spider in the house
@passion4fassion (996)
Philippines
November 23, 2012 5:16am CST
well this is the story of my day and its not about the spider i just compare them in the spider, i am very upset today my mother brother and his girlfriend who live in our house for almost 1 year doing bad thing in the house. i found out that shes spreading gossip to all my relatives saying that living in my house is not good because she said i turning off the t.v every time shes watching its not true because i have my own tv in my room and my mother have her own on her room and my uncle girlfriend been watching in the the living room so i dont care about the movie shes watching, but she told my uncle that i am so rude turning off the t.v, the true is they living in the house for free food,electricity,water, and my mother even gave them the extra bed and the electric fan, my auntie come over today and told me that your uncle gf spreading gossip about you, so now i found out that's why my uncle not very nice last week hes not talking at me because of the gf that telling a lies well i feel upset my uncle should ask me if its true rather than believing the girlfriend they been here for a year, so i am just waiting my uncle to get home and my auntie who told me that my uncle gf spreading gossip so i will confront the gf of my uncle in front of my auncle and my auntie. i just feel so upset they stay in the house for free like spider but all they do is make mess and do things at my mom back they even spread gossip that is not really true
so guys what you think its a good idea that i will confront the girl in front of the people who are their when the gf of my auncle spreading gossip and with my uncle and my other relatives so it will be fair to everyone?
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@deazil (4730)
• United States
23 Nov 12
Yes, I think confronting the gf in front of your uncle and the aunt who told you this is a good idea. That way you have the witness and the guilty one (if she is guilty) and your uncle all together. Better to do it that way so no more lies can be told. Maybe you should also have your mother there. This is a terrible situation. Living there free and not helping and only causing problems. I had a cousin whose gf was like that. It was terrible. Good luck!
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@passion4fassion (996)
• Philippines
23 Nov 12
yes its true i need to be calm for the sake of my uncle and my mother 
@passion4fassion (996)
• Philippines
23 Nov 12
yes and i am so upset about it. here in my country we help a lot specially family but the problem is they taking it too much they being so mean taking advantage of you
@jeztrose (1405)
• Philippines
23 Nov 12
You have a great idea.confronting her with everyone around is the best thing to do coz they will know who is really teling the truth.that girl really has a bad attitude.dont she feel ashame of that?instead thinking of something to repay you she just did the opposite.
@jeztrose (1405)
• Philippines
24 Nov 12
Yes i think that girl is just insecure because she has nothing,unlike you, you have everything.She is too jealous and therefore she wants to ruin the happiness in your house.Don't she feel great having you to help her and keep her at your house? I guess you must tell your uncle about it so that as early as now he know what kind of girl she is with.
@passion4fassion (996)
• Philippines
24 Nov 12
i did talk to them last night and might uncle say sorry about ithe said they will go on their house sooon
he said they will go on their house sooon@passion4fassion (996)
• Philippines
23 Nov 12
i am really bother about this issue because they taking advantage of my mother and my mother i dont like it its really stressing seeing my mother smiling didn't know what they doing at her back
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
24 Nov 12
If you want to confront the girl in front of other people just make sure that you have evidences to show what she is telling a lie all about. But then you should avoid humiliating her because that is going to be bad on your part.
@passion4fassion (996)
• Philippines
24 Nov 12
well i have a proof the people who are there when shes telling all the lie and i ask them to go in the house
@swetify620 (302)
• Australia
24 Nov 12
if by turning off the tv,u need a part of the family or someone who is the witness during that time that u turn it off...by telling the gossip to ur neighbor,well thats up to and hopefully u settle it out soon..it just a bit of headache that kind of situation
@swetify620 (302)
• Australia
24 Nov 12
i think her parents is doesn't count other people because they are part of her life..and of course need eveidence for that,so that her mum believe her too and not telling that she a liar too...
@passion4fassion (996)
• Philippines
23 Nov 12
i will and i will try to be calm i am so upset that's why i dont know what to do how to start
@passion4fassion (996)
• Philippines
24 Nov 12
i did that and i found out the true she really spreading gossip
@swetify620 (302)
• Australia
24 Nov 12
just ask her about the gossip and let her finish what's in her side and then u can finish it off!!!!:)
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
23 Nov 12
not good.. thats why everyone needs to have their own place.
@passion4fassion (996)
• Philippines
24 Nov 12
we have our own they have their own is just that my mother brother lost his job last year that's why he stay here but then after a months he get his girlfriend ans stay here also and yes its not very good
@passion4fassion (996)
• Philippines
24 Nov 12
yeah but the problem is she never respect my mother and me i wonder there are people like that sometimes its bit scary to help relatives
@swetify620 (302)
• Australia
24 Nov 12
if u live someone,u need to respect the people who u are living with,tell them to be not a princess if they want to live more longer
@swetify620 (302)
• Australia
24 Nov 12
absolutely not fair!!!did ur mother knows about this?if not,tell your mother because she is the sister of ur uncle so that ur mother will tell to ur uncle about that situation..and then if not working,like for example like weekend if u all gather during the weekend,tell them personally in front of ur parents and say wat they gonna say.
@passion4fassion (996)
• Philippines
24 Nov 12
i confronted them and my mother is just listening on each other side then we found out the the girl really spreading gossip but she never say sorry she just said dont worry will go tomorrow he have house anyway and your uncle have work now, can u imagine how i feel after she said that
can u imagine how i feel after she said that @passion4fassion (996)
• Philippines
25 Nov 12
my uncle lost his job before so he stay in the house for a couple of days but later on days become weeks and month then he bring his girl yeah they are free food,electric water,everything that's why i am so upset
yeah they are free food,electric water,everything that's why i am so upset@swetify620 (302)
• Australia
24 Nov 12
hahha,i think he just have a lovely pride!!!if they have a house y they are living with u?maybe because its free?is that what they up to?
@mzz663 (2772)
• United States
24 Nov 12
If someone was living with me for free and I heard they were spreading gossip around about me, I would be very upset and I would have to say something to them. If someone is taking advantage of me like that, and doing nothing and paying no bills, why would they have any kind of right to do any talking?
I think I would just have a 'family meeting' and let them know it is time to make changes and if they do not like how things were, they would have to find a new place to live. I think cleaning up after them selves and helping with some of the bills is what I would bring up.
My son has people living with him and I told him he should take the amount of the bills, divide them by how many people live there and that should be their share of the bills.
@passion4fassion (996)
• Philippines
25 Nov 12
that's what i feel i am so upset, its my mother relatives so that's why i though its ok they will stay for free but then it become worst they look like the owner sometimes, and yes your son should ask a little bit of money for the bill
@passion4fassion (996)
• Philippines
25 Nov 12
yeah i agree, and yes he got a nice job so hopefully they will be happy
@swetify620 (302)
• Australia
25 Nov 12
they should share sometimes even just for the food,that will do i think if u really don't have much money to pay for everthing.but i guess ur uncle have a good job now coz if he don't,he let his gf work too if they planning to move on their place
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
23 Nov 12
Well, I have read the whole of your thread, from what I understand, your home, there are serious problems of living together.
This is not me is nothing new, as these problems also exist in my house where there are only four. two parents and two children (one of which I am).
There are serious economic problems which unfortunately at the moment we can not get out, but the fundamental problem of my family, it's more like the fact that my brother and me are still unemployed, having both a mature age already.
The rumors, at least those in my family are not, thankfully, but I tell you frankly, we do not we spend at this time, in the best way!
@passion4fassion (996)
• Philippines
24 Nov 12
yeah living in the same house with other is very hard i understand what you mean to say, dont worry you will find work soon i
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
23 Nov 12
first tell your mother about this, she is in direct contact with your uncle and your uncle to his gf. Do you have any proof that she is really gossiping about you? If so, ask this person to stand as witness. It is not really fair that they do that thinking that they have everything for free. They are in fact additional burden and expenses.
@passion4fassion (996)
• Philippines
23 Nov 12
my mom knew it because her sister come over and told my mom that there is gossipand its about me my mother sister told my mother that lets talk to brother and tho the gf and to all the people who are listening when our brother gf spreading gossip so we can fix it and no if your daughter really do that thing. my mother letting them live free cause she is alone in the house and my mother house is very big for one person my mother house have 3 rooms so she let her brother stay but they are being bad too much taking advantage of my mother
@toyota4k (1208)
• Philippines
24 Nov 12
It may be related to her "nowhere else to live in" to having nothing else to do but make up hearsay other than appreciating your hospitality. there are countless people like that.Beware!!!
@passion4fassion (996)
• Philippines
24 Nov 12
yeah i know but i just pity them they need help so we accept them but i am upset on what she done to me
@Lovegreen (376)
• Philippines
23 Nov 12
Yes I think that is the best move you can do now to clarify things. It seems gossip is not the only issue here, also their staying in your house for a year for free. Is your uncle jobless now? Your mother is a very kind sister for letting them stay, it's not good that this relationship as family gets sour just because of useless gossip.
@passion4fassion (996)
• Philippines
23 Nov 12
yes, my uncle is jobless when they got here but he have a work now but still not bother to ask mom about paying a little on my mom bills
i just feel upset about them
i just feel upset about them