Confused

I live in the Philippines and such things don't happen here actually. But back in the early years parents do arranged marriage for their children specially those in the upper class where they protect their wealth and family reputations, but those are not happening now. I feel sorry for you though co's you can't choose the one you wanna grow old with co's your parents are intervening. I do have a friend who's roots came from India, we were good friends then, and he told us about marriage in India, but he now marries an Filipina and lives here. You could do a heart to heart talk with your parents, who knows they might change their mind and let you do your thing. Wishing you well, and happy mylotting.

you will not be happy if you keep like that. wise words say "Live in the moment". close your door from yesterday and also the door to tomorrow. there are enough problems to take care for today. so live today to the fullest, then you'll be happier. for the "casts" thingy; I can't comment; it's kind of culture that you have to follow if you value and honor your culture.

There's no point in worrying about the future. If you want something to happen in the future, you take actions in the present that will ultimately lead into that ideal future. Like what has already been mentioned by the others, 'Live in the moment!' That's why it's called 'present'

Hi friend, sad to hear about this, if you both are in real love, you must try to convince your parents and get married with their permission, i am also from India and know about the parents attitude towards love marriage. Don't worry, true and real love never forsake, trust your love and start to struggle with a great hope, wish you to get success in your love

Yes that's kind of confusing too. so why do keep the relationship that you think you will not have happy ending. Why not just look for someone that will make you happy that is no problem in Indian's custom. Unless you want to fight and defy the custom and go on with your relationship.

Hey dear worry of past and future destroys the precious present that is really a present a gift, you both are blessed with true love can scence that, so rather than worrying about future better enjoy your present moments, and as far as your marriage is concerned dont worry be positive, belive i good it really happens you positive are most likely to happen with positive people may god bless you both

Hi! Your story is like Romeo and Juliet. All the suggestions of those who commented me were great. I'd like to give you a "less serious" advice, why don't you marry your girlfriend then elope somewhere else. Indians are known to be hardworkers so I don't think you'll have problems working anywhere. Then once you have established your reputation, both of you should go back to your parents to explain that you both just love each other so much and don't want the caste system mendling with your love... something like that.

Maybe you both could talk to her parents. Show them that you really love each other. Since her parents didn't know about it yet better if you tell them first that you have a relationship. Not a married thing immediately they might disagree but who knows they will think about it and agree. Just be positive about things, about your relationship with her that no matter what happened everything will be alright. Sometimes what we think is what we really happen in the future.