parents in gambling.. are they thinking?
By vernaC
@vernaC (1491)
Romania
November 19, 2012 6:56am CST
In squatter area where I used to live, I see jobless parents, gathering around and gambling from morning till night or worse till the next morning. Their homes, kids,
partners are being neglected. It's very common that they ask money from their spouses for their vices. Another heartbreaking is when they ask the money that their kids have
worked hardly. These kind of people are the ones who go to their neighbors to borrow
money and it's their kids or spouses who paid back. I wonder what's in the mind of these people. Are they aware the pain they are causing to their love ones? Do they
care what's happening in their homes? It's heartbreaking the problems that this
gambling has brought to ones homes.
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10 responses
@morgandrake (2136)
• United States
19 Nov 12
One of my aunts was a gambler. On the bright note, she did not have any kids. But she borrowed a lot of money from my grandparents.
Honestly, it is a disease. There is a certain "high" that comes from winning...and losing for that matter.
Unfortunately, the disease runs in families. If you have a relative with a gambling problem, you really should avoid gambling yourself.
Because of this, I am not sure that you can say that the parents that you are describing are thinking.
And if they are, they are probably thinking of how to make money the quickest. When you are poor and out of a job, gambling looks tempting. Or even if you have a job, it looks tempting. Look at the number of people who pay lottery tickets every week in the United States.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
19 Nov 12
Gambling is like a disease, some people just not thinking clearly after they got deeply infected with it. I saw some wealthy individual who owns businesses, once got deep into gambling, they gamble away their wealth quickly and easily. Eventually, they got nothing at all. So, is that a disease or not? I definitely advice people to think twice before they get into this game. It is not fun at all.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
20 Nov 12
It is useless to help these people who wouldn't help themselves. I also feel bad about their attitudes when the government decides to use the land where they are living to for eithet government or publuc use. You would often hear them say that the government should provide them a relication site with this and that. I mean,yex,they also have to be placed in an environment where they can survive. What is funny is thay they demand so much. If thry didn't leave their provunces, thry wouldn't be just luving anywhere. What is more irritating is their lack of enthusiasm to look for a job. They are awfulky contended in just staying in thr streets and ask for alms. And boy,aren't they just so rich...rich in the number of children they have. They could barely have, az dezcent meal 3 times a day and yet thete are families who have as much as 8 kids! Thst is ond example if being urresponsible parent. Theu do not have permanent jobs and yet they beat children every year withoyt thinking thst each child should be brought up in a manber that it should have a roof over their heads, food on the table and of coyrse education should always be considered. Sowhay happens when kids grow up not goung to school? They work at an early age or sone eoulx just gros old doung illegal activities or being constantly present in their gambling sessions. Such terrible life these parents bring to their kids!
@gunsing (142)
• Indonesia
20 Nov 12
jobless but gambling? unbelievable.
I hate gambling and I never want to try it. You can say I believe in statistic, and gambling is stupid, the odds are very low, what, wishing goddess of fortune to come?
I don't know with your country, but here gambling is forbidden, we can call police if we know people gambling and they can be jailed for that.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
19 Nov 12
I dont think that parents can be thinking clearly when they are gambl;ing. they are playing with a future of their child as well as themselves. gambling is not the answer to problems. it just brings more on.
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
19 Nov 12
Gambling is a sickness in some cases such as this. They have no control over their problem, just like drinking it can be addictive. When they win money they want to gamble more and win more but end up losing more. When they lose they want more money so they can get back the money they lost but end up losing more money. I would not ever start to gamble with my own money. I went to Atlantic City once a month with my grandparents cause they went and tried to save more money than they gambled away. This way at least all the money wouldn't be squandered by themselves and I would be saving up most of it in my bank acct as I always have before. My grandmother lost a sister to cancer and took all of her money and belongings and including her house that she sold and so she had a pretty adequate savings for awhile, but she didn't get as much money for her sister's house as she should have which was bad. She sold it for something like 20 grand when in fact it should have been sold for at least 50 grand or more at the time so she wasted money on that and on other things. They could have given us a better life all through our lives but they never were great with handling money and giving it away to the right people. Another deep problem within my family. I feel bad about people who gamble, borrow money and then have their relatives go pay it back though, that is just not right at all. They need some serious help. I would not be paying it all the time to be their crutch or whatever you want to call it.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
19 Nov 12
I know it can't really be carried out, but the ideal solution would be a psychological test for people, and the ones who fail the test, couldn't have a kid. Some people are so careless. If they have kids, the kids should be first, not their addictions or wishes...