Guys would you date a girl who is a dancer on club?
By jeztrose
@jeztrose (1405)
Philippines
November 21, 2012 9:43pm CST
My brother in law is currently on a relationship with a club dancer.Knowing that a club dancers job is to dance in front of many people with only a small piece of cloth or even naked.Letting other people see your private parts is something disgusting i must say.Though there are many other job there that is descent enough,o guess she just want to have an easy money.
Well this girl is our boarder on our house,that is when she and my brother in law first met and became friends (friends that sleeps together, unusual i guess) and the last thing i know is that they already call each other as "baby".The girl does pays all the bills at home and gives what they need.my brother in law and mother in law don't have any work at all that is why they only depend to what the girl gives.I somehow feel pity for her.
The question that really disturb me is that,does the boy really accepted the girl and loved her? or they just taking advantage on what the girl has given them.And if he really loves the girl would he be proud on her, like introducing her to his friends? will the boy feel not ashamed of it?
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9 responses
@Jeffery_superman (179)
• China
23 Nov 12
Jez, i have completed this passage with my patience. And the following is my idea for your questions. Just personal ones
First, you asked"does the boy really accept thr girl and love her". My answer is that i can not tell it easily. As for me, if i love this girl, i will never accpet the money from her however poor my family is, because she just make money in the club for that case. In the opposite, i can feel a warm heat and ture love from the girl. In your passage, i cannot figure out any such of love behavior from the boy, just only sleep. I hope the boy need a deep consideration.
Second, you asked "Taking advantage on what the girl has given them?" My answer is still mybe. For i have mentioned that it didn't reveal any trace of love to the girl from him. So i cannot decide. But i think the mother really had no reason to accept the money if she knew the girl's money. No pain just no gain. The family just should rely on themselves instead of a poor girl. I really cannot understand.
Last, you asked" will the boy feel not ashamed of it?" If me, i will not hesitate for a second to refuse the money. The boy is not disabled, and he can work himself to feed the family. To me, receving money from the girl is against my dignity.
In the end, i beg the boy really do not hurt the girl. She is so fragile maybe. I know life is hard, but we still need to move on!!
@jeztrose (1405)
• Philippines
24 Nov 12
WhaaH!! you really answered all of my questions huh? thanks jeff! So in short he really does not love the girl and just only takes the girl for granted. How about if your friends saw you with that club girl and said, oh is that your girlfriend?? A dancer? what would your feelings will be?
@Jeffery_superman (179)
• China
23 Nov 12
A sentence always swirling aroud my head when it occurs to love that goes " If you love her, please show a deepest one, and if you do not have a crash on her, never hold her hands."
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
She did choose the wrong path, because she doesn't have someone to guide her through the RIGHT PATH...
And here's the judgmental society- instead of giving her a chance to change herself, instead dragging her more to hell.
@lampar (7584)
• United States
29 Nov 12
I will not have a problem dating a club dancer, as long as i am attracted to her. I refuse to believe that all the club dancers are bad women, so i will not have problem dating them or should think of them in a bad light. She may have her own personal reason to become a dancer in an adult club by taking off her clothings in front of all these men, it may be necessary for her to do it for her family situation or for financial security. It may well is the only job she can get or do in this competitive labor market. 
Your description sound like your brother in law may have using her since she is paying for all the bills and buy everything for your unemployed brother in law, he is taking full advantage of her alright! That is no doubt about it; may be he is a shameless person and feel proud of his action. 
Your description sound like your brother in law may have using her since she is paying for all the bills and buy everything for your unemployed brother in law, he is taking full advantage of her alright! That is no doubt about it; may be he is a shameless person and feel proud of his action. @lampar (7584)
• United States
29 Nov 12
I can't argue with you on that, jezt...! Unfortunately, it is just impossible for all boys to be like me, each of them have their own way of mindset and upbringing, they can't be alike in term of being open minded and having deep understanding in things happen inside our society and certain people have to do to survive in today world. Many are just too quick to jump into conclusion base on what they see superficially and wrong assumption taught by the school and their parent. 
@jeztrose (1405)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
You are great lampar! a good person indeed! i hope all boys will be just like you, a very understanding and open minded one. But to tell you the truth it is not really easy if you ill date a club dancer coz i bet your family will definitely not into it, and the thing is thinking that she is showy in everything will you not be jealous? i think it will really take an understandable man to be able to have a good relationship with her.
Thanks for sharing!
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@jeztrose (1405)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
yes right! and i guess there are only few of you who are really a good one. We cannot really manage to let them understand such things. We differ in many ways, not only physically but also mentally and emotionally, our attitude really depends on one another.
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@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
27 Nov 12
hi jez,
it is sad how people judge one another there are misconception about this dancers in the club or a guess relation officer we cannot tell really what your Brother in Law really feels towards this girl maybe in some point he is taking advantage of her.
I pity the girl cause people judge her even without knowing her in some country this kind of job is legal one but lot of HYPOCRITES don't want to admit it.
Let's just hope that there will be a happy ending
happy mylotting
@jeztrose (1405)
• Philippines
1 Dec 12
Right Speaking of other country it is ok for them coz they are too liberated. but thinking about it here in the philipppines, though some womans are liberated too but most of us are still conservative about these things.Well i guess we really have different opinions about this things ahah 
I think we've been discussing it too far from what i really want to point out. that is if my brother in law do really loves her or what? 
I think we've been discussing it too far from what i really want to point out. that is if my brother in law do really loves her or what? @swetify620 (302)
• Australia
22 Nov 12
base on ur story,im just thinking that maybe he just taken advantage of the club dancer..if he is really a gentleman person,he should not let himself to just make money to a pityful person for paying any bills..he should find a real job for paying bills.
@swetify620 (302)
• Australia
22 Nov 12
he might don't care what people say as long as the club dancer will support his daily needed.
@j6face (67)
• Malaysia
10 Dec 12
clearly taking advantage. if he ever tried to work and earn for himself and fails, then it is a different case. but if he just sit down and hoping to get feed by this girl, then im sorry for this gal.
i guess she is sincere and he is not.
look how he will react if she stop giving him money.
@jeztrose (1405)
• Philippines
10 Dec 12
Yes he is not making any moves to find a work, he just rely on the girl everyday.I also feel pity for the girl.I am just confused because the boy is really sweet to the girl, as if he really loves the girl. Well i think its just an act to make it more realistic about his love.
@j6face (67)
• Malaysia
10 Dec 12
he have to be sweet to her in order to get smooth financial support.
she should test him by first reducing the money support and see how he react.
then get her to utter some word of encouragement or perhaps find a job for him.
then you can see whether he is showing all the love to her and getting mad on her.
yes, she is pitiful. this is because she is working not on easy job.
it is emotionally daunting type of work.
yet, she is doing it for him. he should appreciate her love and do a job so that he can support her and not otherwise.
im sorry if i am harsh towards your brother in law.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
24 Nov 12
Well you say' this girl is our boarder on our house,that is when she and my brother in law first met and became friends (friends that sleeps together, unusual i guess) and the last thing i know is that they already call each other as "baby"', this means she is a cheap girl..
most decent men shout avoid a girl like her..
