My boyfriends says " YOU TURN ME OFF"

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Hi iMamom, there is certain rules when it comes to know if someone is not faithfull or not. Does he initiate it or the other party initiate it, like did he dial the number or the women called him. Now can you see the difference. And Since i am a female i will be on your side ok. He must have done something that trigger you to do what you did. By the way, if he is worth to fight for then stand by your men and so do not let go

Hi IMamom, I have to ask you...why are you even with someone that you feel you have to investigate? Then you investigate and find stuff and ...sorry, I just don't get it. I'd just leave if I did not trust someone I was with. I would not check e-mails and phones. It would not matter. The fact that I did not trust would be all that mattered to me. He could even be trustworthy but if that's how I feel...why be with him? It's not a good relationship. There is no "win" in these kinds of relationships...ya both lose.

I am sorry but in my opinion, your relationship with your boyfriend is no longer healthy and should be given enough attention to think about and decide whether you still love each other or not, before things get worse. I do not think that it is proper to dig in other people's email account, even though he is your boyfriend. But I have to admit that I also open my previous boyfriends' email accounts, but I did not hacked them or something, I do know the password as they gave it to me. And I am thankful that I did not find anything suspicious or something that would really break my heart. When couple started to throw hurtful words to each other, they start losing their respect for each other. I think that a relationship without respect can't simply work. Everybody needs respect especially men that is why many says that men value respect more than love. I do understand why you tried to open his email account without his permission however, I also understand why your boyfriend reacted that way. I think that you guys should take some time to talk about this issue and resolve the problems. With regards to transparency, I do agree with you. I have one boyfriend in the past who won't tell me his email password and won't let me handle his cellular phone. For me, it is a red flag already but I did not tell him about this. After months of being together, I only meet some of his friends but not his family. I am not comfortable about it, and it really made me wonder if there's something he is hiding from me. I asked my friend to check his records if he is really single and my friend that there is no record that he has been married before. I called their house to inquire if he is really single and the woman who answered the phone said that he is. So why do I feel like he is hiding me or our relationship? I find it very unusual but did gave him the chance to change the situation without informing him about my concerns. I really do not want my man to just change because I told him so, I want him to realize everything on his own and change if he really wants to. But years have passed and nothing changed. After more than 7 years, I broke up with him because I felt like I am losing my self esteem already. I was thinking if he is hiding me from other people because he isn't proud of me, maybe because I am not good enough, or my family is poor, I do not know really. He promised to change and will introduce me to his family the coming Christmas but I said No, thank you. And that was our last conversation. There are signs that would really tell us if the guy is serious about us so we really should be aware of them. But still, it would really depend on us if we are going to wait for a change, depending on how much we love this guy.

Sorry.. if you says that to you... you say adios., Hasta la bye bye. Move on. There are better out there for you.

I believe that if you are in a serious relationship then you should not hide anything from your partner. Many couples will not let either one look through their phone. That right there just says they are hiding and doing something that they shouldn't while in a relationship. I have found things out my snoping through a now ex's phone and I could not keep it to myself that I had found out about it.

Sometimes it is good not to know and let nature takes it course. The true colour of a person will unveil itself during the relationship and it is up to you to decide your next course of action. It can be more irritating if you poke into his privacy. Most men doesn't like their mates to be busybody. To allow the relationship to flourish both cannot be strong headed. Men are natural hunters and women are their hunted preys. Being a tame lioness will raise his white flag and stop his roving eyes!

Sometimes it is good not to know and let nature takes it course. The true colour of a person will unveil itself during the relationship and it is up to you to decide your next course of action. It can be more irritating if you poke into his privacy. Most men doesn't like their mates to be busybody. To allow the relationship to flourish both cannot be strong headed. Men are natural hunters and women are their hunted preys. Being a tame lioness will raise his white flag and stop his roving eyes!

I think ding some spying could be really like finding a hammer to knock on your head. I guess, we just need to keep away from the private stuff of our partners, build a great relationship with them and give them our trust.

Glad to hear that you worked everything out. It would be hard for me to trust my partner after that. Once a person loses trust it is very hard regain that back. It does happen but hopefully he will keep the relationship going good.

You're a tough one! i salute you for that. Honesty is a big deal in having a relationships,it often leads to misunderstandings and heartbreaks. Your situation is just one example that affects being dishonest.I think that both of you has a mistake,you hide that you open his emails and he hides about the third party.Well i guess no one wins in between. but you have a good move if he dumps you then you dump him then.. ahaha that;'s it. there are many other guys out there.

In a relationship, you cant fight about every little thing. I couldn't be a private investigator in a relationship. I hope you find it easy to trust your boyfriend. People talk behind your back for different reasons. Maybe he was practicing or preparing to talk to you. Maybe he was trying to get the other person to talk comfortably about their problems so they related and said that. It isn't always negative. You cant be so insecure.

I'm short, brief, and get to the point. Find another boyfriend, you don't need this pressure or doubting your relationship.

Trust is one of the fundamental of a good relationship... personally i have a high respect on what we so called privacy... all of us have the rights to our own privacy...being unfaithful is such a turn off though it depend on how it happen... I salute you for standing on what you think is right... good job!

hi Imamom If he is cheating then its time to have a face to face talk. so if the jerk thinks its okay to be lovey dovey to other girls all the time,its time you told him to shape up or ship out. If he really loved you he would not sa y "you turn me off." for one thing how can he feel you turn him on when you have the proof of his playing the field. I would show him the door and tell him, "goodby sayonara adios and do not let 'the door hit you on the way out. You are done., leave now." He said you are just creating a fireball. well thats just great.shows how much love he does not have for you wise up and find a faithful man instead.

In relationship it is the trust and confidence plays the very important role and do you know once you loose the trust & confidence in your partner then it is very difficult to keep the faith on your partner. In short it is the path towards your breaking down of relationship.

I agree! In every relationship, both couples should always be transparent to each other about everything. And I guess that's what really makes a relationship much stronger and healthier. :)