How well you know your child?

I haven't child now. But if I have childs, I will know well about them.

I know my children very well. Perhaps too well. I know what is keeping them busy, what makes them feel hurt. With some I have closer feelings so even if we are not together we both feel if something is wrong with the other one. I speak (except for 1) with all of my kids daily. I also always been busy with them every day next to my 80 hours a week outside the house job. These were very hard times and the only thing I have a huge lack of is time for me. With my youngest I try to be very creative as well since it's a good way to express feelings/emotions. So we do write, paint, drawn, create all kind of things (incl. woodcrafts etc). We spent holidays together travelling everywhere. Before I go to bed I speak to one of my eldest, if something is going on with the youngest I talk it over with the elderly or email them as well. There are plenty of ways to stay close and get informed in what is going on. I can say my children are my closest friends and I know they think exactly that way about me. They prefer to go out with me or eachother instead of strangers and/or friends or want me to come along as well. I think this already says enough. My eldest is nearly 29 years old, my youngest 2 are 9 years old (son) and 7 years old (daughter). I think children understand way more as you think. They do understand the need of making money. It's about quality time you give them which will give them good memories of their childhood. The fact they know that if it comes to it you will make time for them. My children learned at a young age to leave messages for me written or drawn. So there been times I went to bed and I was laying down on a sad drawing about how they felt that day. This way I was able to discuss it with them and they also knew I would find it and know how they felt. I stopped working that many hours as well. My income is less as 1/5 of what I once earned. If it comes to financials we have a hard time but I think it's worth it since I do have more time for the youngest two but also to do some extra with the eldest. Also I have some more sleep (5 hours if I am lucky even more instead of 2-3 hours a night). I am not worried about the relationship with my children. They found their way, will find their way and know where to find me. All what counts is that you love eachother plus try to enjoy the time you do spend together. It's quality time that counts not quantity!

That is so nice that you found a blessing in disguise. Even though you've lost your job, you've found a much more precious way of filling that time. I know how it feels like when your child feels that you're all that he needs in life. You're lucky you're not too late in experiencing this. Once he finds himself a girlfriend, you might be relegated to second position in his life but you'll cross that bridge when you come to that. For the time being, just enjoy the time with your son.

I know my kids well enough. Since the time that I became a stay at home mom, I did not seek for any helper. I wanted to do all the things in the house by myself. All those times that I was working, I was still the one who tended to all his needs. Although my husband would be going with him to and from school, everything concerning my kids, I do it all. The only time that I really had a helper was when I gave birth to my youngest son. I had to come back to work 30 days after giving birth and I just need somebody to look after my baby. But a year after, I quit the job and just stayed at home.