cultural differences in marriage

I look at arranged marriages as something of a shackle. I would never, no matter what my background, would be privy to having someone waiting for me just because 'my cultural background' says otherwise. I can marry who I want, no matter what!

What works best depends on the person. If you think in Western world people just marry because of love you are wrong. Everywhere people want a better life so look for a partner (no matter if it's a man or woman) who can give that to them. Look at the VIPs, all these scammers, lover boys, pimps, etc etc. Might be you are more willing to work on your relationship if it's arranged as when you get married out of love with the idea it all will work out fine and love is able to conquer everything (which is not the case).

While I do realize that there is a high percentage of marriages in the Western world that do fail, I think that the tradition of getting married for love is a much better way of doing things than getting married because it was something that was arranged for us and we don't have any love for the person that we are married to. What I think is the problem right now in the Western World is that many people don't take their marriages as seriously as they should be taken.

You are right everyone culture is different for marriage in our culture mostly love marriage is not allowed and our marriage ceremony performed at night time. Spend full night on marriage 7 ruonds, then reception etc. But now lots of girls are doing love marriage but she return back because the only few man is good other are lie.

I'm not sure which one works out better. I would probably say the arranged marriage though. Because in these type of cultures it is a lot harder to get a divorce and many try to make their marriage work. Marriage takes a lot of time and commitment either way. For those who have a choice I think they should take as much time as needed before rushing into a marriage.

in our , there is normal for arranged marriage. even i have 2 cousin that i ready married and now they both have 4 children and still married. i think the concept is still the same if u being a couple first, but the different here, the bond that u have , when u are in problem u will try hard to be together ,try to solve it. its not when u couple u are not try hard, but i think the title married there have the magic.

Hi savypat, While I'm inclined to lean toward love and marriage in the western tradition, I agree that it's not working well anymore. Arranged marriage can I think, be just as good if fairness is taught. Many excellent marriages have come out of this way of doing things. The problem as I see it is that cultures that have arranged marriages appear to believe that men are superior to women and because of that women are often treated badly. There is no reason that two people cannot learn to love each other in an arranged marriage, but they have to understand equality. Blessings.

I think the western culture work best because its your choice to stay together are part . In those other culture , its not love its just like a business arrangement that you cant really break from what I have seen . At least in the western world we have the option to chose our own happiness and career . I notice most countries that practice arrange marriage most woman dont do professional jobs , and the men is seen as the head and not a partner . I would rather have a real relationship that ends badly than a pretend one that never ends .

I have been very curious about the arranged marriages too. I have thought about it quite often actually. I once read that the divorce rate in countries that practice arranged marriages is like 1%. I do know there are other things that play in to that besides just the couple and how they are working out though.

I don't know what other kind/types or marriages works better. But for me, I will marry someone I Love, someone I dated and have known for a longer time than marrying a stranger.

I do not know how stable are relationships now whether they have been fixed or been built with real love. There are a lot of factors that can affect marriage, and not unless these people will choose marriage over anything else, then I think getting married would be like changing clothes from one season to another.

hi savypat, I am not married yet but if ever I want to have a marriage that bond with love and not because my family tradition say so. I want to marry someone I love and spend the rest of my life without any monetary condition marriage will be successful if both party will try to work things out. happy mylotting

I believe that in any relationship or marriage, if both parties, the husband and wife, are both willing to make it work -- it will! So, may it be an arranged marriage, or one that is founded in love and attraction, as long as both commits to be with each other to have a happy and working married life, then there's no chance of divorce. Right now, divorce happens even for those who thought they found their lifetime partners.

the more important in marriage is the love, husband and wife need everyday do simple things that will increase the love that one feels to another.

I think that we cannot count only two kinds of marriage. I have learned that in India there are problems, often very big ones, that arise from the custom of paying a dowry. On the other hand, in the western world women work along with men in paid jobs instead of staying at home and they demand then some rights that not all men are willing to give. What I do know is that it takes a lot more than just love to make a good and happy family. Both spouses should be tolerant and respectful of the other. And from what I have seen, it is often better for the children to have divorced parents than to live in a family where agresiveness and hate are always present.

I think neither work very well in my opinion. Lets look at the big picture here. Western relationships, well, man and woman like each other, then fall in love and get married. Arranged marriage, they have no choice. They get married. Remember one key factor here, we are humans, we are just another specie of animal. No animals is 100 percent faithful to the other. The marriages that do work are the ones that are either true love like soul mates or they stay together because they have grown accustomed to each other. Most marriages do not last these days because people are always looking for something different. The man or woman has to be extremely special for it to work. We are creatures of attraction. We feel with our eyes these days, as do most people. So, to commit to one person is a very big decision. And no one should ever make that step unless they are 100 percent sure.