He got a new job, and both of us needs to make adjustments
By jureathome
@jureathome (5361)
Philippines
November 12, 2012 9:56am CST
Everytime, my husband gets a new role or promotion at his previous company, he knows that it's really going to eat up his time and passion, so he warns me ahead about it so i wouldn't feel bad about him getting too busy with work. Now, he moved to another company, which is actually the company I used to work for. Another adjustment period is necessary, but not only for him, but for both of us.
During his first month, he comes home late. Since they work on night shift, that means, he gets home near lunch time, instead of breakfast. When he arrives, he'd eat and sleep. So, most of the time we don't get to talk much. And, if we do get the chance to sit together, he would talk about work, endlessly. Good thing, that I also enjoy some of the topics, because I can relate. But, it would get to the point, that I'd feel really frustrated and tired of listening to him.
I'm glad that I've learned to adjust to his new routine, and he assures me that it won't be for too long. Actually, its the start of the 2nd month at work, and he is starting to minimize overtimes and the discussions about the job.
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5 responses
@mzz663 (2772)
• United States
12 Nov 12
Sounds like he is just wound up when he gets home and needs a way to unwind. He probably talks about work because he knows you can understand. I would think there were other things you would want to talk about with him besides work. Let him know that you want to talk about your kids or your future or just sit and tell jokes to each other to make each other laugh.
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@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
12 Nov 12
He also has an annoying way of making me get more involved and excited about his discussions, by asking for my suggestions or feedback. And, I would always know that he was just trying to manipulate my emotions about it. Well, I'm just trying to understand him and cut him some slack, since we really need for him to do well at work, so he could bring in more, financially. I just have to support him.
But, yes, there are times, when I would really snap him out of his world, and plead to change the topic to the kids and the family and our plans for the weekend or the holidays. And, he would apologize and gladly talk about family matters, too.
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
13 Nov 12
I have the same problem actually at present. But it is not with my husband's job but with mine. I am assigned in a distant place but since I would like to be with my family everyday, I try to go home on a daily basis even if I would be spending that much on my fare. But the problem is, when I got home, I feel so exhausted already so I cannot even devote more time for my family.
But I just hope that they would understand me having this situation.
Have a nice day!
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
I'm sure they would understand. You've done your part. Even if you don't get to spend much time with them, awake, their presence around you, and your presence in the house, sure makes a big difference. I commend you on your effort to be with your family everday.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
Thanks, budgetting is one of the fun tasks. But if things get tough, it could also get crazy.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
12 Nov 12
hi,
yes we need to make adjustments,especially when both are working or if one is very busy with the work. Its so good to know that he already told you about the timings and adjustments you have to make. Hope every thing goes well and his timings will be back to normal.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
I do hope so. And, right now, I'm glad that he has started to minimize overtime and talking a lot about work. He is slowly coming back to normal pace.
