do you ever worry about saying the wrong things?

I worry abouy saying the wrong things in an emotional and tender situation. i never want to be taken harshly . sometimes words do not come out as they are meant and that leads to discouragement.

Oh, I know what you're talking about. Sometimes when I'm in a situation with pressure or a conversation, I keep to quiet, because I'm so afraid of telling a stupid thing, because I have the tendency to overtalk a lot, too, when I'm forced to.

I did that yesterday and I nearly talked myself out of getting a brand new hard drive for my computer for free. My computer had developed a couple of faults and I had rehearsed what I was going to say to the guy in servicing and maintenance, I can get very flustered when I talk to someone face to face, I have an anxiety disorder so I have to rehearse things and get them clear in my head, well all went well until I meandered away from what I was going to say, up until then the guy said we will replace your hard drive then I began to say other stuff which made him question whether I did need a hard drive after all, fortunately the guy was ok and said we'll get you a hard drive, I was lucky that time. I knew I had said the wrong things and I could have kicked myself for it.

Oh I feel this way all the time. In my case I suffer from Social Anxiety so when I meet new people or there are too many people around me at once I get very nervous. When in a conversation I get s nervous that I talk way too much & way too fast. Afterward I think to myself: "Now why did I say that, that was so stupid." Of course by then it's too late because I can't take back the words & when I attempt to fix it I only make it worse. So trust me you are not alone.

I had a fear on having a mistake especially when it comes to speaking Im a perfectionist in terms of how i speak into the public i want it to be really good for me to gain their admiration, respect. I don't want to fail because it makes me feel degradation of my educational attainment and skills on communicating to other people. But this attitude is not good because it can prevent you from speaking who you really are and this past few years i learned that being true to yourself and showcasing what are your abilities and talents is much better than keeping yourself safe and show off whenever you are really prepared. Treat mistakes as a stepping stones to success.

In my job, I also need to be convincing; however, i think i still am not. My friend told me that overtime I will develop that skill and learn to do the trick ( i don't mean fooling around:)). It also depends on how you deliver your 'speech'. The more convincing you appear the higher chance that you will convince other people. Just keep on practicing.

I certainly am often feeling like I say or have said the wrong thing. I try not to worry about it too much as I think most people don't remember exactly what I say and so they hopefully just remember the intent.

I used to worry about that, until I heard the following statement "measure your words". I think it was from Ben Franklin. I took it to heart and will sit back and listen before I say anything. I am careful about what I say to people, first I don't like hurting people's feelings and secondly I don't like putting people down. If you watch Oprah works, she will listen to the person and there is a pause while she is formulating what she wants to say. Also, Oprah also apparently reads a LOT of books (I've read one or two of the ones she recommends and I didn't much care for them, but of course it is personal choice) so she will sound (and is) very intelligent. But, if you watch anyone who is a great speaker, they pause before they answer any question. They are, "measuring their words". They think through what they want to say before they say it. I do open my mouth and have odd things fall out of it. In one of my history classes the instructor was telling the class about how a local resident held a lunch for the people in our area (back in the late 1890's). His statement was: "The Exline's had 2000 people for lunch." Before I realized what came out of my mouth, I made the statement aloud "Gee, they must have been full!!!!" In one of my business classes the instructor (who is an attorney along with being a business professor) asked the class "How do you finance your business when you're first starting up?" Again my mouth went into action without my controlling it...and the words falling from my lips were "Sell your blood!" To speak convincingly like Oprah and others, first make sure of your facts. It involves reading a lot, listening to the news, and learning from others. Secondly when you speak to people, look them in the eye. Nothing is more convincing to a person than to have the person talking to them look them in the eye. Also, don't give out too much information. People have a tendency to talk too much and give out too much information. If you want to learn something from someone just let them talk, they will blab their heads off telling you everything. If you stop and look at the people around you, the quiet people are always considered the smart people. They are smart because they don't offer too much information and they will sit and listen to others. When you are getting too talkative, remember that "less is more" and shut down for awhile. If you need to practice saying less, try keeping quiet until you're asked a question and then answer that question and only that question. You're already on your way to being a more convincing speaker because you are smart enough to realize that you need to learn how to be a better communicator. You will get a grip on speaking convincingly, especially if you remember to "measure your words".

I think we're all in the same boat in terms of worrying about those things, pretty sure Oprah and other 'great' speakers also stumble upon such problems too. However, I guess they just have a lot of experience talking that they could easily think and re-think their words before they speak it. This is actually one of my problems as well, I have a lot of regrets with what I say or have said and am not always happy when I think of the countless times I have done someone wrong because of my mouth. Not to mention regrets after blurting out things and promising myself that I'd think 10 times before talking again - most of the times I swallow my words and I can't help but do so. But I sure hope that time will help me change and I do hope that sometimes people wouldn't listen to the words that I say and regret after. Have a great mylot experience ahead!

Don't worry about that,everyone has same problem like you,but you can face that with doing the right thing or said sorry after that.Nobody perfect,enjoy your life.

Hi! Yes sometimes I feel the same way; wondering if I said the wrong thing to the wrong person. When you're getting to know a person or if you don't know them well, it is often better to stick with 'safer topics' such as music, books, or films before you can get into more relaxed and/or deeper topics. Just read the person for a while, and make your own judgements as what you both feel comfortable in talking about. If you need a visual, think of Audrey Hepburn, Gregory Peck, or someone else you admire that had great tact. For me, sometimes this helps relieve some of the anxiety and helps the conversation to flow easily.

We may not be in the same boat, but we may be in the same ocean. Just like many, it applies to me what you are going through. We must admit that there are lots of times when we made a great mistake when we open our mouth so wide, not thinking of its consequences or if its good for others. All of us wants to speak convincingly but not all of us are committed to "always communicate with grace, seasoned with salt." I admire you for making a change and if you truly commit yourself to be like Winfrey, you will become or better than what you dreamed of becoming. Have a great day, have faith.

Sometimes I worry about saying the wrong things. I would realized it after I've said it already. So I'm really careful on what I'm going to say. I think many times before I say it. Thanks for this discussion. God Bless

i actually watched the words that`s coming out of my mouth.. because i don`t wanna hurt someone else`s feelings.. i`v been hurt by others by saying something bad on me so i don`t wanna do it to others because i know the feeling of being hurt right...

Guess it happens with everyone regardless of field. Especially when there are butterflies in your stomach and you can't say the right words you wanted to say. Try to be more relax and confident before uttering a word and you'll be fine.