So Judgemental...

I have to admit that I am very judgmental, but that I learnt at a very young age, because I didn't fit in, I was judged as worthless, ugly and stupid, bullied at a young age right through to adulthood, I was never worthy, never good enough, and rejection became commonplace. Then I came to judge myself, I am at times my own worst enemy because I judge myself on how others perceive me. That is probably why I have such low self esteem and little to no confidence. This in turn has made me angry and yes full of hate, so in turn I judge other people and I actually reject people before they have a chance to reject me, I have defense barriers up so people don't get near me and yes as well as judging myself harshly I will judge others with equality.

If everyone around you say that you are a bad man, you would really be a bad man. This might be a purpose of being judgemental.

Hi pumpkinjam For me, I am quite judgemental - often like a critic who tries to see the pros and cons of almost everything and I do consider this as an unhealthy thing at times. Maybe this is so so deep rooted in me because I am a cuspian (virgo and libra). I think many of us are taught to be that way - judgemental. But many a times it comes to us as an instinct - like for me. Without being judgemental, would make us similar to animals who go mostly bu their instincts and whims. It is unfortunate though but needed for the society which we are a part of.

I think that when a person of a different belief tries to help one in his problems, in some ways, he may sound judgemental to the one he is giving advice. Why? It is simply because they have different set of standards. This one can be acceptable to this person but may be unacceptable to the other. When you hear something that is new to you, would you believe in instant? Many would say No. So whenever we hear different beliefs, logics, explanations and the likes, we are often reluctant to believe and sometimes, our minds are closed to them. We may think that they are lying and are just trying to fool us, or for some, they are being judgemental. There are times that a person is really just wanted to share what he knows that he thinks may explain and help the other. But the problem is he was not able to deliver or say his words in a manner that would very considerate of the other. So I think that it also has something to do on how you choose your words and how you deliver them. In times like this, Colossians 4:6 could be a great help which says, Let your speech always be with grace, as though seasoned with salt, so that you will know how you should respond to each person.

For me I usually judge people but my judgement is true and I don't distort or invent opinions. I definitely have many first impressions on people some of them true some of them turned out false.

I know that being judgemental is quite natural for human beings. However, it is written that we should not judge other people. And they say too, "that don't judge the book by its cover." What I don't like about being judgemental is judging someone wrongly. It's hard to deal with people who do this. The reputation of one being judged is affected and it is unfair.

I think it is by nature that we humans tend to do it...we are judgmental in everything that we encounter or experiences in life...be it good or bad...I think we don't have the right to judged a particular person...but we can't actually blame ourselves for being such if we actually found it to that person.

I think that everyone is judgmental over someone or some thing. it is human nature, it is what we do in thos judgments that makes us the eople we are.

Honestly sometimes I do prejudice or judge other people, I really don't know the reason behind it but sometimes there's a point where in after I've said something bad I realized that nobody's perfect and I don't have the right to judge them.

ya people remain judgemental all the time,but its all about us and how we welcome and take it in the stride with great zeal and positive effect matters a lot for sure

I agree and I admit. I am guilty for being judgemental. But you are right. sometimes the reason why we are becoming judgemental it is because we have experienced something about the race, culture or types of people. so once we see one we would say that "that person is.. " based on what had experienced. But hey we are humans and it is part of human nature to remember the pain when hurt. But some being judgemental are taught. A kid having bad feeling about a certain race of kid may be brought about that parents' are racist or judgemental too. Learned from role modeling perhaps.

We all have values and I think, most of us are cautious. I think it is OK to evaluate another viewpoint or religious beliefs. But not to personally attack. We can agree to disagree. But we don't need to agree with each other's viewpoints, opinions or beliefs. We can be open to learn from others but at the same time, maintain our own understandings and beliefs. We do need to be kind to one another.