Leaving your present for your past

You are right about your decision Olivetree. You really cannot ditch your current beloved just for the sake you had found your childhood sweetheart now. Because you have already given an implicit commitment to your current hero :).

I still think about my childhood sweetheart to this day.

I totally agree with you. Sometimes, the previously important people from our past suddenly shows up then our thoughts get messed up. You know that you loved him back then, and how much you have wanted him to back, but now, after 28 years you are very much married and with kids. so you get to thinking that maybe that person was really meant for you coz if not, why did her ever come back? I have felt this a few years back. I came in contact with my very first love after 24 years. Since he was my first love, I had difficulties getting over him completely even if I had other boyfriends after him. My love for him was just strong. He wasn't much of the hunky, handsome guy but I guess Cupid just hit me real hard. The first few exchanged of emails, text messages and calls got me real excited.And so I thought that the lost love have came back. He would make overseas calls every once in a while. But we never talked about being together coz he is married himself, too. I felt I am really falling over him. He would send me chocolates when a friend of his would come home to Manila. But months after, and now four years after, I realized that the love may have stayed but not as much. Not so much to make the broken relationship be built again. He will remain to be part of my past and that is just that. He is actually arriving today from Australia and he wanted us to meet --after 28 years. I wanted to just see how he looks but decided that I should just let things be. It is not right. Definitely not seeing my future with him. But we can always be friends.

i will take the same choice as you have.. well for me past has nothing to do with my present,past is past, and we are currently living in different paths, many things may have happen for those years when you are apart, and you can never assure that if your childhood sweetheart still have a feelings for you.. so better not take the risk of leaving your present. thinking of those memories at the past would be nice but those are just memories that we can never turn back.. though you can be together if you want to but some things will not be the same.. :)

I don't like going back to the past, it has happened to me to keep tryinng to work it out with my teenage love but we were always breaking up. The truth is that, when a lot of time passes we always remember the good things and we forget what made us split up at the first place! High schhol sweethearts were great back then but the real thing is what you have now and you shouldn't let that go for an idea in your mind from so many years back. I've learned my lesson and I am glad that you think that way and you want to keep your current relationship!

i m not so good in relationship,something it come across to me, what if he come,how can i react. i never seen him after he move and i dont think i can recognize him if i see him today

Your right there.. I see my childhood sweat heart almost everyday here. He just happens to be my postman. He is happily married like 15 years and has 2 kids. We still talk to each other. i still care for him, and he for me. His wife knows we dated before her.