No Drama!

Canada
November 19, 2012 11:58am CST
I've seen this message many a time. If you've ever been to a dating site, I'm sure you've seen it around, or maybe you are even on that site, and you include that on your info. It's much more popular with girls then guys to say, and I think that's because guys generally don't know what it means. I don't quite get it, either. You could see it as just an intense situation, but isn't that something people are going for in a relationship, anyways? Passion is drama, love is drama... aren't you looking for that? On the other hand, people could mean it as blowing it out of proportion. Making a mountain out of a molehill. Personally, though, I've seen women do that far more then men. Men are generally fairly easy going, and if something bad occurs, yes, they get quite upset, but it often blows over fairly quickly... so why is it the girls are asking for this? I really don't get it, so, could you please explain it to me, or better yet, tell a story where you had gotten into too much "drama", and why nobody seems to want it.
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@kingparker (9673)
• United States
19 Nov 12
I absolutely agree with you on this discussion. I am not criticizing on women, or discriminating them. They are seems to be a little bit intense when it comes to a situation. Maybe it wasn't a big deal, but they can make it such a huge deal. I was trying to put up with it, and not talking about it most of the time. Anyway, maybe that is how most girls are, and I can't give too much complaint about it.
• Canada
19 Nov 12
So, you're saying that it's the women that are seeing the drama, and reacting to it? What would be drama, though? Could you give an example of something that lead to so much drama?
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
19 Nov 12
Much you say it "drama". women are emotional being, brought about by our hormones. A woman without a tint of drama or expression in her life is dull, believe me. A woman with a tint of drama or expression: You: "honey, I dated someone tonight that why I did not come to see you. I turned off my phone too so no one will disturb me having dinner with this gorgeous woman I mean at the coffee shop." "Honey, her beauty is beyond compare, and her wit my goodness, my jaw almost dropped". HONEY: "Ahh, ok" I think you wouldn't like that woman do you? Just like that. However, a woman full of exaggerated drama and expression is absurd. Suffocating and tasteless. From the above scenario. It wouldn't happend, because the point that she sees you coming, everything in front of her will surely welcoming your face already. with burst into tears and hysterical shouts and sobs and all you can think of as if the world crushed on her feet. LOL I dont think you would like this either. and important thing is Men, be honest and be patient with women. If you love us don't make us upset. LOL
• Canada
19 Nov 12
I hate to be telling you this, but if the average guy had a girlfriend that would just be ok with him doing that kind of thing, then he would love it... and when I say average guy, I'm talking about around 90% of guys, if not more. I mean, it's a guy's dream to just be able to go out and be with whatever girl he wants, but women seldomly approve of that, so if something happens along those lines, he doesn't say anything about it... but if the girl finds out about that, it's secrets and mindgames and all the rest... But really, why would a guy be upset if the woman wasn't bothered by him doing that? I actually know a married couple that's a bit like that, and he sees her as the greatest girl he's ever known, so she's at the top of his list... but he can still have a list in the first place. And also, if a guy saw a girl who he was saying that about, while with another girl, then it seems like the girl he's with isn't quite good enough for him. I see that as more of a problem then the woman saying "Ahh, ok".
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
19 Nov 12
Some people really likes adding a but of drama in their lives. And yes, girls on dating sites could be doing that just to make themselves think that they could be somebody else. They do go.to.thr extent of making up stories. Trying to br cute and all. Well, a slight twist if what she really is might be acceptable on a certain degree. But goung overboard, well I don't think anybody would be interested to talk to you anymore.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
19 Nov 12
Good subject but I can't help you if it comes to drama. I don't like it, so stay away from it, even stay away from most people to have my peace. I also can't say women are more great in making a mountain out of a molehill (our expression is: a musquito out of an elephant btw).. men are great in doing so also. Especially if it comes to women having friends (no matter if these friends are male or female), women going out without them (with or without telling them first) etc. I guess it's all about a different way of communicating? Or not knowing what exactly is the "big deal"?
• Canada
19 Nov 12
Ha! I love the line, "making a musquito out of an elephant". I'm going to try using that for the future... So, is it "drama" if one of the two has a problem with the casual things that the other does? For example, like you were saying, if a girl has friends that she hangs out with, and the guy doesn't like it, and he tells her off and gets upset that she hangs out with those friends... would that be called drama? Or, here's an example, I was with a girl who had gotten out of a relationship pretty recent to when I was seeing her, and she really didn't want a relationship, and kept bringing that up, although me and her were... frisky... lets say. I hated it when she would push the "no relationship" part, and I told her that, but she would regularly do it. Would this be considered drama? And, who's side was more of the "making drama" side? I'd tell her I didn't like going into it, but she regularly did, seeing it as mandatory to go over regularly. We both did things eachother didn't like, so what was the cause and effect of the drama?
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
20 Nov 12
I think they should have said 'no unnecessary drama' instead. That explains better.
• United States
8 Dec 12
I think some people have messier lives than others. Here are some examples of drama that I don't want to get into: --Someone who is still talking to and/or trying to get back together with their ex --Someone who hasn't figured out what their adult relationship with their parents looks like and is constantly clashing with them --Someone who is basically not ready for a relationship because they aren't happy with themselves and will become dependent on the next person who befriends them I do agree, though. Us girls are a lot more likely to make things dramatic and it's not always avoidable. Maybe girls say they don't want drama so that they come across as being less dramatic. After all, they are trying to present the best possible image of themselves on a dating site.
@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
19 Nov 12
i think by too much drama, exaggerating events or issues beyond their proportions? sometimes, when one is highly and emotionally stressed, i could say i do sometimes without even realizing it. your idea of a drama though is somewhat obscure to me.
• Philippines
19 Nov 12
well most dating site are like that so they can attract other i guest few in dating site just want to get attention but to much drama is not really good you wont get sympathy