Are you a good listener or a better talker....

I don't have the 'aura' that you are talking about... People are just not attracted to open up to me or me to them... If anything, I've been told that I have a selfish aura... So, more appropriate word to describe me is probably a loner. I don't mind being a good listener if anyone would like me to. But I don't always have anything to say as I am definitely not a talker. Hence only few people can really talk to me, usually are those who are really closed to me.

I am not orator. But I am a good listener. People come to me and talk about their problems. I am always lending them a good pair of ears.

Exactly, is nice to know a good ear is needed out there. That some actually look to you to hear their voices and able to say whatever is in their heart, mind and soul. Yes, I am also a listener and have been most of my life. I can't remember when I didn't listen. Then there are times I am also a talker. I hear all they need to talk about, but as some talk to get input from others. Just to know that they are thinking right, or they are making a right decision, etc. I am honest with my voice in what I say. Most what I do is bring out the good and bad of what is being talked about and make the person think about things. Instead of finding someone who agree's they find someone who makes them think for themselves in what they want instead of wanting what others want. Most I listen.. just so others have a place to go to release without Judgement, without worry that the world will find out, etc. I respect each person for who they are.. nothing more, nothing less.. I know what you are sayin.. :)

I would also prefer to listen to someone speak than to talk myself! talking is not my cup of the tea and I get too emotional if I start speaking. So i would rather stay quiet and listen to people who have a lot to speak. i have a friend who just loves to speak and wants someone to listen to her patiently and I am there with her for that. She always tell me that her own sister also gets bored of her talks , but I am the only person who will listen to her that patiently no matter how many times she speaks the same thing again and again.

hmmmm maybe i,m good at listen and talker to someone else he3x

i think im a good listener, but only if someone already know me better, if someone not knowing me yet, they see me that im really annoying sometime. because sometime i can be so cruel in giving words

Hi, You and I are similiar. When someone needs to talk, I am the first to offer a listening ear. I was blessed with a heart for others and am also glad to offer advice in a way which is genuine and nonjudgemental.

I am definitely more of a listener than a speaker... I like hearing what people have to say more than voicing my own opinion. I have been told the same type of things, I have had people tell me that there is something that attracts them to me also but they never tell me why or how.

It's easier for me to write. I don't like to speak in public or be in public. People make me tired. It depends on who is speaking I guess how good I am in listening. I am not willing to listen to anyone since people talk a lot of nonsense. For those who need me I am a good listener, a great friend and I do what I can to help him/her but I won't offer it over and over and over again.

I think I'm good at both, but I only feel comfortable talking to people when I know them more. When the topic is interesting, I'm an awesome speaker, and I'm considered funny and well-spoken by most people... otherwise I think I'm a good listener. I'd say I'm better at listening to people. I've always been an observer type, and I like to hear people's thoughts, and I'm constantly analysing them... and that makes it great, as I can reflect on them and give advice, and they truly see that I care and I truly LISTEN, not just hear their words.

i am a great listener. I love giving advice also. I am very opinionated myself.

I am a better listener because I am not that great at talking, in fact I suck unless it is on the computer then I have no problem.

It depends up on the situation to be a good talker or lister. But in my view, generally only good lisen only can be a good talker. If you don't know what the other person wants to say, clearly, how can you give him a good response. Now come to the point, you discuss. In india, there is a saying " Good or Bad, what ever weight we have in our mind will become light, if we pass it to others". That is why so many people want to pass the information they have or feeling they have in mind. But it is not wise to share every thing with the person we know. That is why they feel to share the same with some unknown person, with whome they never met.

I think I'm more of a better talker. Well maybe it's because I choose the people I listen to. I mean, if the person I'm talking to is kinda boring and if I don't find her/him entertaining, I don't listen to him/her. As for my part, I'm talkative. I don't know, I just love to tell stories and facts to people.

On one level, I'm a bit of a loner, who will write rather than talk; yet I'm also a very lively conversationalist: once I get talking, I can talk like no one's business, I'm an entertaining talker, raconteur, converstionalist. Yet I also consider myself to be a good listener. If I'm with my close friend on the phone, I'll let them talk, and I'll listen carefully, and find points of interest to comment on. Much as I like talking, I'm aware that if I overtalk, I run the risk of dampening the joy of the conversation by turning my fellow conversationalist into a sounding board. Also, I like to ask for my friend's opinion on things: a conversation has to be 2-way: they have a story too.

I'm good at neither. I suck I know. But between the two I guess I'm a better listener. I just don't think I'm good at it because I think to be able to be considered a good listener, you should also know when and how to respond.

I think I am a better listener than a talker. Sometimes I become incoherent in my talk but as a listener I could really follow a story that someone is telling. I could mentally note the details of the story and so I am able to respond to the narration quite well.

In high school, I would be often the choice of my friends to talk to if they have problems. They say I make sense and that after talking to me they feel they have been relieved with their stress/problem. But while I could be god at advising, I feel I am at lost when I have problems. Ironic, isn't it? I try my best to listen to those who need somebody to talk to. I feel great knowing that I have helped them in my small way.

not all of the people are good listener. some of us, do talk and do not give a space for someone who want to share a story. i have known some person like so. but for me, i can sense a person who are indeed in need of ears to listen to him or her. i can be both for i am a talkative person and at the same time i learned how to be sensitive when your friend or who else there needs someone to share a moment with them and listen to them. for i can feel and can relate when in times you need others to listen to you as well.

I am a good listener but when people ask for an opinion I do give my own opinion and it is mostly base on what I know was right for the situation. Or if I do experience what was being ask I do my best to give my advice to that person. We both are the same in some way, because there are lots of people being a friend or not easily blurt out their problems to me or their secrets easily. I just don't know why they trust me about not telling their secrets. Maybe you are right that maybe it's the Aura that makes us an instrument of keeping secrets. And I think I have this memory gap that when I perceive messages after perceiving it even a minute I don't really know exactly what was the real story. I easily forgot what we had just talked about. ^_^ lol So their secrets will be left behind lol