How do you handle gossip and lies spread about you?
By randomarts09
@randomarts09 (1405)
Indonesia
November 15, 2012 5:13am CST
To make a long story short. Finally I hand out my resignation letter because I can't stand how my manager play favorites with my other co-worker (you can refer to my older discussion), by the way I haven't gotten any replacement job too, this is something that I have done out of guts.
But then when resignation letter has been sent to our GM (superior of my manager), she told me that I always been a good employee so she want me to stay and then I told her my reason in private, then she ask me to be in her charge directly and my position raised too (however my work will not have any relation with that manager and that co-worker, I will work independently directly with that GM as my superior). She told me to consider it, since it's so unexpected and after asked opinions of my friends, and my old boss, everyone told me to accept it since if I resign it means I lost and I should try to fight to prove my worth.
However, after that, this co-worker spread gossip and lies, it's so bad that gossip which made everyone at my division give me silent treatment...it does bother me quite much....
I want to try my best in my new position, but it seems hard with this condition, every my friends told me that I should fight to be more to the top to scare them, but then even other co-workers at my division who nice to me now is giving me a silent treatment and acting like I am not exist and gossiping about me (I can hear them talking about me, but all this time I just keep silent and not say anything to make things worse...what should I do?
Any advice?
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5 responses
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
15 Nov 12
Gossips are gossips... the only way that it will not eat you is by ignoring them or even explaining yourself to some people. But being silent about it and as long as you know that you are on the right track, don't mind them... after all, you're the head turner, they're all just insecure about themselves wasting there time to mess up with other people. Divert yourself to different things. It somehow helps. :D
@randomarts09 (1405)
• Indonesia
16 Nov 12
Thank you! I agree wholeheartedly with you, I won't feed the gossip, I will try not to mind about them
@darkmeiji (48)
• Philippines
15 Nov 12
It is easy to say ignore them and just do your job well. But I know that gossips can get out of hand and people who are not blessed as you tend to band together and believe the lies. I have been in this position before and it is a bad feeling when you know that you are just doing your job but other people are bringing you down. Truth is people are not happy when other people do better and, as much we wish that there is less jealousy in the world, we cannot control how other people think or act. But you know what, it may not happen always, but things worked out itself in the end. On my part, I am ready to defend myself if it need be, but I do not make an effort to please anybody. I just did my job. And people acknowledged me for that, personal bias aside.
@randomarts09 (1405)
• Indonesia
15 Nov 12
Yes I think you're right. I just need to do my job and try not to think about them too much, it hurts actually to hear them gossiping and ignoring me. But I will try to not feed the gossip, I think it's better not to say anything then and do the good job of my responsibility.
@darkmeiji (48)
• Philippines
19 Nov 12
It will hurt and you will be tempted to fight back - and sometimes fighting back may be okay, sometimes not. Just choose your battles and I wish for you to have a better work atmosphere in the future. :)
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
17 Nov 12
It sickens me that colleagues have nothing better to do than gossip or make up lies, it's actually a form of bullying. I was bullied at my last job, and because I didn't fit in, I was made to feel the outcast and they would make snide comments about me, in the end I complained to my manager, but the bullying actually got worse, in the end my health started to suffer and I left. You should never be anywhere where you are unhappy, life is too short. It can also be jealousy as well, people spread gossip and lies because they are jealous! Sad but true, sometimes a workplace is like a school playground.
@randomarts09 (1405)
• Indonesia
18 Nov 12
Yeah, guess what? I would love it very much if I can walk away from there that's why I hand out my resignation letter, but when I got promotion instead, that tick me to prove it to them that I can't be undermined and belittled by them... I will try my best with hope in the God too...I don't walk alone, I will walk with God and the people who understand me.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
15 Nov 12
hi,
you got such a good chance to prove don't let it go. Gossips and other things are always there in any work place. Just be your self. Congratulations on your promotion.
@randomarts09 (1405)
• Indonesia
15 Nov 12
Thank you, I intend to work with my best in this new position
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
15 Nov 12
There are two options which are the best. One is to ignore them. They only do it because they are jealous and because they see how their relationships couldn't get them over you... they are doing this because you seem a very good opponent. Take it as compliment, haha!
The second. If you know or have a really strong feeling who spreads gossips, tell them to shut their filthy mouths up, and that lies aren't gonna hurt you, becauser the manager gave you the job because you're competent. And you don't care whether they don't like you, but you're never gonna get as low as them, and that they should stop behaving like babies. Not getting revenge on them or doing schemes to humiliate them, but showing them that you are going to fight for your job - within class.
@randomarts09 (1405)
• Indonesia
16 Nov 12
Thank you for your advise, I think I will just prove to them from my work since I can't control what will people do, insted it's better to control what I can do by working with my best I can.
