It's just one of those moments
By anne25penn
@anne25penn (3305)
Philippines
November 16, 2012 5:19am CST
I was tidying up my living room today to make room for the Christmas decors that I would be putting up. On a drawer that was cluttered with bills, cards and lists, I found the guest list card from my mom's funeral.
At first it was nothing, I was just curious on who went and how many did come since I recall that most of our visitors came at night. It was just two pages and I scanned the names of who I knew and I was amazed to find that there were some neighbors who came to the wake.
And then all of a sudden, out of nowhere I bawled out. It's been a year since my mom died and I am still crying over her handwriting, over small touches of her. I had to clear some of her stuff today to make room for my brother's clothes.
I am wondering if this is normal or if I am still depressed over my mother's death. I do go out. I actually have just visited a vacation spot here in my country. I wonder if anyone here is like me?
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7 responses
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
16 Nov 12
Hi anne, its been many many hears since my mom passed away and
I still get that feeling sometimes...I a 63 and I still wish I
still had my mother around, just because she was my mother...
There are actually have has times in my life that where I just
thouhgt to myself, I wonder what would my mom do...
so to answer you question, its normal..very normal..it will probably
happen more than once in your life...just go with the flow cry
it oyt and and feel better....
@anne25penn (3305)
• Philippines
17 Nov 12
Growing up, I never fully understood why my mom and her sister would cry over the memory of my grandmother. My grandmother passed away when my mom was 15, her sister was 9. I always put it down to not having grown up with their mother.
But it seems it isn't so. I also lost my dad in 1993, but I have never felt this empty. Maybe it's because the link that we share with our mothers is different. We were practically and literally grown inside our mothers. If that doesn't form an emotional bond, I don't know what does.
Thank you so much for your response. It made me cry again. But I do truly miss my mom.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
16 Nov 12
oh i think it is absolutely normal the way you are feeling. my dad passed away 4 years ago and even now, when i hear something that my dad would like i go to pick up the phone and then it hits me.
take your time, the passing of time will ease the pain some.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
16 Nov 12
There are events that have great influence over us emotionally such as this. That emotional response will most likely be triggered if you see something that she owns, or what she usually did. I somehow know what you're feeling because I've also lost my father 6 years ago.
One thing I can say is, maybe you just need closure. Of course, you can't have it with her now so you have to dig down deep inside you and figure out how you can do this.
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
16 Nov 12
Well, I understand your grief at the loss of your dear mother, and I'm sad and sorry for you.
Although it's been a year, in your case (and so I think that applies to everyone), it is not still enough to heal the wound and the void that it left your loved one.
I, fortunately I still have living parents. I had idea, however, to live with them forever, I think I'll pass too dramatic moments when one of them were missing!
Unfortunately, it is the life we ??reserve these sufferings through which we must unfortunately pass!
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
16 Nov 12
Don't tell anyone but I cried all of a sudden because my life as a new pet owner is becoming unbearable for the time being. It sounds crazy right? I should be over the rainbow for a cute pet. But then again, I don't how much this could go on.
@anne25penn (3305)
• Philippines
17 Nov 12
Having a pet is similar to having a child
. Hang in there. Thanks for your response.
. Hang in there. Thanks for your response.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
16 Nov 12
Same here for me, mom passed a year ago in Sept. everyday I see something that remindes me of my best friend.
@anne25penn (3305)
• Philippines
17 Nov 12
My hubby has asked me to clear away her clothes. I have thought about doing it, but so far until now, her clothes are still in the closet. Thanks for your response.
@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
16 Nov 12
it's only been a year, so it's not surprising, especially since you were with her since day one. i think it's also because you're all alone now. don't be too hard on yourself. crying now and then is actually better than suppressing it, don't you think? where will you be spending christmas and new year?
@anne25penn (3305)
• Philippines
17 Nov 12
I'll be spending Christmas at home. But if I really feel sad, I might go on another trip and spend my Christmas elsewhere. Thanks for your response.
