your husband's little privacy....do you agree?

Hi vernaC. Well I don't know about the woman's point of view but men do want this space. It is kind of weird though. We like it when you ask us questions. But then we prefer not to answer them and expect our partners to understand us. When you ask us questions about those small things, we get the assurance that you love us the way you used to before. And when you respect our privacy and do not push it too hard when we feel that it is not important or not relevant for you to know the answer, then we appreciate the fact that you give us space. It is kind of weird but that is how it works in most of the cases. But it should not be the case when men are cheating. Then one needs to poke their nose. Anyways have a nice day ... -SuperShames-

My other half and I are apart at least half the year, but even when we're together, we both have privacy, and respect each others privacy. I keep a journal, and he doesn't read it-- I never read his email. I always just thought of it as common courtesy, because yes, we are a couple-- but we are still individuals. We share everything when we wish to, but both of us have always respected and trusted each other enough to say " I would rather keep this to myself". He actually requires privacy LESS than I do-- I have always been a private person. I think as long as there is trust and mutual respect, privacy won't hurt a relationship at all-- and may help it.

HI Verna, I am a woman and I get where your husband is coming from. I have to think it is more a personality trait than a "guy thing". I will tell you that I am an honest person and never ever cheated on any man that I was with. Still, I needed...really needed my space. I needed some time to just be alone. Without it...well, I wasn't much fun to be around. And I really did not want anyone..husband or otherwise..going through my personal stuff. I had nothing to hide but please...just ask me. If I kept a journal, I would not want my husband reading it. At the same time, there would be nothing in it that I would fear him reading if he did . I just need my space and I need to know that I have it. I would never invade someone's personal space and I wouldn't want it done to me. I don't think you should take it personal.

well he deserves privacy but if he has so much more to do,then it needs to be investigated at the last for sure

Of course, everyone needs space. Trust is also part of it. Just trust your husband but make a clear statement that "that privacy" he wants is not tolerating his "boys will be boys" thinking. It is just allowing him to breathe and grow more. Just relax you will feel for sure if something's wrong is going on but I hope you are that vigilant and sensitive. He needs space, you need space and true just, respect and be confident that you are beautiful and smart and desirable still by your hubby. :)

i dont have husband but for me,having no secrets is important.i will feel priveledged and safe if i know even the smallest details of his being.its not that i dont trust him but i will feel happy to know that he trust me enough with all his details in life and i am more than welcome to read or check his emails,letters etc at anytime of the day.and i dont care if he reads mine too.its not that i would want to check it(i had a bf before we know each others passwrds to our emails and facebook but i dont open his emails or facebook) but the feeling that you know everything about him and him knowing everything about me makes me feel safe and lucky enough to have our love,for me its commitment to each other.

I find it nothing wrong for him to have some privacy too.. i mean at first i also do not get it but sooner or later i found out it is essential to have privacy in our own homes.. and even i need that privacy too.

I guess that depends on what kind of privacy. I always have my mobile phone on display, so my partner can see,check, read my messages and even answer any calls. The only privacy I am asking for is- I am not comfortable dressing in front of him- I need my privacy on that matter. Just as the same thing your husband is asking for " a little privacy" Maybe it differs from one and the other person- but still it's privacy. Trust your husband and don't stress yourself thinking or doubting any-thing. Unless you feel something different or odd is happening.

Hmm...that's a bit suspicious if I may say, but I know, everyone needs some space but to have that on a regular basis, like for him to be out of reach for a particular period of time will really be something that should cause me to worry.

Very gracious of you. And your young ones will appreciate this about you (though they may never say it)---how you always understand the little things the little ones must do.

I'd like to think of it as men need their space as well as women do. It doesn't mean that the other one is secretly admiring some one else. It's just that men like to talk about guy things such as cars, sports,,"manly" things. Women on the other hand talk about jewelry, clothing, "womanly" kinds of things. I some times enjoy it when my husband has time with his men friends, gets him out of the house so I can clean!

I think if the husband doesn't give any reason for his wife to betray her trust in him, then I guess it's pretty normal that they also have their privacy spite the fact that they're married. In my case for instance, I give my husband his own privacy, I don't know his passwords on his laptop, emails, I do not check his cellphones. I have no reason to doubt him anyway. You see, I also don't like him looking over my emails or reading my letters or text messages. If there is something important then I know that we will discuss it. Otherwise, we do not hound each other for every single thing about us.

Hi there. Well, you are right, it really hurts us girls when our men says something about the privacy thing. I don't have any husband yet but I have a boyfriend. We are 8 years now and I can say that he is cool with me even if I invade his privacy. I know his fb password, email password and I can even inspect his cellphone, I mean look at it if there's a message. I can even see the whole thing on his bag and wallet. He don't have any problems with that. Sometimes, he also shares a boy's secret but he always tell me that he trust me that I don't tell it to anyone else. He also ask me for an advice if it's needed. I think it's been my hobby to invade his privacy. I think I am just lucky because he is always cool with it.

Okay, when your hubby talks about "privacy" i don't really get it. Privacy about what? In any case, he should let you what's going on in his life and share ideas together as one if not, then don't force it, give him that freedom and space that he calls "privacy" to express himself freely and tell you those things he's keeping secret from you, whenever he feels like. But in the meantime, all you have got to do is to be patient,free your mind of all the bad ideas you might have and above all you've to be careful and watchful try to understand whatever is going on while giving him that privacy. So that if there's anything wrong going on in his life you can help him with it but if there is nothing wrong going on, and he wants that privacy for some bad intentions you'll get result while being quiet, attentive and respectful.

I guess it's just normal. Because somehow, everyone of us needs a matter of privacy in our life. As long as it doesn't concerned cheating other people. :)

I think if the husband doesn't give any reason for his wife to betray her trust in him, then I guess it's pretty normal that they also have their privacy spite the fact that they're married. In my case for instance, I give my husband his own privacy, I don't know his passwords on his laptop, emails, I do not check his cellphones. I have no reason to doubt him anyway. You see, I also don't like him looking over my emails or reading my letters or text messages. If there is something important then I know that we will discuss it. Otherwise, we do not hound each other for every single thing about us.