Blaming a partner to make changes in the relationship.
By nixon56
@nixon56 (15)
Philippines
November 20, 2012 10:21am CST
If everybody will let the truth be known, most of us, if not everyone, would like certain changes in our lives. every friendship, every marriage, every relationships need to evolve. To keep a relationship active, alive and going forward - and this is the responsibility of the couple - both partner must take part in new experience, share feelings, talk about something, plan things and share common dreams.
But most often than not, our mates are held responsible and held at fault when these changes don't take place. It seems like our mates don't hear our complaints, don't take a damn of our suggestions, don't even read our minds and body languages. That is because we wait for them to act. To make our relationship better, we should take the initiative. It is impo9rtant to act than to wait for these changes to happen. Pride, or more specifically, false pride is the prominent reason why we don't take the first move. Break patterns, take the guts to make the first move, have that mutual openness and stimulate that passion in your partner for a lasting tender love and companionship.
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
21 Nov 12
As the saying goes, "IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO". A relationship could not work out if one is not doing his part. Both should share equal responsibilities in building the relationship stronger. And to make this possible, the couple should always meet halfway. Not any one of them should do more than the other. An open communication is the key to their successful relationship.
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@nixon56 (15)
• Philippines
21 Nov 12
I very much agree that communication is the key to a successful and lasting relationship - the honest to goodness kind of communication. Understanding what your mate wants and intend to do could make or break a relationship. Like friendship, commonality makes a relationship romantic but differences bond it together.
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
20 Nov 12
Yeah all of your thoughts sound wonderful. It is true that we should strive to take the initiative but even then things don't always work out. It is best for both partners to adjust and strive to do the things that you mentioned. One partner always taking the initiative get's pretty tiresome. And I'm speaking from experience. At times it can just get to overwhelming and a person can start to feel like they are the only individual that actually cares about the relationship.
@nixon56 (15)
• Philippines
21 Nov 12
Then the relationship is not mutual or is not complimented in the right way. And since we are talking of a couple some positive relations must have occurred between them. The real key here is communication, the honest to goodness kind. If only one of the couple is sincere about their relationship it would have been better that they part ways. What we're talking here is making a relationship grow to the fullest, and that blaming the other half would not make any difference at all, in fact it may make the situation worsen. If the other half would not seem to care at all to improve their relationship, must the other half sit idle and do nothing at all? My concern here is that one should start doing something to change the relationship and not blame or wait for his/her mate to do it for him/her. Only you, the person concern could make a relationship move the positive way; no other person can do it outside of a relationship, except the couples themselves.
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
22 Nov 12
Yes I agree only the couple can make changes. One person making a change is good but it is best when both individuals strive to do their part. I don't feel that a person who is being treated unkindly, or unfair in a relationship should have to do all the work. Which is what all that would boil down too. Hopefully for individuals who are doing that, the other spouse will see their efforts and change their ways as well.
