Avoid to have romantic relationships in life
By alberello
@alberello (4752)
Italy
November 16, 2012 3:09pm CST
Dear freinds Mylotters.
In recent discussions, written by Mylotters friends, I have heard a lot about love, relationships, trust, etc.. In short, everything that can happen to those who are, or who has been involved in a romantic relationship in life.
I say, trying to put myself in people, but in the end, however, I should post the usual phrase: "I, despite being 37 years old, have never been involved in a romantic relationship." Infuse I tell the truth!
However, I think I will avoid in my own life to have a relationship. A little about my personal decision, and maybe even a little out of obligation. (I do not like to anyone!).
I ask: Avoid to have romantic relationships in life, maybe it is an important step in my life that I'm somehow jumping?
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17 responses
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
17 Nov 12
I guess you can't stop yourself from falling in love especially if you've seen the right one for you. Since she's not in your life yet, it's better to focus your attention to your problems first. There's always a right time for everything. Don't worry, someone will come to your life definitely. I hope she'll come at the right time. 37 is not yet old. Goodluck in solving your problems. Happy mylotting.
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
20 Nov 12
Maybe, you don't have any malice when you see women. That's why you don't get aroused. Just solve your problems for now. Maybe you'll fall in love in the future. Who knows?
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
17 Nov 12
Well, I agree with you that my first priority is to solve the problems from which I am afflicted.
However, I'm sorry my opinion inconsistent, but I think I never fall in love, because I'm not at all interested. Today I live with my parents, one day I will be completely alone. In fact, my mother thinks I'm castrated because I do not feel libido towards women!
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@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
20 Nov 12
Maybe you don't have any malice when you see women. That's why you don't get aroused. Just solve your problems for now. Maybe you'll fall in love in the future. Who knows?
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
17 Nov 12
hello, Alberello! No one can force you to be involved with someone if you have decided to stay single all your life. I think it is one decision that all must respect. I also have a friend who has told me the same. Although I sort of felt sorry for her when she confided in me, I just want to think that she remains happy with her decision. I think there was really something that happened from her recent relationship that made her say that she'd rather grow old single than be with someone whom he can never be sure to be with her all through life.
@uchelink (200)
• Nigeria
17 Nov 12
Are you a catholic or you want to become a Rev. Father...? Lol
what of your missing rip? you want her to die longing for the day you will come take her to ulter....lol
i think there are alot of girls longing for your love... Just look for one that will understand you.
Happy mylotting....!!
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
17 Nov 12
I can not find answers to this question, as I emphasize that it is also the result of my personal choice to be alone forever.
The rest does not matter!
Happy Mylotting to you, too!
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
17 Nov 12
Well, how you were able to read my discussion, stay single forever, it is also my decision. In fact, one day I could always break away from living at the pleasure of my parents, but I mean still alone.
I see, however, also an obligation because I have also written a sentence in brackets: (I do not like anyone), but to me, instill what do I care?
@bluespygirl (2112)
• Philippines
17 Nov 12
I wonder if you had bad experience in relationship that is why you try to avoid it? It is up to you if you don't want to be romantically involve.
We are bout the same age and I have friends who chose to be single until now.
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
17 Nov 12
No, dear, from what you have been able to read in my discussion, I have never known anyone and have never been involved, so I have no experience of it positive, nor negative it. I who refuse any contact with a possible relationship. Mainly for personal choice, and secondly, for almost duty.
@bluespygirl (2112)
• Philippines
18 Nov 12
I don't blame you if its your choice to be single. I had said that I have some friends who are still unattached too. I understand if you feel it as a duty.
A girlfriend told me, what's wrong being single? She says that she don't need a boyfriend or husband to prove something in the society or just to please people..
It's a choice and others shouldn't judge
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
17 Nov 12
I have a friend 44 years old who says the same thing.. he says hes never found that special someone in his life.
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
18 Nov 12
Well, maybe my case is a little different from that of your friend.
As he reached the age of 44 years said he had not yet found his proper person, that person I just do not look, not even!
@passion4fassion (996)
• Philippines
17 Nov 12
avoiding to the romantic relationship is not good my friend well for me being in the relationship it makes you grown more and learn to develop your self more its important in life 
right my friends lotter
right my friends lotter@alberello (4752)
• Italy
17 Nov 12
Well this is your opinion and I respect that, but I do not share it!
Mine is the decision to stay single forever!
I never want another person in my life!
@neelia27 (896)
• Philippines
17 Nov 12
maybe you haven`t met the right person for you cos i believe in destiny no matter how you try to avoid it if it is destined to be yours then it will be.. why not try to be in love... being in love does not mean that you are getting married right away its for you to have some inspiration and waking each morning knowing that there`s someone thinking of you too..
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
17 Nov 12
Well, you know I even staying at home, living with my parents and a younger brother, I did not step in any case very well, because my family has a series of problems.
however a little for my personal choice, some almost "must", I avoid any contact with a possible romantic relationship.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
17 Nov 12
I have avoided romantic relationships for close to twenty years! I don't want them anymore! I have had my heart broken! Treated like crap! Ignored! Smothered! Totally misunderstood! Taken advantage off! On top of all this I thought I needed and wanted that! I thought long and hard and decided I didn't want or need them! Relationships are hard work! I can drive a person crazy and vice versa! I really don't know how to work on a relationship! I just have not had a romantic relationship in all those years,I have had no relationship with any men except as friends. I like this way and I am happy!
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
17 Nov 12
Well, you've had the same decision, because, as I have been able to read, you've had failures in the past.
But I've always been out of this experience. So I avoid leaving before even get involved.
@uchelink (200)
• Nigeria
17 Nov 12
Whether in a romantic relationship or not ... Relationship is a relationship unless you don't want to get yourself involved into a relationship,but i think is good to find someone who you can confide with,share and lean on... Though your Mom is there for you but there is nothing another body that trust and cherish.
know for sure that is not everything you would want to share with your parents...
Being in a relationship is a good thing...
@lemeask (25)
• Pakistan
17 Nov 12
That is very interesting discussion, well this is your decision, you are seeing according to your experience. but i am surprise that how can you avoid love, relationship, trust etc. These are the feelings of the person. without feeling we are just like stone which don not have any feeling. In my point of view relationship is very important part of the life. Your shouldn't avoid these things.
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
18 Nov 12
Well, how you were able to read my discussion, I avoid this in the first place for personal decision, while in second hand, almost my duty!
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
18 Nov 12
Yeah there are many people who have decided not to have a relationship in their life. And they are content happy with their decision. Some people feel they could never make that decision but when individuals get into a bad relationship they can start to understand how their life might be better if they were single.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
20 Nov 12
That is a decision only you can make for yourself. We can't argue with that.
You have a choice to avoid it but you can also choose to change your mind about that any time. 
@STOUTjodee (3573)
• United States
17 Nov 12
Some people are too involved in their career/job that they don't want to be in a relationship. I think that the person is the only one who knows how to live their life. At least your honest to say that you haven't been in a romantic relationship. Who's to say you haven't found the right person yet? Just keep being honest with your feelings!
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
17 Nov 12
Well, you have, in a sense, centered the aim of my discussion, I emphasize especially the last sentence you wrote: Just keep being honest with your feelings.
The right person in your life, in my view, can be found at any time.
@Bluebell18 (636)
• United States
16 Nov 12
Hi Alberello,
Maybe I'm spit balling, but it sounds like you have some trust issues when it comes to romantic relationships. (Not that there's anything wrong with it). Love is a very delicate feeling that can easily blind you and tear you in shreds. No one, not even someone's who's 37, is immune to that.
As the years passes by us, loneliness is prone to kick in. Everybody deserves a little love/romance/spice in their life. From your pick, you look like a nice guy. It's going to take some time, so don't jump too far!
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
17 Nov 12
Well, I think you're right. Maybe I need to take some more time before think about love.
I currently have serious problems to solve, one among them is the work that I did not.
Then maybe with time, things come by themselves, as in the cycle of life.
@vernaC (1491)
• Romania
17 Nov 12
Have you already met someone whom you realized you have a strong feeling for the person? For someone to realize that the feeling is strong, this kind of feeling
will stay in you for years, no matter how much you avoid, the feelings stay. If
you havent experienced this yet, it's easy to say what you are saying now, but
if you already encounter this experience, are you not tired of avoiding it?
If you were able to avoid most of your life, then I'd say you must be a very tough man.
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
17 Nov 12
Well, you know that my mother calls me as "castrated." And yes, I tell you this because I almost believe to be an asexual.
I do not feel libido towards women (and even for men who, however, I prefer them!)
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
17 Nov 12
Life has a way of placing us where we need to be. True love is a funny creature. Sometimes it won't show up until later in life when we are really ready for it. Always be open for love. True love tends to show up when one least expects it. No matter how you feel now or how hurt you are from not having a true love to this date, you are not going to want to miss your true love. Relax and stay open.
@xiejiaotu (217)
• Malaysia
17 Nov 12
sometimes i found what you say is right because once ago i had been stuck in all this relationships things. now i don't plan to have it now and maybe will be in future if i met one.
