Why is letting go so hard?

we are having a hard time to let go because we are afraid of the unknown... we rather stay in a situation even if it hurts because that gives us the security that at least we know "it hurts" than taking the risk of letting go... and yes you are going the right track, forgive yourself and take responsibility of choice of loving someone that "messed" your life and then forgive him, forgiving is not a favor you do for him but for yourself and then seek God's will i your life and I can assure you, you will be blessed more than you can imagine :) I have been there... and I just know how it is finally letting go and letting God be God in my life :)

I think it is really up to you on how you define what is right and justifiable for you on this failed relationship. Having memories and feeling frustrated about your mistake is alright, there's really nothing wrong and damnable to feel bad but it is important on what are you doing for yourself right now. It will be alright when you are doing better than before, taking care of your family, your work and most of all yourself. Mistakes are alright when you learn from it and let the frustrations motivate you to do and live better. It will be alright if you are striving to live out much better than the other party. It will be alright if you are taking steps from making the same mistake. It will be alright that despite the lapse of unpleasant memories and feelings, you are actually achieving 85% of enjoyment with your present life. The relationship may have been broken up but sometimes you may want to consider if there had been one in the first place when the other party does not want to see the same level of commitment and devotion. It is true that you've lost the person for good reasons but have you ever considered if the experience and lesson is a lost for you. Also, if a bad apple is inedible then I see no reason trying to eat it like a good one where you will just be asking for more suffering and trouble.

Well, first of all, from what I see that you've written it before we can judge others, we have to make a self-consciousness, and seek forgiveness within ourselves and make this question: "How's my responsibility rests on what has happened?" so forgive ourselves. Then you think to other people and all the ways we see our own as we are also responsible for the "sins" of other people. I say this because these days I'm reading a book about prayer. One of the main steps for a good preparation for prayer, is precisely that of forgiveness!

I would suggest to burn all the photos or stuff has to be given to charities. let go of the memories and enjoy life

letting go ia the hardest thing to do it saying goodbye but sometimes letting go is the best thing to do to be happy again

sometimes its hard for us to let go because somehow there's a part of us that is wanting to have the relationship back or wanting him/her back into our life.in other words we are still holding on,to the memory and of course to that person hoping that he would still come back.first,you have to ask yourself,what it is that you really wanted?to let go or to keep yourself in misery of his memory.sometimes it happens because we know we have some faults,so the 'should haves' often come to us as a blamer,so we cant move on,we always think that if only i did this or that we are still together.so my advise to some is this,if you think there are chances of reconciliation,make the move and make an effort,speak your heart loud.but if there isnt any chances then its time for you to accept that the relationship is over.heal yourself.hating him wouldnt help you,you have to accept.and ask yourself if you want to live in misery or happily.noone can help you to let go,only you and you alone can do that.and that is by making a decision.there are still some guy out there that will love you the way you want to be loved.so get yourself up and be ready!..

I guess many people are undergoing the same problem. Eventually, you'll get over with him. You should move on. He's gone. Enjoy being single until you'll meet a better man again. Get rid of those memories. Lock them somewhere in your heart. Someday, they're just a part of your life. Goodluck. Enjoy mylotting.

If you really want to let him go. First forgiveness, second is acceptance. When you did it properly then the next step will be easy, but of course another hard thing to let go is the memories that you shared together.

Because we are used to our life full of habits and customs and the people/situation around us. Even if it's a hard one and we do nothing more as complaining about it, feeling miserable, lonesome, lost, sick and full of stress. Most people don't have the courage to leave, start all over again because they think it will cost them way too much energy. The energy they don't have (or think they have) at the moment. Also they are afraid of what family/society will think of them. The ones with courage let go and go on alone, set their own goals. The ones who love an exciting life, the restless ones will let go (more) easily as well. They will see life as one big journey full of experiences and know there is a time to come but also a time to go on and leave.

Hi friend, it is really hard to forget about our real and true love, but there is no use in thinking about the past after the break up. Try your maximum to concentrate with other things and forget about your ex. We have the ability to do things as per our wish and control our mind and heart.

Hi there. Yes, you can just ask for some ways and some encouragements to us but the best person you help you is yourself. I think it is just normal that from time to time you still think of him because you are still on the healing process. If you don't really like hating someone, just try to forgive and forget. But don't push yourself too much. If you are still not ready just take your time then. But promise yourself that you will be okay soon. Keep yourself busy first, love the person who loves you and appreciate the presence of others.

letting go is so hard when the reason of this has a deep impact on our emotion.The more we love someone,the more hurtful it is to let go.But there are times that we need to move if we don't want to totally ruin ourselves.IT may take months or years but the most important is in time our hatred and anger will heal.Pray a lot.Go out with friends.Socialize.Doing those things will help you forget and mend.Above all trust God,He will never give you the test if you cannot pass it.Good luck!

woman always like that, it really hard to let go if u love someone so much. always thinking the good side of him rather that the bad side. what u need is to make your mind focus on what u want, if u really want to let him go. make harder to full it. forgive him and start a new life, get your day busy with other thing.

Don't blame yourself. I know this is very hard to do, but you need to try. This is one of many lessons in life. We all make mistakes, this is normal. Talk to friends or family about how you feel. Don't hold this in, this will make you feel worse. Good Luck..........

You must forgive to forget, first yourselfm and after him. O was in same situation, let s say that i am in same situation, but i am a very proud person and i never ask somebody stay with me just because i want this, If i don t see that somebody want me and love me, i never ask him to be with me. Time, this is the magic word...time will help you, soon or later you will know that if he want you really he will be with you. just be patient...