Dating a Player

Honestly while I too have my reservations about it I would. In fact there is one guy I know who is a total player I'd love to go out with. He has a girlfriend and has cheated on her several times. He's even engaged now and still cheats. Basically I've known him for about four years. He's a dear friend of mine and we've always been attracted to each other. He's actually very deep but most people don't realize that about him. He's told me on numerous occasions if he wasn't dating his girlfriend he'd date me. Its been obvious for years to everyone else that we're very close. Recently he told me that the reason he's still engaged and has not set a date is because he doesn't think she's right for him. I've thought this for years. We had a very deep discussion about whats been going on in our lives. I'll always be very fond of him. Anyways in my situation I'd take a chance and date him. He very possibly may do the same this he did to his ex but life is about taking chances. I'll probably never stop having some sort of feelings for him anyways and I think he feels the same so we may as well explore them. ----------------------------- I do want to say while I respect your logic I'd rather go with the stable guy. The player is the one who will most likely lie to you and likely have a girl on the side. I would rather deal with Mr. Relationship. You'll never know if he's trying to get over an old flame but that would be far less of a concern to me then if the man I was dating had a few other girlfriends or was putting my health at risk by sleeping with half the town.

If you are a romantic who secretly wants his attitude towards relationships to change, don't do it. It's important to realize the intentions of a person in a relationship and realize that there isn't much we can do to change them. That change has to come from the individual, otherwise he will feel manipulated. If you want to date for fun, I don't see a problem with dating him. Just be careful with your emotions. Don't depend on him for companionship or security. If you aren't able to do that, move on!

To date a player is quite challenging. I guess you have to do your best to get his attention and make him fall in love with you. Players are really actually finding the right women for them but maybe they just can't find them right away. That's why they always go on a date. Men with stable relationship for years are quite risky too. You're right. They might just use you to forget their former flame. However, they also deserve to have dates. They also need to have new partners and eventually wives.

No, I would not go out to date a player. A player will always be a player. I wont let my heart be broken because of a player.

my answer would be NO... but before refusing, i should consider many things why i engage to dating with a player. if i know the person very well, and that being a playboy is his style, there would be no way to commit myself to him even just to dating. but if he changed totally, who am i to refuse if like i like him. if the person i am going to date is i met newly, well, beware: for i am kinda observant person. would really say yes or no depending on what i saw in your characteristic. well, let us see how would it be during actual happenings :) thanks

Don't even know why anyone would attempt this. Player and relationship are like oil and water. They don't go together.

As long as you know that you are dating a player there is nothing wrong with it. But mostly the problem is that player will not be honest to you and abuse your feelings. Since that is what they are great at: abusing others for their own benefit. BTW I would also not care about meeting/dating scammers, criminals etc as long as they are honest if it comes to me and we both know what to expect and what not. There are rules for every "relationship" and as long as you are able to set them and agree about it, there is nothing against it. But for sure is you need to be a strong person and have a lot of self esteem and not depend on these kind of people if it comes to your life, luck, happiness.

It would be better not to date either of those guys in your examples. But, yeah, I would date a player if he's a gentleman and he treats me well. If I enjoy his company of course, I don't mind dating him. I wouldn't expect him to change because of me and I would never even attempt to change him. People who do that are in for misery. I'd accept him as who he is and I'll enjoy my dates with a player but only if he respects me and treats me well and doesn't openly show he is cheating. If he cheats, no big deal. I could still use his company and his money LOL but I would never had s-x with him. If he starts asking for that, I would immediately leave him.

And why not. You know that for a fact, that this man is player. He's a player, give him a chance and if you think you are losing the game step aback. Before you lose completely. Who knows, he might take the relationship and shift paradigm. Some people might just need a break. my naughty thoughts, if he is a player, be a player too, but of course that's just my naughty thoughts. forget about it