Girls or Boys ,is that really important ?
By Mintlin
@Mintlin (322)
China
November 13, 2012 1:02am CST
Greetings for all my lotters.
My best friend just have a girl baby last week.this is her second one,she already had a girl two years ago.she is very sad because she had two girls.Her hunsband was on a business trip ,when he got that it's a baby girl,he did not talk anything.a week has past yet her hunsband did not come back to see my friend and his baby,
the secretary said he only have 4days business trip.Seee...
same happened to my friend's parents in law,they have always want to have a boy grandchild ,they are very disappointment with this ,what is unbelievable is they asked their son (my friend's husband) to divorce with my friend and married with another woman so that they could have a boy..
This happened a lot of time for my friends,i'm just wondering,is that really important to have a boy,in my opinion,i donot care the gender as long as they are my children.
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15 responses
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
Are they by any chance Chinese? If so, then it is really what the Chinese always wanted, most especially the first born child has to be a boy. But what can you do about it if God gave you a girl? Throw the baby girl out then make another baby and pray hard that this time it will be a boy?
Regardless of gender, as long the wife and baby comes out healthy, then nothing else matters.
@Mintlin (322)
• China
13 Nov 12
Hi Jenny1015,thank you for your respond.as the matter of fact,for them boy is absolutely important. five years ago,my uncle has a baby girl,she's the second child in the family also. guess what my uncle does ? he just exchanged that girl with other couple(that couple have 3 boys and one girl),moreover,besides change the child,he also gave that couple $500( my uncle thinks girl is cheap than boy)
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
@Mintlin -- What? Really?
What kind of parents are they to just exchange their own flesh and blood with another couple's child?!
I couldn't imagine such horror that the daughter will go through once she knows that he was given to another family just because her own parents wanted a son.
What kind of parents are they to just exchange their own flesh and blood with another couple's child?! I couldn't imagine such horror that the daughter will go through once she knows that he was given to another family just because her own parents wanted a son.
@vanz_6 (100)
• Philippines
8 Dec 12
for me, it's not really important if it's a boy or a girl, what's important is the baby is healthy and normal. and the mom is healthy too after delivery. when i got pregnant last year, a lot had asked me what i want for a baby, boy or girl. i always have told them that i have no preference, i just want a healthy and normal baby, it's all that matters. i will love the baby whatever the gender is. my husband said the same thing, too. oh, by the way, my baby is 14months old now and it's a boy! :-)
@ellyse2003 (1463)
• Philippines
14 Nov 12
Before we got married, my husband told me that he wants a child, I asked him what he wants. He told me, it's ok if it's a girl or a boy as long as it's a gift from God. He doesn't asks me to have a baby boy or a girl.
@youless (112586)
• Guangzhou, China
13 Nov 12
I am sorry to hear that. Of course it doesn't matter whether the baby is a boy or girl. As long as the baby is healthy and adorable, it is good enough. Each gender has his/her own advantages. And if your friend's husband really likes to have a son so much. They still have a chance in the future. They can have the third child. I don't understand why he blamed to his wife because she has daughters. After all, the baby gender depends on the father rather than mother. He is just a stupid man.
@blogandme (379)
• Indonesia
14 Nov 12
oh God.. May be her husband want a son cause he want future of his family(his father). But, if she was born daugther twice, it is not her mistake, its a plan of God for His human.. Her husband must change his mind
@olivetree27 (495)
• Greece
13 Nov 12
It happens when the family is rich as they need someone to carry on the family name. Men should not really blame their wives for having a baby girl as the gender of the baby depends on them according to science. For me, I'm happy regardless of what gender my children will be. I would love to have one boy and one girl but if i can't have both, then it's okay with me as long as they're healthy.
@berting600 (3453)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
I will always thank God that I have a new born baby whether it was a boy or a girl
it does not matter to me,as long as it comes from me.To conceive a baby is never given to all people who are planning to have children to raise.Some even have to adopt children just to have a child they could call their own.It is already a grace from God that they have a baby to take good care of after nine months of it could become a child.Many people believed that having a baby boy could bring back the surname of the family,so that tradition of family luck could flourish to another generation.A baby girl when grown up could marry and lost the family surname they were taking good care of never by seen again because the surname of the husband was already used by the girl,they call their daughter.That is why other girls do not tend to marry just to save their surname.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
16 Nov 12
The sad thing is that it is the father's sperm that determines whether the baby is a male or female. Some men can only produce female children. Some are just more likely to father one or the other. My grandfather sired 10 children. Two of them were boys, but 8 of them were girls.
@rog0322 (2829)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
13 Nov 12
Hi,
I have no idea how important gender can be, maybe it is an innate desire to have a boy, the symbol of strength and good luck. Some culture favors a boy, mostly from patriarchal societies like the Jews and Spartans, warriors they want to further their cause. The sentiments must have been a carryover from that distant past that doesn't go away even in our present culture.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
13 Nov 12
It's horrible. People should be glad to have kids. Stupid social expectations and chauvinism makes parents so degrade baby girls, and it's sad. I mean, there are couples who struggle with having a baby and would give their arm for a kid... then these parents throw a hissy fit because they don't have a boy? Especially the men, as it is him who is more responsible for the baby's gender, and he would have known that if he attended biology classes...
@ungu89 (1999)
• Malaysia
19 Nov 12
agreed with u doroffe, if they concentrate in biology class, they will know that even they get child girl or boy its because of the.
wife XX
husband XY
possible child XX or XY
each one donate one.
i remember this when my teacher said, u boy when u get married and u got a girl not a boy, blame yourself not your wife. your are the one that responsible to give which one of your chromosome.
this if they want explanation by science.
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
16 Nov 12
Culture differences really make up the decision on which really suits when you are having a baby, some cultures would prefer Boys because they are more patriarchal in society and has this notion that they are providers, while others prefer Girls because they are more or a giver... But this varies from cultures to cultures.
But for me, since we are living in the new era, and the right to live is really a human issue and had been proven to be ruled. There is no doubt whether you raised a girl or a boy, the important is that you raise a child and every child deserves to live.
@habibti320 (925)
• United States
13 Nov 12
My friends in Pakistan were also disappointed when they found out they were having a girl. The husband actually wants a daughter, but they are afraid because their society is harsh on girls and they want to make sure she will be protected.
In the case of your friend's husband and in-laws, I do not agree. They should rejoice at a new member of their family.
And maybe her husband should be blamed...his Y chromosomes are not strong enough to come through! ;)
@nguyenloan (184)
• Vietnam
13 Nov 12
This exist in some country in Asia. More people think the boys will take care of their when they old. This is usually happen in the past.
@qw86289as (39)
• China
13 Nov 12
Although say the life boy student daughter,but the wants his wife to give birth to a boy birth to a boy,I think most men just like that.
