my friend was hurt by her hubby what will i do?
By gilenie
@gilenie (190)
November 21, 2012 7:28am CST
I was so sad and feel so uneasy when a common friend of ours call me one day over the phone telling our gal friend was hit and hurt by her hubby one night.I try to call my friend but unfortunately she didn't answer any of my call either my text messages over her mobile? At what i just know a few month before this incident happen my gal friend was complaining abt her hubby having an affair with other women but now she was beaten by her hubby. I feel sorry for my friend, i know i have no rights to be involved with her problem with her hubby its a family matter/family issues that i shouldn't mingle with.But as friend i am just concern for her.I just hope by this time she is ok..I haven't heard from her for a week.
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13 responses
@yugocean (9963)
• India
22 Nov 12
It is not a right way to involve in somebody's family issues, all because this will give them problem. But when there is physical beating then a friend should not keep away, because friends must support one another in time of need. If you are afraid then take the help of other friends and save your friend, her marriage is already without love.
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@jeztrose (1405)
• Philippines
22 Nov 12
Being her friend, it really is hard for you. Though it's none of your concern but still she is your friend and it is indeed painful.All you can do now is pray for her safety. If she contacts you again advise her right away to stay away from her husband.Her life is at risk now having such kind of partner that didn't treat her well. there are lot of guys out there that is better than him.I hope she will realize it sooner.
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
27 Nov 12
hi gilenie,
If you are worried about her you can ask help from NGO who are concern about a case like this you can ask for assistance and be anonymous.
Hope she is fine and someone will help her.
happy mylotting
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
27 Nov 12
Hi friend, sad to hear about this, you are really a caring friend, but you don't have the ability to help her due to the situation. Hope her hubby will realize his fault, as you mentioned he is having contacts with another women, it is really hard to live with this kind of persons, better your friend will separate from him to live a happy and peaceful life
@hlfbldmom (743)
• Philippines
21 Nov 12
You can't do anything about it unless she ask you for some help. But since like she is not open up her situation to anyone. You can't do any action and besides it's family matters. Sometimes even you call a police and tell about it they will just answer you like it's family matters we don't have rights to mingle unless they ask for help.Just pray that she is safe there and that everything will be fine for her.
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
21 Nov 12
Did she ask for help from you? If she didn't you cant just get in her situation. Sometimes, the person who helps often gets all the blame and everything. If she is not answering any of the communications it just mean that she is not ready to tell you what is it all about. So at this point you can't do anything about her but to pray for her safety.
@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
22 Nov 12
the best thing you can do is just becoming her best friend to rely on. you said that you dont have right to get involved in their problem and i do agree with your thought. you can only suggest her not to continue her relationship with her boyfriend. and of she got terrible wounds, it's better for her to make report to police cis his action include to crime. he must be punished because of his action. as good friend, you should always bd there for her, accompany her during her hard time cos im sure she really needs someone like you right now. i hope your friend cold recover her broken heart soon.
@Mintlin (322)
• China
22 Nov 12
I agree most of my lotters post here,since this is their privacy,in most situation,they don't like to spread it out. so you just keep this secret and better not to gossip to others about this scandal.my friend's classmate once had similar problem and my friend called the policy immediately when she heard it from other classmate,she just wanted to make sure that one is safe and be protected. however,that classmate was really mad when she knew this happened.and their classmate relationship was end up. so do not get involve in it unless your friend turn to you.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
21 Nov 12
Ohhh God she should take some step against her husband. I not understand why man need another women even their wife is good and innocent. Beating is not good for anyone.
@skyandgrassplot (1497)
• China
22 Nov 12
From my point of view,as friends,I think you should come to your friend and comfort her,because she is really in a hard time,she do not want you to contact her must come to some hard to say reason,but it does not mean she does not need your comfort and help.So pls come to your friend and help her.
@chinni277 (81)
• India
22 Nov 12
Hi Yeah your are right it is unfair to involve in the family matters until if it is so serious and the other person is willing to share with you.You tried to contact her but since i think she don't want others to involve in her personal matter she might not responded.So wait until she responds or else make sure that every thing will work fine for her.
