Would you discipline someone else's kids?

I am surprised more didn't disagree with you, because I know some people who think only they are allowed to discipline their children. Problem is, kids don't always listen to mom or dad and sometimes the kid needs another to tell them how it is. My 10 y/o son was acting up the other day, arguing with me in my 22 y/o daughter's car. She pulls over and tears into him, but what she said was true, so I just sat back and took a much needed breather..lol

I should, it is part of my job. But discipline with restrictions and limitations. I am an educator so I need to teach children on how to behave and respect. But outside the job, like my neighbor's kid or my niece's kid, I don't think so. If i am disappointed with their acts, I could just shake my head and say "no". but as to discipline like talking to them i am leaving that up to their parents. I might offend the parents i don't like that.

Hi hlf! I won't mind disciplining someone else's kids specially if they are misbehaving. Some parents are too soft towards their own children and in the process forget that discipline is must in life. If we do not discipline our children, when they are younger then they will create more troubles, when they grow older.

I treat my nieces and nephews like my own children and if they misbehave when I am around I will not hesitate to discipline them. But I have one sibling who dislike me to discipline her children. She thinks that her children need not listen to others as they might be confused having to listen to so many people. And that save my energy not having to discipline her rowdy kids.

I think if it's your own nieces and nephews, it's quite all right to discipline them but it also depends on what you mean by disciplining. Do you talk to them sternly or do you spank them? I think there's a line that you might cross if you discipline your nieces and nephews excessively. And that would make your sister and brother-in-law not liking what you're doing. You should therefore ask permission first from your sister and brother-in-law if you want to discipline their children. That's the right thing to do.

Hello Friend ! It's alright to discipline kids as long as they are your close relatives , you got the right and responsibility to do such thing but if it is the kids of your neighbor , friend or from people you are not related with , then you have no right , if in case those kids are so irritating , annoying or already giving you trouble , the right thing there is to tell their parents about it so it would be the parents who will be the one to discipline. There are parents who are so sensitive when it comes to their children . They don't like their kids to be scolded by other people or they don't like seeing other people teaching their kids. We must be very careful with this kind of people because our intention might be good but they will take it wrongly.

It depends on who the child is. If I am in your case, then, I would do the same considering that I am a close relative and I too could not tolerate such misbehavior. But if the child, is not a relative and I barely know who the parents are, then I will not as it may create a friction between me and the parent.

Hello there, For most of my career I had been disciplining other people's children. On my part, I think it is okey because their are children who cannot be disciplined by their own parents and other family members but respond well to other people outside their family. I think the feelings of parents towards their children interfere with how they discipline their children. I mean, if heir child cries because of being scolded or whipped, parents usually do not repeat the same disciplinary actions in times their children misbehave.

I guess we can discipline other else's kid but with limitations. since they are not our child we can advise them,tell them that they don't act well and make them understand what's right from wrong.But some kids are just hard-headed and they just won't listen.So we may sometimes take actions with it.

Disciplining them is something that we should do! There is a saying in my mother tongue kannada which my mom used to tell my dad whenever my dad scolds my mom for being rude and strict about our discipline. the saying goes this way, "GIDAVAAGI BAGGADU MARAVAAGI BAGGITHEY?" which means, if you haven't bent a tree when it was a plant, the could you bend it when it is fully grown as a tree? I believe in something like this, kids should be moulded in a nice way from their childhood. they should be taught discipline, politeness, punctuality, respect to others and elders. When I was young, these were the first things thought to us in house and if we ever did a mistake or even raised a little voice, we were punished by mom severely. we learnt all these things in a very hard way, but then, this is all paying off well today when we are all grown up and people look at us and tell their kids to be like us. That is probably the moment my mom actually feels proud of herself as well as us. I too don't mind even being a little strict with kids no matter I know them or not. I will first tell them in a nice way and if they still continue to not listen, then I will have to take the next step. At the max they wont like me today but later when they have grown up, I am sure they will remember me someday in their lives.

yeah I would if the parents do not mind it. some parents do not like others teaching their children. I have seen it so better know the parents and then discipline.. I am sure that you sister inlaw must be okay when you discipline her children. .. it is anyway good to teach the kids what is right and wrong. Do they listen to you? Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead..

I would discipline them as far as letting them know what they did was wrong and why they shouldn't do certain things. But I would not go so far as to spank them or anything like that because the parents could sue me or have me arrested. Yes, I do believe that children should have role models and someone to teach them right from wrong, but if the parents choose to spank their kids then that's their business. I don't believe it's right for someone else to spank a child that is not theirs, not even the parents say it's alright.

I do discipline my nieces and nephews in a nice way. I never hit them or something that hurts them. Just advising them what is good or bad. If someone else's kids, I never encountered yet to discipline them, but If I were on your shoe, of course I would just talk to them in a nice way and teach them the proper and good manners.

HI I live in a house with my two children and my girlfriend and the people most involved with our family is my girlfriends brother and his two children. They live two minutes away and are always around,my daughter and my girlfriends,brothers daughter are both around three and when they get together they are little terrors,and it is left up to me to sort them out because they do not listen to my girlfriend or her brother. My philosophy is that everyone else is far to soft and because I choose to not take the softy,softy approach the children seem to respond to me and do as there told. Also if one of the kids is not listening they will always say "ill get your dad in a minute"turning me in to the bad guy again,and even by brother in law says be good or ill get uncle mike. All that said I think there is a very big difference between disciplining a child and bullying a child,being nasty is completely wrong and unnatural and I do not think I would be allowed to discipline if I was doing anything wrong as my family all love there children very much. My children no that I am the boss but they also no how much I love them and that I would die before letting anything happen to them.

If the kids are at my house and they're doing something destructive to furniture or dangerous to themselves or something like that, I will stop them. I will ask them to be quieter or not to run or jump on things and so on. Other than that, it's up to the parents. What instruction or discipline I could give other than that will be lost as soon as the kids go home because the parents are the ones they live with and the ones they listen to and watch more than anyone else. I have not qualms about stopping a child from climbing on something he will fall from or taking candles or heavy objects down to play with in my home.

I will say something depending on who it is, where I am and the situation that is going on. I have done childcare for 12 years so I am used to correcting innappropriate behavior. I will step in a lot if there is a situation where the child is creating an unsafe place for theirself or for someone else. I will tell the kids that I watch to be good for their mom and that it will make me upset if they arent. If its in public and I think that saying something will just cause a bunch of unessesary verbal exchanges I just wont say anything.

i find it nothing wrong with doing that.. but if the parent is there, i try my best not to discipline the kid i will just make some remarks that will make the parent feel that his / her kid needs disciplining or warning.. but if they are not around i tend to discipline them. Like my that of my brother kids, when my brother is not around and he leave the kids with me i do discipline them when they misbehave.

I don't! Because I have no right to discipline other children. Because only their parents have the right to do that! :)

Thats a hard one. I hate to discipline someone else's kids when they are present. But I know we are apt to tolerate bad behavior in our own kids more then someone else's kids. I know it used to kill me when friends of mine would find really obnoxious behavior in their kids "cute". Seriously? I would think to myself. It wasn't until I had kids that I understood why my friends were so tolerant of their kids. BUT there are instances when we have to step in and say something to kids, when their parents aren't. When they are doing something that could be dangerous to themselves or someone else. OR if they're about to damage property, especially if it belongs to us. ALSO, if they simply won't be quiet, If their parents won't say anything, they either aren't recognizing when they need to, and maybe they need the reminder. (If enough people have to discipline their kids they may soon get the hint) OR they really need help and maybe in the long run appreciate someone stepping in.

we had the same scenario my brother's family was living with me... since he had 2 sons which is really close to me i do disciplined them though there are times my brother and i was having some arguments over on how to discipline his kids...i know im only their aunt but if the kids are misbehaving we should take an exact action to correct them.. its a natural thing...