Should I search my father's qualities in my boyfriend?

@gary23 (425)
India
November 24, 2012 7:14am CST
I used to think that my father and my boyfriend both care for me. Today a incident has started cropping questions in my mind. Whenever I am to appear for any exam, my father always accompanies me since most of them are in different venues where I have never gone before. I have an exam in the coming days at a venue very close to my boyfriend's workplace. However my reporting time is very early in the morning, at a time when he just wakes up at home. My father has an invitation to attend and hence he can't accompany me. This was the first time I asked my boyfriend to accompany me till the exam venue and he refused promptly.I understand that he has his own schedule but I have asked him to break his schedule just once in nine years! My father even takes a leave at office if he has to take me to a venue. I think this is not good because I am to spend my whole life with my boyfriend. He should not make me miss my father always.. What do you feel?
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@WakeUpKitty (8692)
• Netherlands
24 Nov 12
Sorry but a partner is not the same as your father/parent. I find it kind of weird plus childish to read that your boyfriend should not make you miss your father. Your boyfriend is NOT the same as your father. If you want to be with your father go live with him instead of with your boyfriend. This besides of the fact you are an adult (or?) and you should be able to take care of your own needs. I don't understand why your father has to break his scedule for you (but he does which is fine if it's fine to him) but I also do not understand why your boyfriend does. There are other ways to go over, you can ask a friend or neighbour or in case of need you go alone. Just like so many people do in this world who don't have a dad or mother or neighbour or friend or child or partner.
• Philippines
24 Nov 12
he should have accompanied you thats inexcusable.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
24 Nov 12
I think that having a father as a good example when it comes to the type of person you want to be with. But we shouldn't use that as a complete list of how we want our partner to be. Everyone is different. It is strange though that he will not go with you if you have only asked this of him once. Maybe you should talk to him about how you feel about that.