i am not so friendly
By ungu89
@ungu89 (1999)
Malaysia
November 17, 2012 8:21am CST
i find that i really hard to make new friends.
since school i only have few friends.
but i think that i learn, i can be so much annoying after be friend with me.
before we finish school. me and 10 other class member. we sit together and said, today i want we be honest, tell how about me after 2 years we were friends.
i surprise when one of them said, at first before she know me, she look me that i was very arrogant ,never smile at her . we become friend when my teacher arrange our sit in class.
after 2 years together, she tell me in not so arrogant, but i talk much, always talk, non stop . i laugh
so, look like i m not so good to make first impression, maybe i just dont know to start conversation
so, look like i m not so good to make first impression, maybe i just dont know to start conversation2 people like this
5 responses
@meowchie (992)
• Philippines
18 Nov 12
Yeah I know what you mean :) Hehehe! Each and everyone has characters and moods that differ from each other.. What we are hoping is to meet in a certain "like" that we can be one, if not at least get along with.. =) It will always require us to ADJUST for us to socialize with other people :)
I would honestly love to have you even as an online friend.. I treasure even online friends.. The longest 1 had is from Indonesia too, we've been friends online for 5 years now =D
Catch ya around dear :)
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
17 Nov 12
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Well i can understand your issue very well as i too was like u at school, very shy and introvert. But then i realized the increasing need to socialize with the people around me so that they can understand me and if possible help me if i need them. I think it is absolutely OK if u are not quick at making friends after all it is better to make friendship slowly rather than making many friends at a time. I hope u overcome your fear and try to socialize with others.
What say?
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
21 Nov 12
Thanks a ton for your response. Hey i think u have to overcome this fear in you. u cannot be the same all the time and the situations also wont be the same and it will keep on changing and it will check your patience and character. With such nervousness and fear, it will hardly benefit you. U have to make certain changes in you, i am not saying you to change completely but to make some changes that will help u grow as a person.
What say?
@ungu89 (1999)
• Malaysia
22 Nov 12
ya, i know. maybe when the time i reach the time to finish my study, i don't prepare my self so much for next step in my life.
it just like really big changes is coming.
with so many responsibilities .
because before i always try to run if someone want give any responsibility to me.
maybe because of that, it make me feel like this now
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
20 Nov 12
To me it doesn't really sound like you don't really make a good impression, but it is clear to me that you are a pretty nervous person. You see, I believe that the reason that people think that you talk to much when you first meet them is because of the fact that you want them to like you and to do this you just talk about everything. Instead, try to not talk too much and leave something a mystery for them to discover later on in your relationships.
@squallming (1775)
• Malaysia
20 Nov 12
Well, it is the first impression that would affect or determine most part of a relationship. It was quite lucky for you that the two of you can sit together during the school. Through a long time having to be together, your friendship will grow over time and you can change the perception your friend has on you. Of course if you can give anyone a good first impression would save you from a lot of problems.
@shadowvelton (20)
• Brazil
17 Nov 12
Be calm, you can do many friends. If you want you can add me as a friend.
A big hug to you.
