Teenage pregnancy - whose to be blamed ?
By chatoang
@chatoang (61)
Philippines
November 26, 2012 8:10pm CST
As a mother i think both the parents and the child is to be blamed. Though we have to accept the fact that the situation is already there , we have to face the truth. Raised the child and have to talk with the new mother so that she will not encounter the same situation again.
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6 responses
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
27 Nov 12
I do not think that we should blame the parents if a teen gets pregnant. not all the time does a parent know what their child thinks or do. Sometimes, even if how good a child is, there is always an outside influence that can greatly affect his/her behavior.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
27 Nov 12
Change of times, I guess. It is really hard to monitor our daughters and we only wish that they could somehow know how to take care of themselves.
@StLouisMetroTutoring (678)
• St. Peters, Missouri
27 Nov 12
I completely agree the problem lies with both parents equally. Why would you also blame the unborn child for something his/her teenage parents did? Or did I misunderstand?
@StLouisMetroTutoring (678)
• St. Peters, Missouri
27 Nov 12
Oh, now I understand. Thank you. Yes, I completely agree with you. I believe both teenagers share blame equally. One can't say it's his/her fault, they made me do it. However, the parents of the teenagers raised them. Each made the decision to engage in the behavior. Whether intentionally or not, the children learned that this type of behavior is acceptable under their watch. They have to share in some of the blame as well. However, once it has happened, I don't think blaming is the answer. At that point, a solution needs to be found. Often, adoption is a good solution.
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
1 Dec 12
The parent must advise the teenager of birth control and waiting until she is older before she has a physical relationship. She must date her boyfriend under strict supervision. The teenage should avoid beginning a physical relationship or use a reliable form of birth control. When the teenager gets pregnant the young lady, her partner and the young lady's parents should be blamed. The teenager should be supported as a teenage parent by her mom.
@liviaslife73 (238)
• United States
27 Nov 12
Parents can do all that they can to raise their child right, but once that child hits puberty & starts attending Middle school all that you taught your child goes out the window. Personally I don't think a teenager should be raising a child when obviously they can't even take care of themselves. If they are foolish enough to get pregnant then they need to grow up real fast & do what's best for that baby. The answer is not abortion either, not when there are so many couples out there who would give anything to have a child of their own. S my best advice is if you don't think you handle being a parent at such a young age then do the right thing & give that baby up for adoption.
@StLouisMetroTutoring (678)
• St. Peters, Missouri
27 Nov 12
Yes, this is true. There are so many influences on children that affect what they do. However, a parent needs to teach children BEFORE these influences come into their child's life. Children need to have a strong sense of self. Do I agree with all the decisions my teenage daughter made? No. But bottom line. Her dad and I exposed her to our values. We taught her everything we could. When she reached this age, we continued to be there for her. We let her have her freedom a little at a time so she didn't get heady with freedom without learning responsibility. Were we perfect? Of course not. But everything she did was a direct reflection on us.
@vernaC (1491)
• Romania
17 Dec 12
It's a very disappointing turn of even not only for the parents but for the teenager herself. There are cases that it's the parents to be blamed because they don't give enough attention their child should have like if they are in vices or having troubles regarding the relationship of parents. Or sometimes no matter how the parents took care of their child, it's the childs fault for not listening to the parents and wanting to experience this kind of things too early without proper knowledge. So I guess these days, it's ok for an open education regarding this matter.
