She Open up to me

I hope that your friends relationship will improve. It can be hard having a successful relationship without all the stresses that comes along with having a new baby. I'm glad to hear that she opened up to you about it though. That way she has someone to give her support and encouragement which she needs with all that she has to take care of. I was under a lot of stress during my pregnancy and afterwards. I fortunately made it through those tough times and I hope that I continue to become a stronger person and be able to take care of myself and my child. Remind her of what is truly important to her and for her to work towards that.

Well, you said she is your bestfriend so I don't think it is abnormal that she opened up to you. If I have a personal problem, I would tell my bestfriend because I know I can trust her. True she has a family but family members are often biased with problems involving relationships of their family members. They take side easily and judge because their tendency is to protect their family. But is is okay if you do not want to comment. maybe she just want someone to listen to her. Most of us neglect the fact that when some people tell us their problems, they just want someone who will listen to get their problems out of their system. Talking can really help people have lighter feeling. They do not really want us to solve their problems for them.

All you can do is to be on her side as long as she needs you. Just continue to guide her with her decisions. If she has hatred or anger, it might cloud her decisions.

That's good tinetine161992. Just be a good listener to your friend. I know she felt better after sharing it to someone especially to you as her bestfriend.

I think it's normal for friends to discuss feelings. I find it kind of weird to read that you are not really interested in her and see this as a private thing. So what did made you friends? Why are you friends? Just when you have fun or to share the good times? I don't think your friend asked you for advice, she just needed someone to turn to, perhaps a shoulder to cry on, which is normal if you gave birth (it will take more as 1 year to get rid of the hormons and after that your life will never be the same again) and your whole world suddenly turned up side down. You can never be (completely) prepared on how it will be , how it feels to be a mother or to carry all this responsibilities. Men seldom react the way women like after that, will easily pick up their old life again. I find it kind of hard but also cold the way you respond. Just telling her to be strong. What is wrong with crying out loud for some time on a friends shoulder? To give this all a place when you feel so confused about your life? Why does she need to be strong? Because she has a bf? Because she has no understanding friend(s) to turn to? Because she is a mother now? If life was only that easy ...

Many friends do this.. its part of being friends. She opened up to you- because she trusts you. Try and help her as much as you can.

Did she ask any suggestion or she just told you about her problem. Sometimes if we have problems we do share it to our closest friend just to have some relief inside our head and in our heart. But me sometimes it is better to listen to some suggestion from a friend that's why I ask for it.

If I were in your shoe, I'll ask about his boyfriend. You did not specify if they have a problem or not. Is your friend a single mom? Then she must be very lucky that there is still someone who loves her and accepts her after all. If that boyfriend of her is a burden, she must let go of it and take her time to take care her baby and not to entertain guys.Just show to her that you care.

maybe your friend just need someone to hear her problem. maybe she so burden with having a baby then problem with her bf. may your friend will be ok