I just decided to keep quiet to avoid a conflict.

Philippines
November 26, 2012 9:16pm CST
Good day Fellow Mylotters, I was talking to the phone a while ago when one of my friend corrected me for some words that I used during the phone conversation. Honestly I was surprised because she suddenly laughed while I was on the phone. Until I found out that she was laughing at me because I have used the wrong word while talking on the phone. Honestly I am not really sensitive when my friend laughs at me but the way she laughed today is quite annoying. So I just decided to keep quiet since I don't want us to clash or start a not so good discussion about this.
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@deazil (4730)
• United States
27 Nov 12
I think that was very rude of your friend. There is no reason to go overboard with laughing because you made a mistake. I wouldn't even have laughed at all. I don't think she is much of a friend to do that. You are dealing with it in a very polite manner. I would not be so nice. It must have been upsetting for you. Take a deep breath and relax. If you are not willing to say anything to her, there's not much you can do except come here and tell your friends in mylot. And I think she will probably do that again to you. But I hope not.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Nov 12
deazil I think if she does do it again then is the time t o tell her she is being hurtful, rude and malicious too.Real friends do not laugh at you in a mocking way.
@deazil (4730)
• United States
28 Nov 12
Hey, Hiya Hatley! You're right, but I have that Irish temper and I lose my cool pretty fast. I'm not one to hesitate in putting somebody in their place. But then again, I've never had a friend do anything like that to me before, either. The people I chose for friends were always okay and at least had manners. Or maybe they were just afraid of me. Just kidding. I don't think I'm that formidable.
@chatoang (61)
• Philippines
27 Nov 12
You are doing the right thing my dear. Keeping yourself cool gives peace because if not trouble will rise ahead. Besides a friends comment on us will make us realize if we have done something good or bad. Being annoyed is just temporary especially if we will accept that we made something wrong.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Nov 12
airsheila I would take her a s ide and ask her why the continuous laughing as you feel hurt by it, not in an angry way but in a soft questioning way as you want to know why that continuous laugh as it was not funny to you. do this as she might not have realized she hurt you. She needs to know not to do that again.
• Philippines
27 Nov 12
i am not denying the fact that i have used a wrong english word during that phone conversation. the correction was fine and i have accept it. but, what matter is, she laughed terribly in-front of me. and that gesture makes me annoyed.
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
27 Nov 12
I think you have every right to feel that way because the way you tell us this, meant that you felt rather discomforted or offended by the person's laugh when you both were talking to each other. Maybe you should have asked your friend for the reason why he laughed at your words.
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• Philippines
27 Nov 12
she already told me why she terribly laughed at me, since i have used the wrong english word when i have had my phone conversation. and i am not denying the fact that i used a wrong english word as well as, i am not excusing myself to be corrected. but the matter is, she laughed at me terribly. and the way she laughed makes me annoyed. perhaps, her gesture is the one she did wrong and not the correction. hence, there are times, i do correct other friends but i do make sure that i don't laughed at them same way she did.
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@joliefille (3690)
• Philippines
27 Nov 12
Oh I can understand that kind of laugh - like the mocking type. I remember getting that kind of laugh before in elementary until college. But don't usually get it after graduation as I changed the kind of people I hang out with. I could get sensitive sometimes but other times I could understand why they laugh that way. If someone would misuse a word I would not laugh at them in a mocking way.
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• Philippines
27 Nov 12
laughing is fine. but sometimes it goes over and terribly. and this was the one happened a while ago, that makes me annoyed.
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• Philippines
27 Nov 12
I guess you did the right thing. Keeping quiet will show her that it's not fun to make fun of other's mistakes. It's alright to be corrected but it's not right to be laughed at. I guess she thought it's fine because you are her friend but that can offend you and hurt your feelings. Nobody's perfect right? I guess let's just be careful in uttering words so that we won't be laughed at. Thanks for sharing and happy mylotting.
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• Philippines
27 Nov 12
the word that i have used was not totally wrong. and for me, laughing when your friend commits a mistake is fine as long as you can control the way how you laugh. but with the situation that arises a while ago is not controllable. wherein, she terribly laughed in-front of me during that time. and that gesture makes me annoyed. well, i have accepted what she have told me that i shouldn't used that word but the way she laughed was another thing.
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• Philippines
27 Nov 12
Sometimes friends forget to be sensitive with our feelings. They thought that since we are friends and we are so close to each other, it's okay for us to be laughed at. Yeah. Just don't mind her. After all you know that you were right in using that word.
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@surekharathi (14146)
• India
27 Nov 12
Thats very nice thought to keep quite to avoid the conflict but this is not possible for everyone or in everytime. Mostly I use funny word and some word forgets while talking my sister laugh on me and say helloo not like but this word is like this then I say okkk my tongue is sliping and your tongue is great leave it you understand my words meaning that is important.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Nov 12
good kind advice surekharahi and I hope she understands that she has a right to tell her friend that that mocking laughter really hurt her. friends if real should not hurt one other on purpose.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
27 Nov 12
Firstly why was your friend listening to you whilst you were on the phone, eavesdropping? that is very rude I think, also I think she has a cheek to correct you on a word and laugh, real friends don't laugh at someone's mistake. I too am sensitive so I hear what you are saying. We often avoid speaking our minds for fear of confrontation or arguments, so more often or not we keep the peace by saying nothing.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
27 Nov 12
people like that really bug me to no end. i would have probably hung up on her. i am sure she isn't perfect so she really has no business pointing out your mistakes to you.
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@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
27 Nov 12
Well, I guess you did the right thing. There is no point if we react and end up having a fight or getting into an argument over a simple matter. After all she is your friend and if ever you find her annoying, you can certainly make adjustment being a friend at that.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
27 Nov 12
Sometimes we can just let things go by even though they may bother us. Other times we just have to voice our opinions. it all depends on the circumstance and event.
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• India
27 Nov 12
Hi friend, some times we will use some wrong words in the flow, it is not a good thing to make fun with this kind of activities, as you mentioned you are not comfortable with your friends activity at this time. You are not interested in quarrel, so you remain quite, that's good, your activity will avoid unwanted fight. Hope your friend will realize her fault, this kind of using wrong word activities are quite common to every one, your friend also use some wrong words some times with or without her knowledge, so making fun with such kind of activities is bad.
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@AkamaruKei (5219)
• Malaysia
27 Nov 12
I think what you do is good. Keep quiet is better than you respond back in anger situation. She will thinking back why you keep quiet after that. So you can avoid a conflict.
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@bhelle76 (353)
• Canada
27 Nov 12
Well, honestly speaking, your friend doesn't have to laugh at you because of the wrong words. I mean, why she annoyed you? Is she or he really your friend? If you made a mistake, who cares... if she or he really cares for being so perfect, she can correct you by not laughing or annoyed you. Honestly, I hate those kind of people. My husband used to annoyed me before because most of the time, I am grammatically wrong and I fight back. Now, instead of teasing me or laughed at me, he corrected me. Now, we're PEACE!
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@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
27 Nov 12
ohh this is the Part 1 of the previous discussions I commented awhile ago. Sorry I was using my email to be able to see the discussions and responses of my friends. Anyway, that friend is very rude and she is looking for a fight. being quiet will not resolve it unless by tomorrow you have forgotten all about today's event, on which I am sure you will not. The mere fact that you have opened here is because you are so pissed off and you want to pull the hair of your friend at this very moment. (LOL sorry violent) But ok silent treatment will do. she should get the message and apologize. but what if she is too dense or insensitive and she doesn't know that you were offended? what are you going to do?
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Nov 12
hi airshelia I think maybe you did do the right thing if you really value her friendship but i also get annoyed if someone corrects me when I am not sure that I did anything wrong. I have a BA in English so I am not completely stupid. But again if I valuer the other persons friendship I try to back away from it. Laughing at someone can be okay or can b e really hurtful. It might not hurt to softly tell her you felt hurt by that.Do not make a big deal more like "I didn't think you really wanted to hurt my feelings but I feel sorta bad" maybe she did not mean to laugh like that.Just a soft little chat where you do not show any anger just a bit of hurt. sometimes we laugh and we do not realize we are hurting the other person.
@deazil (4730)
• United States
28 Nov 12
A soft little chat or a soft little slap on the side of the head, maybe. Sorry Hatley. I couldn't resist. For some reason I'm in an unusually good mood tonite. That's kind of rare for me theses days.
@Cutie18f (9546)
• Philippines
27 Nov 12
Your friend was being rude you should have punched her nose...LOL (kidding). Yeah, the best way to avoid confrontation is by keeping quiet.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
30 Nov 12
Sometimes it is really better to let things pass to avoid any misunderstanding or arguments. We shouldn't be overly sensitive over small things. Let's face it, we will always be corrected by somebody else with the way we speak, walk, etc. But if the comments they give is not that harmful, then just move on.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
20 Jan 13
hi, sometimes its also good to be quite to avoid having misunderstanding and conflict to someone especially in our work,but of course sometimes we need to speak and tell what we feel or the feeling we have so they will lessen the things we might annoy.
@edvc77 (2140)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
I think you did what is right. After all, she is your friend. By saying nothing and keeping quiet, she would then realize her mistakes. Thanks for this. Good day!