Why do we always hurt the one we love?
By grace147
@grace147 (223)
Philippines
November 13, 2012 1:07am CST
I have a close friend and she shared to me her marital concerns with her husband. She thinks that her husband is having an affair. Thou not yet confirmed and irregardless of the root cause of their problem - my question is - why do we always hurt the one we love? is it because we are too confident knowing that she love him more that he loves her? or we hurt the one we love because we are assured that because they love us it follows that they will understand us? what if love runs out or emptied or get numb? why we always waste love and why it is so easy for others to let go a person who truly give unconditional love?
6 responses
@nguyenloan (184)
• Vietnam
13 Nov 12
Love is difficult to understand. When we love someone, we want close to their. But we hurt their. I think because we want to make their miss us.
@passion4fassion (996)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
in love or relation not al the time it lead to successful relationship. but if we really love someone we do our best not to hurt then because hurting someone we love it hurt as more
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
I have also asked myself the same question. And for the longest time, I had the answer. Guys tend to hurt their partners (either intentionally or unintentionally) and always thinks that they will be understood. Husbands become complacent. They have become so at ease with the relationship that they think that whatever happens, the wives are there waiting for them to be understood and forgiven. But of course, a wife can only take so much....
@ofzhernandez (278)
• Philippines
14 Nov 12
I think it is all because of we are too afraid to give our 100% love to our partner. So we just find our selves hurting the one we love instead of loving him/her unconditionally. There are times that we don't intentionally hurt them but we just don't want us hurt by them. We are afraid that we've been hurt again unexpected.
But that was love, if you really love each other you will have lots of space for giving him the chance to realize what he did to you for hurting you. But if he doesn't love you he will never had the time to ponder on things that makes him hurt you so tendencies he always do the same thing over and over again. Love really is full of mystery. ^_^
@Bluebell18 (636)
• United States
14 Nov 12
I'm asking myself that question, too, Grace. It's easier to fight with your significant other when the both of you are vulnerable and hurt; it's easy to take your frustrations out on the other party because of how much we're hurting inside. It's an ongoing drawn out argument over the phone or in person, it's exhausting and trivial, and in the end, there are no winners, just beaten down adversaries. Love is a delicate and powerful emotion. It makes and breaks us, it tears us apart, in some ways, kills us.
We have to overcome a lot of obstacles to tackle love and no matter what happens. Ask yourself; are you strong enough to stay with the one you love?
