Ex-boyfriend = Unfriend

Although I have never been into the same situation because I have never had an ex in my relationship, I can say that somehow I do understand how you feel. It must have been hard for you and I believe that what you are going through or went through is an experience that some may also share similarly. It's a good thing now that you mentioned that you have moved on and is in a happy situation. More power to you and best of luck to all your endeavors in life.

Even me I rather unfriend my ex than be friend. It's awkward knowing you has past and you make friend with him?

Hi friend, good to hear about you are happy with your present relationship. I am also not interested in keeping friendship with ex persons. Already we had a break up with them, then why we are in need to renew the relationship and friendship with them, surely we think about our past incidents while seeing our ex, so we don't have the ability to keep a smooth friendship with them, better to forget about them completely and move with our life

Wipe the slate clean and be done with it.. Reruns are never the same as the first time around. Be civil to him as a person you know, tthats all.

I usually cannot be friends with an ex. The only time I can is if when we broke up I had absolutely no feelings for him or don't later on. Usually even if the break up is mutual even if I initiate it I still have feelings. I only have one ex that I can still talk to and that was after him trying to be my friend for a year and me giving in. I don't think any of my friends are friends with their exs either.

I strongly agree with your idea. For me it feels so awkward to be friend with my ex knowing that I already ended my relationship with him. An ex-boyfriend / ex-girlfriend serves us a lesson to our present partner, that we shoud also thank for. However, if one is still having a connection with his or her past is disrespectful of his or her present partner. isn't it?

I agree that it is better to move on with your life and not maintain a connection with an ex. Unless you have a child with the person, there really is no reason to maintain contact. In fact, for the sake of being able to move on and eventually build a relationship with another person, it is better if your exes are firmly in your past.

Your decision is right! That is my mentality too that if your previous love ones is already your ex then as part of moving on you must forget everything even the friendship. Because if you still keeping in touch with the previous ones then chances are it is hard to move on and as part of decency and respect there will be a point that there will be comparison between the previous and recent relationship. In other sense you don't have any responsibility with him anymore and it is not even your obligation to help him if he is asking for help. What for to be friends with ex? Where in the first place he may have done something that hurts our emotions.

I have become friends to some of my past boyfriends and I do not see why I should be holding grudge over them when our story have been million years ago. I am just civil to all of them, No big deal. But there is one ex boyfriend whom I thought would remain as my friend. But I guess, I have hurt him bad so he decided not to communicate with me in any way, which is fine with me, too.

I don't feel a need to have any kind of relationship with my ex either. There is a reason I moved on to someone better and I don't need to look back. I have never felt that need. I don't think there is any reason to be friends with an ex unless the person is not truly over them...

I think when enough time goes by a person can choose to be friends again. The relationship is no longer personal, just friends who respect each others right to be happy with other people. I would be friends with my daughter's father, but since he has been remarried for 35 years. He is still bitter, even though he went on to have 3 more kids and a wife. To hate him would be tantamount to hating my daughter. I could never do that. However he still hates me, which is so childish to me. We created a daughter together. We should have considered ourselves family even though we were divorced. Instead he walked away from his daughter also. My daughter saw him for the first time a couple of years ago. It has been 40 years since my daughter has seen her father. This is why I feel it is important to always keep breakups on friendly terms, when children are involved.

I believe the fact your boyfriend is an ex-boyfriend is because you couldn't be friends in the first place. No relationship starts out as merely boyfriend and girlfriend. You are friends first. If you just fall into boyfriend/girlfriend status, then something went wrong somewhere. If any relationship is going to work, you have to be friends first. Boyfriend/girlfriend relationships evolve over time. You go on dates, you do activities together, you get to know one another. Even if you have a spouse, and you divorce, you won't be able to continue in that relationship unless you were friends first, because you will eventually be able to forgive each other and move past whatever arguments you had that broke the two of you apart. Those are just my thoughts.

In my case, I am friends with my ex, although we don't talk all the time nor do we send each other messages. I guess it is because our breakup is a mutual decision plus we parted ways in a very friendly manner. There were no unfinished business, no pain, no unnecessary burdens, it was really a clear cut ending of a relationship. We are both married now and from what I heard he's also happy and content. And I am perfectly fine with this, because I really don't want to be on the bad side with anybody.

I think that very few friendships with exes actually work. It makes perfect sense to move on completely and not expect communication or friendship. I had a very difficult breakup a while ago. He actually married a girl from his country while we were engaged. When he came back, he wanted to still make our relationship work. When I said no, he wanted to be friends. It really hurt to see him so unhappy (he was kinda forced to marry this girl) but at the same time, it was too painful for me to be involved. They got pregnant early on and are now expecting a baby. He just emailed me and wants to go for coffee sometime. We tried going running together a few times, but I know his intention is to keep his relationship with me, so I had to stop it. I find that when I hear from him, it just makes me emotional again and I want to move on. So really, friendship is not possible.

I have never been one to think I could remain "friends." In my experiences an ex does not truly want to remain friends anyway. Usually it is to keep tabs on someone and lay in wait to cause some kind of trouble. I have seen it happen to my friends and others so many times that I just have no desire to go through myself. Now I do know people that have remained friends with their exes but it usually makes a new love very uncomfortable when that is the case.

Hello my friend chiwasaki Ji, Well, during my time there was no such concept. I was never co-educated, nor I served in any such co-education schools and colleges. I hav etwo sons and one daughter, though theyu had co-education from Nursary , but never had any boy/girl frinds. But at this age of mine , our grand chjildren do have girls/boys friend. We ask every day about them after theyu come back from schools. We get thrilled by the feelings, what they talk. May God bless You and have a great time

I am now married, but in the past once I broke up with a guy, I would no longer want to be his friend. Because things ended badly between us and there was no way I could remain friends with them after what they had done to me. So I've never had an ex that I could be friends with.

My situation is actually quite the opposite from the situation that you have. I'm friends with my ex-boyfriend, however, our relationship was over twelve years ago and we didn't become friends again until just over a year ago. The reason that we are friends now is because of the fact that we always have had a lot in common and since our relationship is over, there is really no reason that we can't have a friendship. But, that isn't to say that I don't understand why you don't want to still be friends with your ex.

I don't have a similar situation, but I would like to say... it is your life, your choice. If you do not feel like you two can be friends for whatever reason, then you do not have to. Yes, many people do stay friend with their ex's, but that is their choice. They could have chosen to not be friends for any reason or no reason at all.

Many people who were in the relationship feel the same like you. They say that friends into lovers are okay but lovers to friends never. But it is okay with me to see my ex lover as long as there will be no "missing look" or whatsoever. It makes me feel a bit ackward.