yourself and your partner a chance. A long heart to heart talk about your present priorities may help, why not try it.

Hi, Yes, it should involve a lot of commitment on both parties. Strangely enough, couples who maintain long distance relationship are more prone to temptations yet, are able to stick to their chosen long distance partner. Those who live together often are the first to break apart, strange really.

It is very hard to maintain a long distance relationship. can i ask you how long has it been and have you met anytime before? I would say you have to either be with family or her because both is like looked impossible in your situation. if you are not ready then tell her and do not play with her feelings by choosing your family and still keeping her who is so far.. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead..

Could be really hard most of the time. The resolve to make the relationship work is what motivates me and so far for our 11 years of marriage, if I will sum up his stay with us, more or less we stayed together for 3 years. Well, we're still married, but sometimes we don't see eye to eye with each other especially over the decision making. The toll is always on me since I'm left with our kids. Admittedly though, sometimes this kind of a relationship is hard..I feel as though we're growing far apart from each other. Our goals are getting out of sorts and there is that unspoken differences that's building on between us but I am striving so hard to keep our family intact. I am thinking that it's not really the physical presence that matters, but the future of our kids cause that's why he's in a foreign land working to make ends meet.

Of course you have your priorities but if your girlfriend understands these, and she's also willing to make your LDR work, you'll go a long way if you give it enough time and effort. :) Over time you'll have a stronger relationship!

Hi kaeirole! How are you? I have been into 3 failed long distance relationships. But don't be discouraged. I'm currently into an LDR again. At this time, I think this will last and lead into building my own family. The age does not matter but the love does. There will be a lot of sacrifices to make it work and efforts. That should be on both parties. My past long distant love did not work because there are a lot of factors we weren't able to consider. Most LDR that started online and did not tried to meet up in person after a year has a higher probability of being on the red flag. Most lovers who had established a strong bond living in the same country or place before LDR will have the higher chances of surviving. If you are both in love and share the same plans in life, you might be able to make it work. It's a case to case basis. Just always keep the communication alive and don't forget that you must respect each others individuality too. Don't stress yourself too much about being far away from one another. Have fun and pray. Establish trust.

Long distance relationship can be easy or hard depending on the couple. But in your situation it's hard cause you still have obligations on your family. On the women's part she should understand the situation. Commitment, faith and understanding are the recipes for a good and lasting relationship. Both of you should have them so even though you are away from each other both of you can still feel the love.

as long as you love and trust each other and of course commitment there will no be problem in a long distance relationship.. i have friend who has the same situation with you and there`s seem to be no problem.. they understand that they need to invest for their future so they have to sacrifice for now... ^_^

hi some relationship work others not, in long distance relationship interaction over the phone can become dull in the long run. People in short-distance relationships do not spend the majority of their time talking, but rather doing things with each other.

Long distance relationships are very hard to maintain. I have noticed they tend to work better for older people, more mature people, than younger ones. My other half and I spend, on average, six months of each year together, sometimes more, sometimes less. As we have the same basic ideas on life, love, loyalty, trust and respect, it works for us-- though the first few weeks together, and the last few weeks, can be awkward. Since we tend to agree on most issues, we haven't grown apart. My son and his last girlfriend were a long time couple, but their long term relationship ended fairly quickly, because they are both college age, and had different values and interests to begin with. When they were together, their differences made their relationship interesting and rewarding for both. When she went away to college, however, those same differences caused them to finally break up. That's what often happens in these cases--sadly.

Hello kaeirole, this is something you two should talk about because it's only the two of you how this will work. there's skype were you can call for free, email when you can send message,quotes of love and finally, messenger chats. it's not just talk and tells how are you two are doing but also involve talking about other interest and flirting toohave a nice day

Long distance relationships really aren't that easy. I've been with my boyfriend two and a half years and back in May he left for the army. Since then I've seen him twice and a month ago he was sent to Korea where he'll be stationed for a year. It's going to be 6 more months until I see him again and being without him is sad. There are some days where I do pretty well but then I have days where I just can't help but be sad. Luckily, we skype and message each other every day but it's just not the same as physically being with him. WE won't be together at all for the holidays or his birthday next week and I keep getting bummed about it. I think things are a little easier because we've been together and had a close distance relationship before he left. Since we love each other so much we know that it's worth it to stay together.