I don't like being control

hi, Everyone loves freedom, but sometimes we are too much controlled by others, which we hate. Yes control and limit is necessary in every aspect of life.But too much of involvement by others makes our life miserable.

There are those people even family member had this attitude that even the personal life of certain person have them control over. Even if you are at your right age if they want to control you they will just do it without caution. That's what I don't understand on them, I think it's ok to give advises but you will feel if it was an advise of they just want to control you. And you are right there are times that over controlling a person makes you a dumb person that even if you know what to do or you plan that ahead but they suddenly suggest it and control you they will just think that you don't have common sense or you have no plans in life. The worse of all is there are family members that are younger than you that when they control you it's like that they have already experience those things like it's so easy to say but what they don't know is when you are in that situation it's so hard to get over with. I have lots of those family member that likes to control my life and I really don't like them. If only I have place far away from them I'd rather go for them not able reach me easily.

It's actually one of the reasons one of my cousin left home as soon as she got her degree and got the job opportunity somewhere abroad. She told me that there was no way she could have been as successful as she is now if she stayed in this city and with her family and relatives. It's not that she didn't like it, it's just that our relatives are all the conservative type and it can really get controlling sometimes. She told me that if I wanted to be successful too I must get away from the comfort and control of my family and learn to push myself. I know I tried but I am just not that prepared yet.

I think it's a circle. We have enough control over some people and some people have enough control over us. The difference is that there are some people who likes to power-trip. I don't like these people, they overuse their authority even to the extent that's not supposed to be under their scope.

I want to be controlled by philosophy. Because that can make me a great. Philosophy knows how to and in which intensity to control.

In some cases, or up to certain age we surely need guidance in life.Now question is who really hate to be " being in control" of others? Either somebody who got specific plans still people suggest him 100 things. If you fall in that category, then you are absolutely correct.

Hello Wong, Everybody needs freedom whether at work or home. I feel if the person is given freedom he may perform better than if he/she is under control of someone else.

I also do not like to be controlled by anyone. it sucks. I am lucky to have the freedom from my parents and i never felt that I was controlled..I am married now and hubby also makes me feel comfortable. I can understand you because I had a friend like you and she was always upset because she was sulking inside. It is bad. Just be cool about it if you can't help it. I think for family it is okay to some extent but to work associates, do not let them control you. You have the freedom. be strong and stand for yourself, stop thinking you are dumb.. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead..

even I ,i hate being controlled with others. Even my parents because I am in my right age and God have given me brain to decide for myself.and even in work. That's why i enjoy working at home where i can have my own time/schedule to work. I can set up where will be my day off. no one controlled my schedule. Freedom is gift of God and we have to enjoy it.. well of course in a right way.

Yes, that happens to me before. My family and relatives are like that they want to control us or those younger than them. I think because of their grandparents are like that too. They are very strict that one should really follow them. However, nowadays since modern times comes, they change already and controlling has lessened. Maybe because of changing times. However, I do appreciate at times their concerns.

i also don`t wanna be controlled by someone now that i`m already an adult.. it feels like i`m a child when they were telling me what to do or not to do.. i do respect them but they should respect me also for making my own decisions..