Do you contact your college classmate often?
By mickey2win
@mickey2win (196)
China
November 14, 2012 9:08pm CST
It has been years after college graduation, and my classmates went to different cities, and I lost contact with lot of them. Some we still contact on line, a few we called each other.
I do not know what happened.
Each person has his own life. He has a family to support, he has a baby to raise, so he might be too busy to contact his old classmate, because he has to contact customers and boss in most of the time.
But sometimes I really miss them, miss the happy and painful time, and I even dreamed of them. I wonder what kind of life they are living: common daily life or some body big?
I do not dare to contact them, because I dare that they have changed!
What about you? Do you contact your old classmate often? Or do you gather around every year? Do they change? Is there any stories?
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21 responses
@emmadaydayup (7)
•
15 Nov 12
Next month ,i will take air to Hangzhou to attend a classmate's wedding,we are not very intimate friends ,but we are roommates. It's a bit difficult for me to choose to go , actually i don't want to spend so much money on the journey,and i am in distress right now.
However , the other roommates all expressed the sme willing of us getting together ,to make up lost time,they are all very busy or not in good economy situation ,in other words,we are planning to get together by this chance.
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@darkmeiji (48)
• Philippines
15 Nov 12
My college friends and I do not have constant communication now. I have one or two college friends with whom I have constant contact because we are in the same industry but, for the rest (we were a big group), not much. However, we still see each other at least once a year, specially during Christmas season. While we are not actively reaching out to each other during the year, we always make it a point to have a Christmas party when we can catch up.
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@Mintlin (322)
• China
15 Nov 12
I almost lost connection with them,most of them went to different cities,some of them went abroad.I only have few of on line but seldom chatting,it seems all of us are getting busy everyday.
Regaring reunion,it's been four years after graduation,we haven't met each other.
we once talked about the reunion,but a lot of classmates they do not want to go.
there is the thing: it's very common that classmates would compare the life/family/wealth between each other,those who have a better life they will flaunt themselves. so we donot like to go there
@mickey2win (196)
• China
15 Nov 12
Mintlin, I totally agree with you! Nowadays, people tend to compare life/family/wealth, which give each other a lot of pressure. I hate this. That's one reason I fear the change.
Thanks for your response.
@pahak627 (4558)
• Philippines
15 Nov 12
Most of my contacts are my classmates in high school since we have reunions from time to time. I have a few college friends whom I had seen from time but they are not close to me. We're just mere acquaintances. Unlike my high school classmates though they are already out of the country we are still communicating.
@mickey2win (196)
• China
15 Nov 12
En, high school classmates are more closed to me than college classmates too. In college we have less time to communicate with each other, not like in high school, we are kids and talked about everything, anything, haha.. And we played dangerous games together too.
Miss them~~
@bluespygirl (2112)
• Philippines
15 Nov 12
One of the good things that the internet had brought me is I get to communicate with people in my ife including my college classmates. It has been 15years but we still have communication through facebook. We do have twice a year get together and I can say that most of them hadn't change yet in terms of attitude. They are still childish yet likeable
@mickey2win (196)
• China
15 Nov 12
Haha, I envy you that you can have smooth communication with your classmates.
The important thing is that they had not changed! Have fun with them.
@bluespygirl (2112)
• Philippines
16 Nov 12
All of us are close to each other but not all. Well, that maybe because we are the first batch of our course in that small school. We got a chance to bond when there are exams and activities.
@hlfbldmom (743)
• Philippines
15 Nov 12
I have contact with my college friends though they are busy at their respective careers they still have time to contact me and when I do have time I contacted them too just to say hi and some chitchats. We don't often see each other due to busy schedules and yet some are overseas but we do have contact once in a while.
Why not contact them just say hi and ask them how are they. There's no harm in trying and besides even if you are not in contact for a long time I am sure u are still their friend..
@mickey2win (196)
• China
15 Nov 12
Thanks for your advice.
Maybe I should contact and give them a call first, haha, to give them a surprise!
Hope they are happy everyday!
@mzz663 (2772)
• United States
15 Nov 12
I never contacted anyone I went to school with because I figured that they changed and had their own lives. Oddly enough, after many years, I ran into one person that I went to school with and after I missed a few reunions, they still remembered me and now I help set up meetings a few times a year. Most of the friends from school found their way to face book and that's how we find each other and keep up with what's going on.
@uchelink (200)
• Nigeria
15 Nov 12
Hmmm... not really but i do say hi to few that i have as my friend in Facebook ... Some of them i don't even know whr they are now, But i know either they have been busy with their career or enjoying....wish i could get in touch is quite fun meeting your old school mates..
Happy mylotting... :p
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
15 Nov 12
yes we did but not so often. some of my classmates are my friends in facebook. so i do not have hard time when i want to say hi to them and keep updated with their lives. in fact this coming december, we will be having a class reunion in fourth year section. i am already excited to meet them again in person. so to you, do not be scared to contact them at least saying hi to them. for sure they will be glad to have your concerning greetings for them. and if you a chance do not hesitate to come when time is being settled for a date. it is just natural that after schoolings and graduation, a person should leaping another level of her/his life because it is the way it should be to use what kind of course he/engaged with during college years. so to stop longing for them, contact them if you can.... good luck!
@mickey2win (196)
• China
15 Nov 12
Thanks for your words. It is easier said than done. But if chances come, I will grasp it.
I wish them good luck too!
@nguyenloan (184)
• Vietnam
15 Nov 12
Sometime i contact with my college classmate. We are contact online. We went to different places. Today we have own life. So I want to meet them one day.
@mickey2win (196)
• China
15 Nov 12
I do want to meet them, those lovely friends. Old memories will come up, and new life mix together, what a day it will be!
Hope that day come earlier.
@writethem (96)
• United States
15 Nov 12
It depends. I'm so busy nowadays and I can keep track of their lives on Facebook anyway, so there's no need to keep in contact that often.
@mickey2win (196)
• China
15 Nov 12
Yes, you are lucky to have facebook. We are not able to login here. But we have other webs.
Hope we can meet soon.
@olivz2012 (50)
• Philippines
25 Nov 12
We share the same longings. I myself wanted to contact with my college classmate. Yet likewise I felt the same with you. I'm afraid to bother them because for sure they're busy with their own life. However, I have tracked them how life with them through Facebook. We meet once a year during our Alumni Homecoming every summer. Once thence we can relish our school moments.
@ruffabee (145)
• Philippines
9 Dec 12
Like you, I also miss my college classmates. And I miss them more than my high school classmates. Awkward for others, but that's what I feel. I miss my classmates in college, especially my "Thesismates", my companions in doing our thesis, and "Skylabs" those who were in freshman and sophomore buddies, who became my classmates in some of our subjects. I terribly miss them, to the extent that I create lots of collages and photo projects on my phone, because in that way I reminisce our funny memories in school. :)
@cobalt20 (1318)
• Philippines
15 Nov 12
That is life after we graduate in college or high school. We have to move on. I have communication from my classmates. I use Facebook to communicate and update even my schoolmates. We miss them a lot because good memories when we were at school. I am proud to be a bachelor because I graduate a 4 year degree course which was Information Technology.
@spuliven (68)
• India
15 Nov 12
I regularly contact my school friends as well. Almost all of my friends settled and they have their own life however they always have time to meet me.. I'm very proud of that I have good friends around.
Thanks for reminding my friends again..
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
15 Nov 12
Now after marriage I not meet any class mate but some time call or contact online. Even in college time I not meet any classmate often we meet only in college not in other side or on home.
@neelia27 (896)
• Philippines
15 Nov 12
some of my classmate in college was now successful in their respective career.. and some of them do have communication with me.. in fact some are godfather and godmother of my baby... sadly we haven`t really had a reunion that all my friends are present because some are working in another country hopefully before this year end we will have a reunion..
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
15 Nov 12
Yes, there are a lot of social networking sites that you depend on in cases like this. I still in contact with my college friends. We have this yearly gathering that's every christmas time. We go to the bar and we party. We exchange gifts. WE discussed about the theme of the gift for example this year we will have gifts we made ourselves. So we exchange gifts that we did not buy from shop but something we made. Yes, we talk about everything and about our experiences at work and love life and life itself. We don't dwell much on the problems we have at the moment. We just talk about funny stuff and enjoyable moments.
@SirRalph (1)
• Philippines
15 Nov 12
For me i want to contact my college classmate to have some reunion or happiness and tell some stories what happen to us since the last day in our college life and go back all the happiest moment in our college life and tell all the secret when all are in college.. it is happy to hear that..