Birthday On A Holiday...
By Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
Valdosta, Georgia
November 20, 2012 1:37pm CST
Well, this year my birthday falls on Thanksgiving... Not too happy about that to be honest. We are going to my parents house (those of you who know me and the situation know this is NOT good news, Lol), I was not planning on going there but my mother called me crying saying I was her only child that's coming and she really wants us there. YAY for me! So, of course the sucker that I am finally agreed...
Then she called my husband and guilted him into saying yes too. Wow, unbelievable
The biggest problem with this is we have family that just moved down here from another state and they are going to be there as well. My aunt HATES holidays of any kind and when she is miserable so is EVERYONE-she makes sure of that!
So, I told my mom the deal is I will go for a little while and if ANYTHING happens that I do not like I am gone like Donkey Kong!
The biggest problem with this is we have family that just moved down here from another state and they are going to be there as well. My aunt HATES holidays of any kind and when she is miserable so is EVERYONE-she makes sure of that!
So, I told my mom the deal is I will go for a little while and if ANYTHING happens that I do not like I am gone like Donkey Kong!6 people like this
25 responses
@ElicBxn (63594)
• United States
21 Nov 12
Oh, I so hear ya! My birthday lands on Thanksgiving often enough that I totally agree.
However, going to my folks was never a chore, going to my brother's however, is a WHOLE other story...
However, he is the only family I have locally and no matter how I feel about it, it would hurt my sister if I didn't TRY to get along with him... And I don't want to hurt my sister.
Still, I've got to work on Thanksgiving so, for that reason and the fact that her family can't get there on Thursday, my brother's girlfriend is having it on Saturday.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Nov 12
Oh, I didn't mean date as in year. I meant day as in the day of the month! I would never ask someone else their age, that is rude. Lol.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Nov 12
Yeah, thank God mine only lands on it every 7 years. That is MORE than enough, LOL. What date is your birthday?
Ugh, I am So not looking forward to this day... But like I said if ANYTHING happens while I am there I am leaving quick.
I wish you the best of luck when you go on Saturday! 
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
21 Nov 12
hi LovingMyBabies
Looks like you are going to have some dicey time... But never mind, life is always filled with unexpected things happening. But I still will be hopeful and positive nd share with you my trick - When do you plan to leave? maybe you can celebrate the birthday before the actual day and leave the actual day as the Thanksgiving only. That should allow you to enjoy/celebrate better with your family.
and I do hope all goes well this time with you... fingers crossed.
ps.: do you cut a cake on your birthday? If you do, have an extra slice of it for me.
Looks like you are going to have some dicey time... But never mind, life is always filled with unexpected things happening. But I still will be hopeful and positive nd share with you my trick - When do you plan to leave? maybe you can celebrate the birthday before the actual day and leave the actual day as the Thanksgiving only. That should allow you to enjoy/celebrate better with your family.
and I do hope all goes well this time with you... fingers crossed.
ps.: do you cut a cake on your birthday? If you do, have an extra slice of it for me.
I love it when my friends have an extra slice for me@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
23 Nov 12
Yeah that is what I did. Today was just Thanksgiving and tomorrow we are going to have cake and stuff... Today went okay, not great but not horrible either!
I basically just stayed to myself...And left early.
I will have cake tomorrow. I will cut you a slice! =)
@Asylum (47893)
• Manchester, England
20 Nov 12
It must be difficult to have 2 reasons to celebrate at the same time because you cannot really compare it with the opportunity of celebrating them both separately. This is something that many people have to contend with due to being born at Christmas or Easter etcetera, but I suppose that it would be more disappointing during very early age. Fortunately for me I was born in the middle of June so it does not conflict with any significant date.
At least it will not occur every year for you so next year you can enjoy them both separately.
I must confess that being British I was not aware of the precise date of Thanksgiving, but I have just checked and apparently it is on Thursday. Whatever the outcome I hope that you do enjoy the date and wish you a Happy Birthday in advance.
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
20 Nov 12
I am sorry you feel your day will be ruined, and I don't understand why your mom would invite your husband, because he is an ex, right? I wouldn't have invited him without consulting you first..
Anyways, my husband was actually born on Thanksgiving and this year his aunt's birthday falls on Thanksgiving, but unfortunately she lives in another state. My birthday was a couple weeks ago, so back when his parents were alive, they would celebrate Thanksgiving along with both my husband and my birthdays. Here is something to be thankful for, at least your birthday isn't the day before or the day after Christmas like my cousin and sister in law. Seems their birthdays get pushed on the back burner because of that.
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
20 Nov 12
Oops, I forgot. I hope you have a very happy birthday this year..:)
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
20 Nov 12
Oh no, my husband and I are together. We have been married for 8 years. Lol. But I thought he would have said NO because he does not like being there! My mother has a talent of guilting people into doing things though... Unfortunately!
Your absolutely right! I have a friend who's birthday is on Christmas and she HATES it! I cannot blame her for that.
I just don't like Thanksgiving, I hate turkey, I hate crowds of people and I hate who's there this year!! Ugh.
Thank you for the birthday wishes. =)
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@marguicha (223010)
• Chile
20 Nov 12
Happy birthday, LMB! I hope you make the most of the situation as you already agreed to be part of the Thanksgiving party. I would plan on some sort of celebration at your house from now on so that you can say "sorry, but I have plans" to your mother.
@marguicha (223010)
• Chile
21 Nov 12
I also think that you should talk it with your husband so that you put up a common front in the future.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Nov 12
Thank you!
I will make the best of it the best I can and if it gets too bad I will just leave! I am going to do that from now on. I told my mother as long as she is there I am NOT coming for Christmas and she can deal with it... I should not have to be stressed for her or anyone else and I am NOT letting her ruin another holiday.
I will make the best of it the best I can and if it gets too bad I will just leave! I am going to do that from now on. I told my mother as long as she is there I am NOT coming for Christmas and she can deal with it... I should not have to be stressed for her or anyone else and I am NOT letting her ruin another holiday.1 person likes this
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
21 Nov 12
Yikes, that must stink to have your birthday fall on a holiday like that. I'm sure you're a bit torn between family and wanting to do your own thing on Thanksgiving/birthday. I think it's nice you agreed to go to your parents' (even though she guilted you into going). At least you're making the effort to show up. If you're unhappy, then I think you'd have every right to leave. I hope all goes well for you!
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Nov 12
It does stink! I was torn but I agreed because she is still my mother and I hate when she is upset with me...unfortunately! Lol. But yeah if anything happens I am so out of there!
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
23 Nov 12
Yeah, I didn't stay long at all. We left pretty early. Tomorrow we are supposed to have cake for my birthday, hopefully that will go okay. Thank you.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
21 Nov 12
Nov 22nd! I got it. I want to wish you a Happy Birthday!And please do not let your mom spoil your day. And it is your day. Suggestion. Plan to " fall ill all of a sudden" . Leave early , and have a romantic dinner with Hubby. forget the Turkey Day menu. Have something You like.Celebrate Thanksgiving on Friday. You are grown, you can change the rules! I'll think of you and I'll hope for the best.Happy Birthday!
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
23 Nov 12
Saturday will be great, why? Your Hubby Really loves you! If your family Really wanted to celebrate your birthday, they would have had your birthday on Thursday! Like I said for this year your B-day would be on Thanksgiving and Thanksgiving would be on Friday! I'm so sorry. See I am super-sensitive And I have a bad temper, a deadly combination! If the family didn't say Happy Birthday within minutes of my arrival, I would have just walked out!It says more than just yelling! But that's me. Sorry , you story made me angry. I hope you have a great time Saturday.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
23 Nov 12
Thank you so much Sarah!
It took my family 30 minutes to say Happy Birthday to me today... I don't care so much anymore but it still hurts sometimes.
LOL, I should have pretended to be sick! That would have been funny!!
Tomorrow we are having cake for my birthday but I am thinking about saying I am too sick to go...LOL.
Then Saturday I am supposed to be going somewhere with my husband for my birthday, hopefully at least that will be nice...I really hope so!
It took my family 30 minutes to say Happy Birthday to me today... I don't care so much anymore but it still hurts sometimes.
LOL, I should have pretended to be sick! That would have been funny!!
Tomorrow we are having cake for my birthday but I am thinking about saying I am too sick to go...LOL.
Then Saturday I am supposed to be going somewhere with my husband for my birthday, hopefully at least that will be nice...I really hope so!1 person likes this
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
23 Nov 12
Oh its just that plans always get ruined whenever my husband and I try to plan something together. I know my husband always tries to make things nice for me, I didn't mean it that way. Lol.
Yeah I felt like walking out but you know me, I always do things for everyone else instead of me.
Get this, your about to get more mad today sorry! lol. So, we were supposed to have my birthday today at 5pm but my sister called my mother and told her there is a festival down town tonight at 5pm so my mother called me and told me we are changing my birthday time to 1:30pm today instead of tonight so they can go there! Some family, huh? Again I am pushed aside for something else...No big surprise! My husband is FUMING right now about this... 
Oh well, at least I know matter to some people.
Oh well, at least I know matter to some people.1 person likes this
@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
21 Nov 12
Bring booze and get them all plastered... unless, of course, your relatives get mean when they drink. In that case, just bring a flask for yourself. 
It won't be that bad... Really... Go in with a cheery attitude and don't let anything anyone says get you down. Just be so obnoxiously Pollyanna-ish that no one can bring you down. Make your relatives wonder if you've gone all Invasion of the Body Snatchers.
It won't be that bad... Really... Go in with a cheery attitude and don't let anything anyone says get you down. Just be so obnoxiously Pollyanna-ish that no one can bring you down. Make your relatives wonder if you've gone all Invasion of the Body Snatchers.1 person likes this
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Nov 12
I love your responses in my discussions! Lol. That is a GREAT idea, LOL!
I am going to try to make it a good day but if anything does happen it's a good thing that I can just leave when I want to. My mother can get mad if she wants to but I warned her ahead of time that I will leave if crap starts!
I will do that, I am going to act like life is peachy! It will annoy the crap out of them too! 1 person likes this
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
27 Nov 12
If it wasn't your birthday, then I would understand all the family issues that you had to go through. Afterall, it is/was Thanksgiving. I think most families that gather around during the holidays experience stress like this from family.
I just wish people gave you a break. It was your birthday too.
Again belated HBD!
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
27 Dec 12
Yeah it's hard whenever it falls on my birthday because it is so stressful instead of nice! =(
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
29 Nov 12
Thank you! Thanksgiving did not go so well but my husband made up for it on Saturday with an amazing date night. =)
Thanksgiving did not go so well but my husband made up for it on Saturday with an amazing date night. =)1 person likes this
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
20 Nov 12
Good for you. You shouldn't have to withstand anything negative on a holiday and your birthday as well because some ignorant relative is miserable and makes everyone else that way. I have that here as well, but she is cooking the turkey so I have to stay for at least a little while too. I wish I could just make it myself one day and not worry but I don't know how that would happen given my situation here. I do hope your aunt doesn't do or say anything that upsets you or anything. I really dislike things when that happens, I'd rather go to a boring party than to have to go to a party where someone gets upset over that type of thing you described. I can still remember times when my mother acted like such a pathetic person on many Thanksgivings.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Nov 12
Yeah, I am not going to take it this time. Anything that is said wrong or anything else I am leaving. I already warned them so it won't be a surprise!
I'm sorry that your going to have a day like mine! =( That is awful...
Well, lets hope that we both have a good day OR if we can just be strong enough to leave when we need to that would be good!
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@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
22 Nov 12
Sounds like my family functions, they are all so negative and miserable you dont want to be near them. I know they are all the time, and I wouldn't be going to functions just to have a horrible time either. Why arnt the others going? She begs you to come over, but when you ask her to say babysit she wont.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
23 Nov 12
Yeah it wasn't very fun or enjoyable for my birthday but oh well. I am just ready to go to bed and pretend my birthday never existed... Maybe tomorrow will be better...
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
23 Nov 12
Yeah, it just wasn't right that people forgot it was my birthday. It took my family 30 minutes to even say Happy Birthday after we got there. Like, how do you forget about your daughter's birthday?!?
@LovingMySon (224)
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21 Nov 12
I am right there with ya LovingMyBabies. Our family is crazzyy. I say lets bring some xanex for my mom (her aunt) and booze for us. I think we deserve it after the drama we are going to be going through thursday.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Nov 12
YES THEY ARE!!!! LOL. I agree! Lol. We need to borrow some of Samantha's bahama mama!
We need to borrow some of Samantha's bahama mama!@LovingMySon (224)
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21 Nov 12
I will call her tomorrow and steal it from her... we will need it more than she will. she has money she can buy more :)
@shaggin (72131)
• United States
21 Nov 12
Do you think you will celebrate your birthday on the weekend maybe so you can have two celebrations instead of just one. Doesnt sound like you are going to have a very fun birthday/thanksgiving. I hope that you can make the best of it and have a good time. But like you said if something goes wrong just leave.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Nov 12
Well my husband and I are going to celebrate on Saturday, my cousin is going to babysit for us which I so appreciate! =) So, at least that day will be good for me...I hope.
I am hoping it goes well but if not I will just leave.
@redredrose (1105)
• United States
21 Nov 12
My brother's birthday is on Christmas, yes December 25. We give him one big gift and say it is for bday and holidays. He has been ok with this so far in his life. I hope things go well for you at your mom's and that your aunt doesn't make you as miserable as she is. Gone like Donkey Kong i always did like that saying cause its funny, but i truly hope you have a wonderful and happy Thanksgiving and birthday.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
23 Nov 12
Yeah, I would have hated to have my birthday on Christmas even more! I am glad its on Thanksgiving rather than Christmas!
My Thanksgiving was okay. Tomorrow we will celebrate my birthday. It took my family 30 minutes to remember to say Happy Birthday today...Wish I could have forgotten my own birthday!
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
21 Nov 12
At least you are spending some of your day with family! This year I won't be! My siblings don't want to do it and neither do my 2 oldest neighbors! On top of this my nephew who is in the Navy is coming home on Thanksgiving! So I am alone on that day! I will be ok and will see my nephew Dan and the rest of the family on 12/14/2012. I just hope my oldest nephews realize it is time to pick up the slack and let the older people have a break! I would have it but my place is to small for the size of my family. Hopefully your Thanksgiving will go well!
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
23 Nov 12
Yeah, that is not always a good thing...Just saying. I only stayed for a little while. I can only handle small doses of them. They might be family but they don't act like it most of the time. For example, my sister forgot it was my birthday today. Everyone that was there...they took 30 minutes to remember it was my birthday today! Great family huh? I would rather be by myself, at least I cannot forget my own birthday!!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
23 Nov 12
First of all, I have to say Happy Birthday to you (even though my wishes are a little bit late).
I too have been one of those people that has had a birthday that falls on a holiday occasionally. For me, it is the Easter holiday that has fallen on my birthday twice in my life and it will again fall on my birthday the year that I turn 40. It is kind of funny, actually, my birthday has been on Easter on my 18th and 29th birthday and then again on my 40th birthday (the important birthdays as I see it). I like my birthday falling on Easter because I know it means that I will be able to spend time with all of my family on my birthday.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
23 Nov 12
Thank you and its okay that its late! I am actually celebrating it today since yesterday was Thanksgiving. =)
Oh wow, yeah all of the important ages. Lol. That's a good way to look at it, you know you will be with family on your birthday since it is a holiday. For me, that is not always a good thing actually. LOL, not with the family I have...
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Nov 12
Oh that stinks! Poor thing. I am glad mine is only every 7 years that it falls on the 22nd. I hated it more as a child. I only hate it this year because I am getting older and I like things to be more peaceful now a days!
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@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
21 Nov 12
Hi friend, Advance b'day wishes to you, some times our b'day will fall in holidays, at that time we don't have the ability to see all of our friends, as you mentioned you will go to your home to meet your parents on that day, hope you will enjoy a lot with them. You are the only daughter to them, so they will celebrate your b'day in a great manner, enjoy it a lot
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
23 Nov 12
Thank you. It wasn't great but oh well. I am just ready to go to bed and forget the day existed... Tomorrow I am having cake for my birthday, hopefully that goes better than today did. We will see...
