sleeping in different beds
By C
@ShyBear88 (59347)
Sterling, Virginia
November 26, 2012 2:55pm CST
Do you think one of the key things to why marriages works for a longer time is sleeping in different beds at night time?
I don't think its one of the key reason to why a marriage last longer. Me and my husband are very happy and we sleep in the same bed. If it works for some people to sleep in different beds or in different rooms that is all fine with me. But I like to cuddle even though my husband is a loud sleeper.
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@razvaneison (298)
• Romania
27 Nov 12
Because where is the love betweme 2 person if theybjust get mariedvand they don't sleep together.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
27 Nov 12
two people sleeping in the same bed to me has noting to do with marriage nor love. Anyone body can lay in bed next to someone weather they are married to them or not.
sleeping in a bed together and marriage do not have to be linked at all. If that is how you see it I hope that it works for you.
But there has been many times where me and my husband haven't slept in the same bed us sleeping in the same bed has nothing to do with our marriage it doesn't help or make it worse for is in any way.
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
27 Nov 12
It is weird really. I don't think so because of course we need each other and sleeping together would really contribute in marriage life to work. Even if my boyfriend and I are not married yet, I really love to sleep beside him. It is such a great feeling. When you are in bed together, a couple could actually share each other's thoughts, problems and many other stories.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
27 Nov 12
I have to disagree in a marriage the bed room weather you sleep in the same bed or not doesn't matter. You don't need to share a bed to share things with each other ever. You can make anything work and share things with each other no in your bed but a cross a table or sitting next to you.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
26 Nov 12
Do you mean sleeping separate ? wow I dindt even know that was a thing for some married couple !! sound kinda weird to me .
I would not feel comfortable with mu husband sleeping in another room and I know he feel the same .
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
27 Nov 12
Yes I mean sleeping in separate bed weather in the same room or different rooms. I've heard of couples doing that but I don't know anyone that personally doesn't unless they are having marriage issues.
I as well know both me and my husband like sleeping in the same room in the same bed. We are both like cuddling too much to want to sleep in different rooms. I can't say it helps or doesn't help since I believe it's all what two people put into there marriage it's self not there sleeping arrangements.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
27 Nov 12
Marriage works not because of their sleeping habits or rituals or preferences. It works because of two people deciding to sleep together at night without having disagreements before sleeping.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
27 Nov 12
I agree it doesn't matter either way because it's the work that two people put into there marriages not weather they sleep in the same room or not.
It doesnt' work because people decided to sleep in the same room. It's weather they want to or not and if there is other reason to why or why not they don't want to. If it works for them to not sleep in the same room good for them. If it works better for them to sleep in the same room with or without the same beds that is good for them as well.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
26 Nov 12
I think it depends on the couple plus their sleeping behaviour, working hours/life style. If you are not able to go to bed at the same time, 1 has to go out at night frequently or wake up early for work it can be very disturbing (even if you are not aware of it completely) for the kind of night rest you have. Most women with children already have a bad one since they are "trained" to hear every sound of their kid, not really used to stay longer in bed, etc. Personally I don't like it if someone is clinging to me whole night on and I can't turn around, have to struggle/fight for the blanket or have a sweaty body against me. So I like a big bed so I have some space for me as well. If I am sick I like to sleep alone.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
26 Nov 12
Me personally I never like sleeping alone at all. I don't mind how small or big the bed is as long as my hubby is next to me I'm happy. I"m a light sleeper but most sounds don't bother me. Yeah my hubby does get sweaty some times but its nice in the winter time because then I don't have to turn up the heat that much to stay warm.
@tinetine161992 (431)
• Philippines
26 Nov 12
I dont think it's true. Because your married and you promise to stay together in downs and ups of your marriage. Then in simple as sleeping together. Again i dont thing it may help couples stay long when they sleep in different room.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
27 Nov 12
I don't think it would make a big difference. It the work that the people but into the marriage. Personally I rather share a bed with my husband because well we like to cuddle with each other.
@Arieles (2473)
• United States
27 Nov 12
No, bad idea. A marriage is built on intimacy, it's not the only thing in the marriage, but it is very important. Maybe as the couple gets older, they may choose to sleep in separate beds, but that's 60 years down the road. Young couples need the connection, and cuddling is what keeps a marriage healthy. This is the one time during the day where you are the sole focus of your mate.
