Should you tell the truth or sugarcoated it with a White Lie/s?
By ofzhernandez
@ofzhernandez (278)
Philippines
November 24, 2012 7:27am CST
In every relationship there are times that it would turn out right or the worse is it didn't turn out right. How many times do you experience the "It didn't turn out right?" Does that have a great impact in your life that change you? Does it for the better or it make you a worse person? And does that have an impact on all of your future relationship?
Breaking up is really a raging in the bone feeling. Where in it hurts your feeling, even bruised your ego, all tears wasted, even sleepless nights and you can't even eat right.
Have you tried breaking somebody's heart? If so, how good are you in telling him/her why you have to come to such decisions? Is it good to tell the truth why you would break up? Or do you tell lies so that it will lessen the pain your partner would feel?
Because for me, either way, telling the truth or telling white lies could still bring heartaches to the person you would want to end your relationship with. What if's he/she had high hopes for both of you and had a dream of staying together forever, and in a sudden snap you'll end it up in an instant! It hurts. It really hurts :(
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7 responses
@jazzyme (113)
• Philippines
24 Nov 12
For me,it would be "I'd rather hurt you honestly than misled you with a lie" than "I'd rather have bad times with you than good times with someone else" especially if you know that the love between you is slowly diminishing!It is more painful if you continue on fighting with the battle you thought you are battling with him/her but the truth is it only you doing everything to win.At least if you end it up he/she can move on and will not still clung on you.
@ofzhernandez (278)
• Philippines
25 Nov 12
Wow I think those are lyrics from a song.. Hmmm
But I like those songs.
I agree with you. They say that once you finally had the courage to end up a relationship one must stick to it and never leave him/her hanging. Mean what you say so that it will not prolong the agony. And stay away from him/her, meaning no phone calls or text. So that he/she will not hopes that you will be back again.
@asweetie (1187)
• India
26 Dec 12
Hi,
every relationship demands honesty and truthfulness. EVeryone says so but let me tell you that only those relationship survive which has little bit of lies and dishonesty or what ever you call it. There are many things which has no meaning but can hurt. So I wont say that tell truth in them. Small little harmless lies can keep relationships alive than the truth which can hurt. Like you forgot your date but told your bf that you got sick is ok lie, it not only saves a fight but also wont hurt your bf. I may be wrong but I still have my bf even after more than 3 years of relationship.
@ofzhernandez (278)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
I do agree with you, not every lie can hurt someones feeling. Telling small lies can also mean saving up relationships. But there are times that every time "lie" can cause harm to one's person. Because there are people that they just want to tell lies every time and this make it a habit and it makes non sense. so, as for me if you start your relationship with a pure love and honesty everything will go smoothly the way that you both want. And it just not only make you both comfortable with each other love will surely grow inside you. Still, Honesty is the best Policy :)
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
24 Nov 12
It depends on the person some people just cannot handle the truth, but it is true what they say truth hurts. I broke up with a friend because she spent most of her time on Facebook, even on vacation together she would much rather spend the time on her phone or Facebook, I even got to find out stuff on Facebook when I felt she should have spoken to me first, she was very immature and I knew that she couldn't handle the truth, so I told her that the friendship had come to a natural end, if I started to list all the problems with the relationship it would sound petty and I know she wouldn't accept that she was in the wrong.
@joliefille (3690)
• Philippines
24 Nov 12
I have experienced withholding the truth in my first relationship. You can guess that it did not turn out right. It is better to be brutally honest than be led on, and better to know the truth straight from the horse's mouth instead of hearing it from the grapevine. The latter would hurt more. Plus telling the truth shouldn't be delayed, you are doing each other a favor by not withholding the truth as every day you are honest is a step closer to moving on and finding the right partner.
@ofzhernandez (278)
• Philippines
25 Nov 12
Being brutally honest sometimes can led to a more understandable one or more acceptable one than telling a lie and will find it more difficult to understand if learning it to others that it was just a lie. And the worse it will bring more conflict to the one you are breaking up to. And they say that "Truth will set you Free!" So be better to be truthful than a big liar ^_^
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
24 Nov 12
I think you should always let the truth win out.
After a lie is only still a lie and needs another lie to keep feeding on.@ofzhernandez (278)
• Philippines
25 Nov 12
I am with you sender, there is that time that when you start a lie it is like forever you should cover everything with a lie just to make yourself look more truthful in front of that person. So until the end you are in a mask of lies.
Thanks for the comment ^_^
@famidea (111)
• Manila, Philippines
18 Nov 15
My ex-bf was the reason for my first heartbreak. He didn't tell me the truth why he wanted a breakup. But of course, I understood that he does not want to add that to the pain he already caused me. It's been 4 years and I can prove you that my life is better when he's out of my life. So maybe he realized early that we're not meant to be together.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
24 Nov 12
If I feel that a white lie could be better for the person on the long run, I would choose that. But when there's even the slightest doubt in me if that is going to work, I tell the truth. There are even instances when the other person can actually learn more from the truth on the long run. Like in a relationship, it's, for me, crucial to be sincere and tell the other person why it didn't work out... mainly because then the other can learn fom their faults, or if I don't tell the truth, and I get caught, it is going to make me look not really credible. Like if I fall in love with someone else (no cheating, I'm not that type), I'm going to tell it, not some mumbo-jumbo like "You deserve someone better than me" or "We aren't a match", just to make myself look bad when he gets me caught together with someone else not that much later.
