Did you ever miss a wedding party for some reason?

Wedding  - I am sorry to say that I cannot attend my nephew's wedding party today because I am faraway from them and busy with my work.
China
November 18, 2012 7:54am CST
Today is one of my nephews' wedding party. To be exact, it is my wife's eldest sister's son's wedding. On this happy moment in life, I feel sorry that I cannot go to attend their wedding party because I am so faraway from my hometown and my work does not allow me to ask for leave. If they could hold this wedding party during the winter vacation, it would be different. I am sure to be able to attend it. But fortunately, my wife is in the hometown for their wedding party. I wonder whether any of you has ever missed a wedding party for some reason like---busy work and being faraway from the wedding place. Anyway, I made a long distance call this morning to congratulate them on their wedding wishing them all the best. November 18th, 2012 (21:55p.m.)
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@AmbiePam (94045)
• United States
19 Nov 12
I have missed many of my cousins weddings. I have over 75 first and second cousins. It was just be impossible for me to attend them all. Plus, almost all of them live at least two hours away.
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• China
31 Dec 12
Hello AmbiePam and 3snuggleBunnies. There are indeed quite some weddings we can not keep up with in our life, but there are still some we cannot miss as they are very close to us if they are close to us in distance instead of those far away from us. Thanks for your responses and take care.
• United States
1 Dec 12
Egads one could go broke trying to keep up with all the birthdays and other significant events in ones life. I can't imagine trying to keep up with everyone w/o walking around with a family tree to know who's related to who and how.
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@carolbee (16230)
• United States
1 Dec 12
Morning williamjisir. That's ashame you will have to miss the wedding but I do understand. Sometimes it's not possible to get away. We did miss one of my husband's employee's wedding in Oct. We felt bad but there were a couple of things happening the same day/night and we just couldn't attend. We tried to work things out so we could do everything that evening but it just didn't work. A gift was sent so at least they know we remembered and cared. Take care, carolbee.
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• China
18 Jan 13
It is good to know that you dealt with it by sending them gifts instead. So I think that they could understand your situation that day. Have a pleasant year, carolbee.
@youless (112589)
• Guangzhou, China
20 Nov 12
Perhaps I haven't experienced to miss a wedding party that I like to join. Since your nephew's wedding was already planned, so it was too difficult to change the schedule. As you know, there were many guests and it was not possible to find a perfect date that suited everyone.
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• China
3 Jan 13
It is hard to make both ends meet. That is why I had to give up going to his wedding, but my wife went to the wedding instead of me. Take care, youless.
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
21 Nov 12
William, two months ago i didn't attend one of my faraway nephew's wedding. Because they are living very faraway from us and my hubby can't take leave at that time. Besides that, my son is still attending exam at that time. So, we just send wedding gift and give them a call at that time. I hope they won't feel disappointed because we are unable to attend their wedding. Hope your that nephew don't feel disappointed since your wife able to attend on behalf of you.
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• China
15 Jan 13
My nephew did not feel disappointed in spite of my absence since my wife was there for the wedding. So I guess that it was the same with your nephew who knew that you were not able to attend his wedding due to those reasons. Happy New Year to you, myfb.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
18 Nov 12
Wedding is one of the most memorable event that we really feel bad to miss. I also missed my brother's wedding and really feel bad about it. I was so sick that we cannot travel- no matter how I really want to be there, but I can't Wish your nephew all the best
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• China
16 Dec 12
Thank you, jaiho, for the response. All the best to you.
@tedifa (1232)
• Indonesia
21 Nov 12
I miss my friend wedding party last month for some reason.I can't go there because i have lots of works to do.I call him for sorry,and he understand about that.But if my close family wedding party,i will try to come.
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• China
3 Jan 13
My newphew knew that it was impossible for me to attend his wedding as I could spare my time to travel all the way for about twelve hours for his wedding. If we were close to each other, that would not be a big problem at all. Thanks for the response, tedifa.
@sunita64 (6469)
• India
18 Nov 12
I have missed many marriages due to unavailability of leave. At times I feel by doing a job you really become a servant and at times if you want to attend a function you ar unable to do so. But the salary stops you for leaving to be a servant.Recently there is a marriage in the family but I have to attend a presentation which will provide funding for my work. so this is life.
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• China
21 Nov 12
Hello sunita. I appreciate your response a lot. The salary is one of the reasons that stops me from asking for a leave. It would be a lot of money reducted if I ask for a leave for a few days. If I ask for a leave, it needs to be five days at least because it is too far away from here to my hometown. I agree that this is life. Take care, sunita.
@ctryhnny (3460)
• United States
18 Nov 12
I'm sorry you can't make the wedding of your nephew. It's sad when we live far from our loved ones and can't make it to important events like this. I didn't get to go to my daughters wedding for the same reason. She lived in California and I was here in MA and couldn't afford to fly there.
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• China
19 Nov 12
It is really regrettable that you cannot make it because of the mentioned reasons. I still have another nephew and a niece who have not got married yet. When they choose the date for their wedding, I would like to ask them to make it during winter holidays when I am back to my hometown, which takes about twelve hours ride on a train. Take care, ctryhnny.
@ChoukseyMK (1045)
• India
18 Nov 12
several occasions i missed wedding parties due to not availability of tickets and leave. i missed even wedding of my closed friends and relatives.
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• China
24 Nov 12
It is a regret when we cannot make it to a wedding. I am sure that they can understand us if we cannot make it for some reasons. Thanks for the response, ChoukseyMK.
• India
18 Nov 12
Williams Right now i have 7 invitation cards lying on my table, 3 are for wedding in my city, one from the city where i taught last, the groom is son of ex-student of mine one is from Iowa in USA and one from Philippines, one from KL. I will attend the local ones and that one 60kms away too. For abroad i have sent gifts already, will call on the wedding day,
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• China
3 Dec 12
Hello Professor. You are so nice as to still give them gifts to those who live far away from you. We do the same. Our gift to them is money as it is what everybody does here in our place. Have a good day, Professor.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
18 Nov 12
I only go to a party, no matter if it's a wedding party or not, if I feel well enough and I want to be at that party as well. I don't like to sit/be in between people I do not like or know at all.
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• China
3 Dec 12
It is important for us to be at a party in which we know some acquaintances, which makes us feel good. Thanks for the response, WUK. Take care.
@prashu228 (37521)
• India
18 Nov 12
yes many times i miss wedding parties, if the person is not really close or i am not interested to visit the party. But i feel its a must to visit the relatives parties as they are important .
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• China
3 Dec 12
Each time when we are in our hometown, we take part in our relatives' paprties. None is missed if we are back in our hometown during the summer and winter vacations. Take care, prashu.
@joycseer (845)
• Malaysia
18 Nov 12
Hi williamjisir, yeah normally if the wedding is held overseas and requires a flight to be there, surely i will miss it. This is because i wouldn't be able to apply such leave off if i am working. So, i understand how you feel. Sorry to hear that wouldn't be able to attend the wedding. But i am sure they would understand, and have received your blessing for them. =)
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• China
28 Nov 12
Thank you for the understanding in the response, joycseer. Have a wonderful day.
@margies (128)
• Indonesia
18 Nov 12
my best friend are getting married on this December , but unfortunately i could't attend , due to a situation that isn't possible , because there is a great family event which coincided with the celebration. So later I can only congratulate and apologize to her that i couln't attend her wedding party and her reception
• China
21 Nov 12
When we cannot go to attend it, we usually make a call to congratulate it. This is also what I did to my nephew. Take care, margies.
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
30 Dec 12
Yes, I've missed a couple of weddings before. One that I missed was on my husband's side. His uncle was getting married again (his last wife had passed on). My husband and I were fairly new parents at that time and did not want to leave our baby with someone else, nor did we want to bring a baby to a wedding. Plus, it was a bit of a distance to drive...not something we wanted to subject our baby to. So, we didn't go. Another time was a few years ago. This time it was on my side of the family (a cousin of mine had a daughter who was getting married). Although I don't know this cousin or her daughter very well, it was near my home (about 10 miles away), so I wanted to go...just so I could see them and the rest of the family. However, my car (AKA the family car) was in need of repair. The only drivable vehicle was my husband's work truck. It was a single cab which meant I would have had to go alone...either that, or take one of my kids with me. I didn't want to do either. I wanted to be able to go as a whole family. Since that was out of the question I didn't go at all.
• United States
1 Dec 12
I'm sorry you don't get to go. But you know like you said you can only do what you can do with the time off your employer allows. I hope if anything you send them a nice gift in place of your presence. I don't get invited to weddings too often and the last one I wanted to miss totally but I also had to work but hubby insisted I go to the reception.
@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
2 Dec 12
I missed one of my cousins weddings. They held it on a saturday morning on a long weekend however i was unable to get the friday off to travel to where they were getting married. I felt bad for missing it but they understood...and my mom and sisters attended.
• Pamplona, Spain
14 Jan 13
Hiya William, Missed the Weddings of my Nieces as we live so far apart is the main reason and they are not much into being online or even letter writing either. So I missed their Weddings and a few other Weddings too in part again through lack of contact. They are my closest Family as well but its enough for me to know that they are all well and I now have a lot more little nieces. Congrats to their Wedding pity you could not make it over there.xxx