Is your baby girl a tom boy?
By diamondawg
@diamondawg (25)
November 20, 2012 9:14am CST
My youngest daughter who is 9 years old is a complete tom boy!! This all started around the age of 6. She refuses point blank to wear anything remotely girlish, she isn't interested in any of the girls toys, all boys stuff!! She has a lot of friends, and the majority of them are boys. I'm a little worried about all of this as it doesn't seem to be a faze with her, its gone on too long for that. Ive been told she will grow out of this, but I'm not so sure. I don't mind the fact she prefers boys toys over girls, they're more exciting I think. I never wanted to bring my girls up playing with baby dolls and toy hoovers. I have never tried to influence their decisions on what they want and how they think. I believe its u to them to decide for themselves. Do you think this could effect her in later life, perhaps it will be good for her as she knows her own mind. I would love to hear back from folks who have had the same with their girls, did they grow out of it? cheers folks :)
3 responses
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
20 Nov 12
for sure she is,by the basic behaviour she shows and the way in which she reacts and acts with her life and toys without any worries at all.makes me feel bad at times
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
25 Nov 12
To a certain extent, my daughter is a tom boy but then again there are ways in which she is a total girly girl. When it comes to riding bikes and such, the thing that she wants to learn how to do the most is that she wants to learn how to do street bike BMX and I really don't consider that to be a girly thing. However, she also has a huge assortment of makeup and there isn't a day that she goes to school where she doesn't have a little bit of makeup on.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
20 Nov 12
Why are people always pressing girls to be a girl and boys to be a boy? This is 2012 and still boys are not allowed to play with dolls (but we do want them to be a good dad and take care of their baby as well) and girls are not allowed to play or like cars (although they drive in them as well and we all encourage girls to learn about technic which is a good idea since girls/women are way better in fixing small things because of their motorics).
I have 4 daughters, 1 son. My daughters never liked dolls, they wanted to play with cars, airplanes, etc. I let them, and if they had a wish like that for their birthday or St Nicolaas it was fine too. My eldest (2) became models (28 and 26 years old) and do like these female things like shopping, clothes, shoes, the hairdresser etc. Seems to me it's the same with number 3 (now 22 years old) although still less and not caring about clothes that much, more about computers, gaming, she is an animator btw. Only my youngest daughter (just became 7 years old) seems to love to dress over and over and over again. Loves dresses way more as trousers, same with jewelry. Make up she is not interested in. My son always wanted to have a skirt as well. He also had long hair. Now he is 9 years old and knows people are always picking on him. Mostly because he is different. No he is not gay, he is always inventing things, wants to be a professor, he is designing, drawing, painting, interested in all kinds of animals, he can cook, knitt, is a very fast reader (so bored at school) and a great kid. If he has a hero it probably will be Leonardo da Vinci since he feels they are the same. BTW society, school gives a lot of immprent of how a girl/boy should be. No matter if you agree with that as a parent. If your child is not fitting in it will be an outsider. Two options are left over: be alone, be with you and have a lot of self esteem and strong character, or you are bullied for the rest of your life and no matter what you do or try they will still kick you around.
