Too much in love.
By chicgale
@chicgale (2982)
Philippines
November 12, 2012 5:13pm CST
I know some of you here in myLot knew that my live in partner for 7 years and I broke up 4 months ago. And sadly, we can't go back together again coz he is back now in his country and found another girl. I found a man also which is my grade school classmate and I am inlove with him. They said that it is too early for me to fall in love again, but I didn't expect that I really fall deeply in love with him. I know it is not right to give 100% love on this person since I just got heart broken, but I did! Do you think it is bad? The problem is, he will leave me soon since he is working overseas as a seaman, and I am crying everyday coz this is the first time or first relationship I have to have a long distance relationship. I know that I love him but I am not sure if he is really committed to me. He said that he love me, but I have to be strong. He told me that he won't leave me, but he will not just promise. I got hurt by that. What do you think he meant by that? (HE WON'T LEAVE ME, BUT HE WILL NOT PROMISE). He told me before that we will not promise to our relationship but we will just do it to make it strong. Coz based on his experience, he had two ex girlfriends and the first one lasted 8 years, and the 2nd one lasted for a year and a half, and they had lots of promises but it failed. Do you think when he told me that he won't leave me but he will not just promise is not bad? Please, I want to know your opinion. Thank you in advance.
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4 responses
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
12 Nov 12
It's hard to give an opinion about a person I don't know that well. But based on what you've written, the fact that he can't promise already is some sign that his commitment isn't that strong. I'm a guy, and I've had my share of this when I was younger. It's a lame excuse to sort of save our b*tts when the time comes that we need to break out of the relationship.
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
12 Nov 12
Yeah, I think you are right. I am trying to make him committed to me. But, if I'll get tired, I will just let him go. You see, when out relationship started, he was still with his 2nd girlfriend (ex) and I was the reason why they broke up because he chose me.
@JonGilbert (111)
• Philippines
16 Nov 12
No body can tell you what to do or what to feel in terms of love, but you can always ask for suggestions on which move should you take before making such actions. being in love is the best feeling a person can have, the emotion deep within is overwhelming but all i can say is that Long Distance Relationship never works.. so.. even though it hurts, you have to be prepared. You'll never know..
@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
20 Nov 12
Yes, you are right about it. We discussed about it already. Since he is not sure, well, he is still too immature and he admitted that he likes women. So, I told him that once he will leave the country, I will just think that our relationship is over. He can do anything he wants, and I can do anything I want. But we can still communicate each other, but we wont hope and promise that we will be together forever. So, if he comes back and we are both single, and if we still have feelings, I think that should be the right time that we are really meant to be. It hurts but I am just facing the reality.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
Maybe he does love you. But after all the failed relationships that he had, he is sort of scared of being too involved and give all his love coz he might get heartbroken again. It is how I see it. So that being said, I suggest that you just take it slow and do not out too much emotions on the relationship. He is having doubts, but not on you, but to himself. Just take one day at a time and see how it goes.
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@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
12 Nov 12
Love can be found anywhere and any place. You never know. Im glad you have moved on with your life. Take care... have a great week there.
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