he love me but i dont understand why he still plays to others woman online
By bronco826
@bronco826 (40)
Philippines
November 14, 2012 12:01am CST
i am get stress most of the time,starting when i found out how my fiance plays and flirting to some other woman online.we are engaged now,but we live far to each other.our ways of communication is chat on Ym,calls me on phone.5 months we not meet in person,i got stress thinking of it,why my fiance always online everyday on ym after his work even without me.we chat twice a week or once a week on Ym.but i find way to find out what he doing online,last 4 months ago i try to add my fiance in other Ym.he accepted me but he doesn't know if that's me he starting flirting and keep saying he is single and still looking a woman for married he supposed i am the other woman,i get so hurt that time i don't know what to do,i thinking this is what my fiance doing most of the time when he is online.second time,on Facebook he doing the same thing,i add him. he accepted me,i frustrated again he did the same thing,i know is not right to do this to him,but i just only want to know.when i asked him sometime what the point to got online everyday,he said to me i just to have fun and i am so alone here,and i am not chatting to anyone,i am doing nothing" but i know how he did that's make me hurt the most inside my heart,how he lied to me.i know he loves me but i don't have trust to him all the time.and my fiance always had many new girl friends on fb.after 2 months i told him i am the one he chatted before in Ym that he supposed the other woman.he bit mad but he doesn't hold the grudges on me coz he know he is unfair and wrong.but i forgive him,i supposed he will stop doing it but same time he always online like before.
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18 responses
@berting600 (3453)
• Philippines
14 Nov 12
It is better now that you have already detected the abilities of your fiance to play with other girls in any other websites available in the internet.It is up to your own
decision to let him go or give him more time to still trust him or not.You know him more than anyone could imagine,but the decision to put your relationship as what you like it or whatever your decision to stop it all due to all other women already involve to him,yet you have to tell him all about what you have discovered about him,
so that when you two separates for knowing the truth,then you can still open up to other guys.When this happens,your boyfriend would surely find ways to win you back to him,but let us know what he really is doing was just part of his trick to prove you really love him.
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@bronco826 (40)
• Philippines
14 Nov 12
hi berting600
yes its better that i knew and found out how my fiance plays to any woman,honestly is so hurt,i told him before i still trust you and give you chance coz i love you,but honestly right now i dont trust him anymore its hard for me to trust him again,whenever i saw him online,i cant take away the idea again he chatting to anyone even he told me he didn't do it again,my feeling for him for now yes i still love him but if ever our relationship not work out,i am ready now for everything.
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@berting600 (3453)
• Philippines
14 Nov 12
You are now ready for your separation,even if it hurts you it is really important to know the trust for both of you.He must have told you about his doings in the internet was just playing but not really going serious because both of you are already engaged.You are doing fine to your decision to separate with him,at least even if it not suitable,that you have discovered his true color towards your relationship.He is not the right man for you.You can still find him,but I could not say where,and it would just be encountered by you in the near future.
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
14 Nov 12
I know that it could be really be painful to know that your fiance must be flirting with other girls. I think you should talk to him about it and tell him to give you assurance that you he loves you and that he would not do anything that will destroy the trust you have for him.
A similar incident happened to my husband with her ex-girlfriend. He and his friend decided to call her ex girlfriend but his friend would be the one to talk to her. She entertained the call and flirted. When my husband's friend asked the girl if she has a boyfriend and said she does not, my husband turned his back away from that girl. He was devastated.
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@bronco826 (40)
• Philippines
14 Nov 12
@ Jenny1015
yes i talked to him about that,he always said to me one day you will see i am gonna prove it to you,that i only love you not anyone else"he said weather you mad at me but i cant change the fact that i do love you" i know he loves me.and added i seen some changes to him.how he treat me now than before.thanks for the response
Good day!
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@JamesKYTan (1605)
• Malaysia
15 Nov 12
It is your fiancee means both of your are engaged to be marriage. Yet he flirts around with other girls. Speak to him. Give him an ultimatum. Choose you or choose other girls and carry on flirting. Ask him to promise to be faithful to you. Or else break off to prevent further heartbreak.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
21 Dec 12
I think that's too kind. A man who lies and flirts to other girl's behind his partner's back reveals how much of an infidel he is. Why bother giving him a chance? I don't think the guy deserves it at all.
And guys who lie .... don't often keep their promises. Let's be realistic.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
14 Nov 12
Dear... I don't think this is healthy at all, you seriously are considering marrying someone that does that to you? Mine is not that type and if ever someone done that to me they'd have to do hiding really well or I'll kill him. I don't think he's respecting and I think you should get out of this relationship. This is ridiculous.
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@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
14 Nov 12
You should talk to him about this. I see that it's tearing you apart. And once a cheater (or more times a cheater, in this case), always a cheater. He's not going to stop. You forgive him, and he's still going to do this. I think you should talk to him about this and tell him how it hurts you (you don't have to tell how you know it, unless he asks... because if you confront him, he's going to be so schocked that he admits, without asking how you know it)... and he keeps doing this, the best option for you is to leave him. I know you love him, but it's not worth marrying a man who's going to make your life a hell, and he doesn't respect you and your feelings... because I'm pretty sure you could find a man who you would love, and who deserves you.
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@passion4fassion (996)
• Philippines
14 Nov 12
very sad. their are man who dont stop flirting they love to flirt even they are committed its hurt so much i feel your pain. you better talk to him and if ever he will deny it again its your decision if you will end your relation with him. you deserve someone who will truly love you. loving is not just staying loving is also know how to let go. love your self and you will see one day you will beloved.
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@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
15 Nov 12
it`s hard to believed..
i think you should ask your deeply heart that if you really accepted him 100 percent??
do you believe that you really love him 100 percent after what he had done for you..
trust each other is important in one relationship..
it`s not easy things i think
@sriroshan (2585)
• India
21 Dec 12
Hey same thing like what you my friend had experienced same thing. But when her friend told that her fiancee do such thing she was not ready to accept it. So like what you have done she opened an dummy account and uploaded a photo of good looking model who is not famous. Then you know what he must have done. He started telling her the same blah blah things.
Afterward knowing that she is pulling his legs he started saying sorry.
But I don't know why such things they do? Or they want to flirt with as many ladies that comes in life before they get married. She asked him if like him she did the same thing then will he allow her to do so? On this he said "I know you will not do so since you love me". But I can't understand why then he do it Is it just to kill the time on net or fish some another lady. Very difficult sometime to understand such person
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
15 Nov 12
I think that guy is not really love you with all his heart. If he truly loves you, he won't notice other women around.
I am sorry, but i don't think he will be changed even getting married.
it is my opinion. I really hope you are happy and lucky.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
15 Nov 12
I'm kind if confused. Is he your fiancé but you have not met yet? Or have you met? I wouldn't think you would be tied to someone you have never met? Maybe he isn't ready to be your fiancé.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
21 Dec 12
I admire your courage and cunning in discovering your fiancee's actions. It hurt you but you must know the truth.
You know what? I think he doesn't love you at all. A man who cheats on his woman is not worthy of love. You are only hurting yourself being with him. Leave him already you deserve a faithful partner.
Stop loving him. And think for yourself!
I tell you, he will do it again. Don't risk getting married and expecting him to change. Because guys like that often won't change. Don't let it come to the point where he cheats on you when you already have kids. He will go after more women. He doesn't respect you or your commitment and your feelings.
Leave him while you still can. Leave him as soon as possible! I think it is the best course of action.
@romzee (937)
• Philippines
15 Nov 12
Are you sure he loves you?
If I am to judge him by his actions, this man is just toying with your feeling.
Trust is the foundation of your relationship and if you can't trust him all the way then you must think twice before going farther with your relationship with him.
You deserve a better man, bronco!
This one will surely left you with a broken heart...
Have a nice day.
Ciao!
@mickey2win (196)
• China
15 Nov 12
First, I think you should not play another woman to test your fiance. It is meant to be hurt in this way. It is better to be blinded sometimes. You know the truth, you are hurt, but you can not do anything.
Second, it is normal to have friend on line. My husband have different IDs on line too. I seldom ask about it unless it cross the line. People need to have various friends, to talk and share life together, and to discharge daily pressure in different ways. He is your fiance but he could have his own secrets. He just did most people do today.
Thirdly, you two have been aparted for 5 months. That's really long time. Each day count in this situation. I suppose he is lonely if he is alone in a city. If his work is not busy, he has plenty of time to spend by himself. Maybe you should be more understanding on this.
At last, if you really do not trust him, go to his city and be with him, or give up the relationship, which I know would be really really hard for you.
Wish you good luck and you two happy!
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
21 Dec 12
I don't think it was wrong for her to confirm her fiancee. It only shows how her fiancee behaves to other women. If he wants to have fun and is lonely, he should find other ways to cope not flirt with other women online. Loneliness is no excuse. Why does it seem like it's her fault now? It definitely isn't.
But I do agree that if they want the relationship to work, they should stay close to each other. Though after knowing what kind of person the fiancee is, If I were in her situation, I wouldn't trust him any more. I don't want to worry every moment that he might do and flirt with other women again especially if it will hurt me.
@writethem (96)
• United States
15 Nov 12
I think you already know what is going on. He doesn't love you the way you want him to or the way you think he loves you. You still trying to convince you mind otherwise. Let him go.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Nov 12
bronco for one thing if yo u have never met him he cou ld be thirty years older than you and practiced at flirting with women and a player. do you really
know anything at all about this maa? He could tell you anything but he could be
lying through his teeth. If you want to save this relationship you had better taje a relative with yo u and met this person and find out just how
truthful he is.You really do not know him at all. once meeting you nust decide kep him or tell him to go p lay with all the online women., You havehad enough.
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
15 Nov 12
Oh, your fiance is a playboy. I hope he won't do that anymore when you're already married. If he really loves you, he shouldn't do that. He should think of you and your feelings. It's good that you still give him a chance. I hope he won't mess up anymore. Brace your heart. I hope you won't be hurt anymore. Goodluck to your relationship.
@BethelSophia (538)
• Philippines
15 Nov 12
I'm sorry to hear that bronco., I think you have to move on. I mean, if you are wanted to have a peace of mind you have to learn to forget your man right now. I don't have the right to judge but if he's like that, you won't be totally happy cause you don't have a peace of mind, and a trust. In a relationship trust is very much important. It's really good to love and be loved. It's more good to love and to trust the person we love. We can rely that even if we are far we knew that the man or woman we love can be trusted and will always love us. No other man or woman.,
@shelamae21 (100)
• Philippines
15 Nov 12
Ohh thats so sad,Trust is one the most important for a relationship to last forever without trust,its useless,it always make you negative thinking and get stress,hope he stop flirting other girls,
