Home Alone

Well, since I'm always alone I don't have a problem there! In fact, when I do get visitors my motivation to do anything goes right out the window and I spend all my time with my guests. My problem in getting motivated is thinking why bother because no one is ever here and nobody cares if I do it or not, whatever it is. So I do something more enjoyable!

Oh dear. I can very well understand you here. Reason - I have been all alone since jan 2012 becaue my wife got posted in a different city due to work. Now, I have been all alone since then here at my place. The sad part is that I am ill and have been staying confined at home since 2008. So I have nowhere to move out and make friends with. Still, I am feeling much better today as I have access to internet, mylot and a few friends that I have made here. Now on the discussion, well, I dont feel bored but because of ill health somedays I feel really low - weakness - and it doesnt allow me do the basic chores like cooking or even brooming. But then the good thing is that these days are numbered and there are more days when I can be at least towards normal. I hope you can move out in your neighborhood if the loneliness is taking its toll on you and maybe an evening chat over a cup of coffee or even a dinner at your friends place should keep some of the loneliness away. I work as a web developer and despite me being at home, I am blessed with a couple of clients who keep giving me work sometime or the other. And as there is less of work, I always feel excited to do it. I had been a teacher for all my career and I also worked as a career consultant. These professions have helped me have more of patience I guess.

Well, you do have the excuse of being among the walking wounded... how is your hand now, btw? I spend a lot of time alone, and a lot of it could be classified as "wasted", but I don't feel guilty about it. There's tons of stuff I could be doing, but I choose to ignore it.

I live alone so that is not an issue. In fact getting company is sometimes an issue because it prevents me from doing what I want...I love crafting and I don't need much to motivate me into doing something productive. I have been making cards most of the afternoon after working all day....so no I don't work better when others are around...

Hiya GM, Today I could kick myself as I was going to go into Fotolia to see how my few photos were doing on there. I had not been in for ages and ages and it looks like I have to get yet another password doh. Also another truth is that I just do not have much time for anything as I am almost a slave to this Dog at least that is how I feel so much fur and more fur. So I welcome a chance to sit on here and relax for a while. But I also like to get out for a walk the longer the better but I have not had a chance this week at all except for when I just shut the Door on all of them and left the dog too I feel I have a right to be on my own as well.xxx

I actually get more work done when I am by myself. I feel I can concentrate better. But sometimes I do go off and surf the net. What I can get done online at home alone in an hour will take me all day when there are people around.

I have every Monday and Friday to myself, at least I do unless somebody dreams up a meeting for me to go to, which they do quite often. I usually do a little bit of house work but often just dream the day away. Then round about 5 o'clock I start to feel guilty because I haven't been as productive as I think I should have been. On the other hand I deliberately selected those days to be my rest days and so I really ought not to complain when I don't do anything but best! Don't beat yourself up over it; if you have enjoyed the time alone then frankly what you have not done is not important. I feel that even in the best of marriages or relationships a little me time is entirely acceptable. So enjoy it. In fact as you are an hour also ahead of us now you have probably come to the end of your solitary existence, the family are all home and life will return to its chaotic normality.

hi GreenMoo I feel alone a lot becausde I have a roo mie who sleeps alld ay yet feel I am horrid as i w ill not got to bed at 8or 9 pm but go instead at ten. so I take a b reak from mylotting at 9pm and have my disabetic snack and read try ing to relax so I can sleepl. I will be deamned she starts in whenmI have been there for ten minuts whijning lets go to bed and I tell her I am not sleepu and I am busy I go to bed at ten. so another fiftee min uts this time when she whines I yhell at her leave me alone. I will turn out my light at t en. she shuts ip then bujt this is not how I ever envisioned my old age t o be.I wish my son was making moire money so we could again rent a two bedroom apt and share it.but he is not and he has a job whichn so many here fo not. I am shorry I am having a pity p arty too and reall y I am blessed in many way. I have a best friend and a son who cares for me so all is well really . hope you start getting positive vibes too as wehn we pity ourselves it reallyh makes us depressed.

Actually I think I'm more productive when I'm home alone. Having everyone else around gives me excuses not to do things, and the kids drain my energy.

I don't like spending time alone if I'm killing time. I'd like to do it with friends or family, or someone I can talk to for hours. The only time I'd like to be left alone is if I'm trying to do something that needs my full attention, like working and what not. Although whenever I'm playing video games, I also like to be alone since it also requires my full attention.

No wonder you have started more discussions lately than you used to.Have you got into slack farming season? Needn't you make box lunch for your husband and others that do olive harvest.You always keep yourself busy.No sooner had you had time on your hands than you complained of home alone.

No, or not yet I should say... I imagine when my kids are all moving out then I'll probably have more time alone with my spouse. These days I have to get up really early in the morning or sleep really late at night if I want some alone time.

Actually I spend more time home alone because I do not have a girlfriend yet and I live far away from my hometown,so I will make some plan when I am alone at home,such as learn something,or do some sports,or go outside and join some groups of my friends,I think when you have a lot of time be alone at home you really need to make some plans,otherwise you will waste a lot time.

When home by myself I like to do a mixture of things. Like read a book, cook and have a relaxing bath. Sometimes I do things worthwhile other times I just lazy around. Personally I'm happy to do both.

I've been totally on my own now for 7 years and I work better this way. It doesn't really matter if I have a lazy day or a productive day as I don't answer to anyone. If others are about, they are a distraction and I become resentful of the intrusion. I have days when I spend too much time online and if I'm busy with my volunteering and other projects and the housework piles up I get a bit fractious with myself and I need to at least make an attempt to catch up to feel better. I find the best way to go about things is to make a list and prioritise the chores. In other words...get myself organised. If I don't do this, things just become worse. It's great to be on my own but it is crappy that I have to do all the work.