Being a father...
By ofzhernandez
@ofzhernandez (278)
Philippines
November 13, 2012 2:42am CST
Last night was my unforgettable moment about my partner being a first time father to his son. I saw him cried just because he has no money left for buying milk for his son. It really hit me straight to the heart coz I really felt how hurt he is. He arrive home late last night it was just because he search for money to all his co-employee to borrow even for only 200 pesos just to survive for the next two days before pay day. But unfortunately non of his co-workers has an extra cash for them to lend to my partner. He said to me he almost cried because he can't search where to borrow. He ask help to one of his friends where he can borrow, it was then that this friend knew someone their neighbor that he can borrow some cash so they go to my partner friend's house and borrow money to his neighbor it was still lucky for my partner that they lend him money in behalf of his friend. While telling that story he is crying because it was so painful that he can't provide the needs of his family that his salary is not enough to make it up until pay day arrive. But I am thankful that God is really good because even if we are striving for a living God always makes a way for us to survive the day until pay day arrive.
Thanks be to God! I am also proud of my partner because he never cease to provide us what is needed for us to live.
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7 responses
@aejey322 (1004)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
It was touching... But really God is good. God is really a provider. I have been there. Well same thing, the money we needed was for the milk and diaper. But it was not as urgent as your partner experienced. I was worried about the next month's budget. The good thing was, my aunt sent me a text message that she's going to pay partially for the lot that she assumed from me. It was really an answer to my prayer.
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@ofzhernandez (278)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
Indeed God gave us what we need and provide us instrument to help us through any problem that we encounter. God uses instrument like your aunt to answer what your heart prays for. And as for us, God use the neighbor of my partners friend for us to survive the next two days before pay day came.
Thanks for the comment aejey ^_^
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@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
13 Nov 12
Let's hope your partner but also you learned from that. Not only that if you have a child you have responsibilities and should save money to at least buy food for your kid. But also that those who did help out were not your friends but a stranger! I hope you and your partner will do something back to a stranger in need as well!
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@shaggin (72131)
• United States
13 Nov 12
Aww this is so sad. I am so sorry your family has to struggle so badly for money. I have never had to go through that. I feel so bad for your husband out looking for people to borrow money from to buy his son milk. Hopefully pay day is soon. Be very active on here and hopefully you can earn some money to help your husband out. Mylot is a great place. I would need a therapist if I wasent able to come to mylot and vent lol.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
20 Nov 12
I can relate with this situation.
In our first two years of marriage after having a baby is really the hardest part.
Though my partner also have a good job- but not paying good enough to sustain the high cost of living here in metro city.
We have experienced the ups and downs in our financial stability and it's so hard to see my partner struggling a lot to do his obligation.
You are lucky to have a responsible partner- he is doing his best for his family.
@ofzhernandez (278)
• Philippines
21 Nov 12
Good day jaiho,thanks for the response. Hope we both overcome the struggles that we are up today. This too shall pass. ^_^ This was just some other trial that will make us (husband and wife) hold on and stay together for the good of the children.
Happy Mylotting !
@ofzhernandez (278)
• Philippines
14 Nov 12
I do observe that also, because lots of my neighbor do experience the hard time budgeting their own money. So if money matters here in our neighbor same thing as I am currently experiencing is also what they are complaint. So I seldom borrow here in my neighbor. So our only resort if we had hard time in terms of money are those co-employees of my partner. But still we are lucky that my partner find someone to borrow. I hope things like this will never happen again specially if it will be the need for our baby. ^_^
@Kashidanga1971 (1354)
• Bangladesh
13 Nov 12
That person who lent money to your friend was great. May God do good to him. Actually in times of need, none comes to help. But your friend should have saved some money for his coming baby.He knew that he will need some extra sum of money . That was not sudden. But your friend irresposibly did not keep the requisite money. None should do that.
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@jeztrose (1405)
• Philippines
21 Nov 12
Me and my hubby also often experience that.The salary we receive every payday is not really enough for our needs, specially to our son.But thankfully my mother always helps us in times of this, she is always there to help, though she often scolds me and tell me that i really made the wrong decision on starting a family without any preparations.
I know that this dilemma will just go at the right time since our baby is 8 months old now,by the time he gets one year old i guess the expenses for him will decrease somehow.
