Would You Date Someone Homeless?

I guess it depends on the situation, but when I met my husband he was living with family but when we started dating his sister made him homeless so he came to live with me, If he couldn't stay with me he would've been homeless and I don't think it would've affected our relationship. He had a job, he supported me emotionally we went on to move into our own place have 2 little girls and get married. Our relationship may not have been as rushed as it was but we have a lovely relationship and IM glad we lived together so soon.

There is a degree of selfishness to a large number of homeless folk - They seem to avoiding quite mundane things. The rest of us get on with it - most of life is boring and unrewarding. We can not avoid our responsibilties because we don't like something. I can't see what you could gain from dating a homeless person. I think I would feel a little awkward if a homeless lass invited me back to her place

Basically, he is still a baby, and wants a mommy to take care of him. A woman would have to be a compulsive helper to consider a man like that.

I don't want to sound like a snob, but I would never date a homeless guy. I mean, how can you deal with a person who doesn't know how to make his life straightened out? I could be a friend to help him if he needs me but if he would just be relying on my help every single time, ADIOS AMIGO!

Hi, i would contact his family and tell them his situation. I remembered one time a well known footballer relative were homeless and here the footballer was earning millions. Be sure that he does not have any mental problem since he is trying to do the abnorm

you are right about your friend.. your friend should have at least find a place to live and a job if he really want to date someone or to be with someone.. if he does n`t find a job it is hard for him to find somebody because me i won`t date someone who is homeless and jobless.. how will i know that if he is responsible enough if even his self he can`t take care of..

no, probably not. i would like to date someone that has a good job and a steady income and a place to live (ideally not with his mother, either!)

I believe some girls would date a homeless guy if that particular guy became homeless not by choice and is striving to change his condition and develop his status, but as for your friend, I think no woman in her right mind would want to date him. Nobody wants extra responsibility especially if it involves finances.

I probably wouldn't date someone I had to support. I supported my first husband most of the time and I won't do it again. I do know someone though who started dating a guy that was living in his car. He lost everything to gambling. But now they are very happy together and he has gotten back on track. That however is alot different then someone who doesn't want to work...or do chores etc.

hi LovingMyBabies no I do not think so. I married my hubby when he had just lost his job but he already was waiting to start a new job. I worked too until my ninth month of pregnancy and a doctor saw me with big belly and all trying to wash a three hundred pound woman. It turned out she was his sister. He looked at me and asked if I was almost due and I did not lie.then he called for another aide to come finish the bath as he escorted me into the head nurses office. He told her to put me on maternity paid leave so she did. He was head of the staff.She later fired my husband as she did not want married couples both working there. I would not have dated a homeless man unless he found a job and between the two of us we could afford an apartment? no my hubby was not homeless and yes he started working as soon as we were married. We both worked at first at St Lukes Hospital in Phoenix for almost a year before the head nurse fired him. we ' found out she was angry because she wanted him to marry her.they had dated only one time and he told her he was not interested. but that did not stop her.So no I would never have dated a man who did noi have a job and an apartment. [

I don't think so. I am on the verge of being homeless myself so what will happen next is both of us will sleeping on the streets. But I think if that man will find a good woman who will guide him and give him inspiration, there is still a big chance that he will straighten up. I know a hoodlum transport into a good and decent citizen when he married a good woman who helped him all the way until he was able to find a good decent job. Now they have three children and are happy as a family. Just give that guy one good woman to change his life. Unfortunately, I don't think I am that woman. LOL

I understand both sides here. I agree with you though. No woman in her right mind would be with a homeless guy like that. Look, I am the first to admit that I never liked being bossed around. No one does. I also have a problem with authority. I grew up where my father was a boss. He worked in the NYC water supply. Yes he started out in the streets as a laborer, but became a foreman and then supervisor. Both my father and my uncle we bosses. So it sort of rubbed off on me. I also worked for the water supply for years. So I learned from the old timers how to be a boss even though I had no problem working hard. So dealing with bosses was always a sticking point for me. If he is able to work then he should. You know, these days there is no loyalty in a job. Neither the employer or the employee. So if I were him I would not worry about bosses. They come and go just like workers. But money is money.

hi LMB, Honestly I don't like a guy who doesn't have a bone at all there is a guy who likes me a lot I never give him a chance to date me or to court me cause I see that I can't have a better future with him simply because he is the type of person who don't make anyway to have a better living. Now a days we must be practical at least be with someone who can support you cause LOVE can't be eaten that's the reality. happy mylotting

It sounds shallow, but no, I wouldn't consider it. If, as you said, he is capable but not willing, I would consider him to be a potential leech. I don't always like working, but I do it because I have to. Even women who are supported by their husbands do some kind of work around the house and try to contribute to the family. But if someone is just expecting me to take care of him, I won't be able to respect him as an adult. I have to be able to respect the man that I am with, otherwise, it just won't work.

I guess for me it depends. With a situation like this one that you have shared here,I would say no. Acutally now that I think of it, their would not be many situations where I would. I would be friends with them for sure. I dont have an issue with this, but the situation where he doesnt want to live anywhere or work. He doesnt seem to be trying or even care to better his quality of life. And with that I cant be making a partnership with because I have a standard and goals. If he were to be in a relationship, the other person would be pretty much just taking care of him because he doesnt want to work or even help out in the home.

Nope, I wouldn't date a homeless person. Pretty much for every reason you just listed.

I would be friends with a homeless person and help them in anyway that I could. I wouldn't wish to have a romantic relationship with a homeless person. In a work environment a boss has the job to do that tells the workers what to do. The man is wrong to disrespect a boss and his overall authority. That man seems lazy to me. It is a shame he hasn't accepted a place to live. Somebody that is unemployed and he is trying hard to find another job impresses me.

I would not date a homeless man , knowing that he his homeless especially if you rare talking the type that have no ambition just enjoy sleeping on the street corners. Why would he want someone to be with , where would he take them ? is he expecting the woman to shelter him forever ? that guy is not just homeless but crazy !! If he at least have ambition to start something small and then grow it but with no skill nor ambition pretty much hopeless .

I am not single, but I wanted to respond. I totally agree with you on this situation, about this friend of yours who wants someone, but he doesn't want to get a job or make his situation better. If I was single, no I wouldn't date a man who was homeless, especially if he wasn't doing anything to get himself off the streets. Like try and find a job, or find a place to stay. I couldn't deal with that. I agree that the woman shouldn't only be the one making all the money and taking care of all the things going on in the home. If my husband loss his job, I wouldn't leave him though, because I know that at least he would work very hard at trying to find another job. I think that if your friend tried to make the effort in bettering his life, like at least get a place to stay and job search then maybe he would find someone. Otherwise if he just wants to live on the street and not work, then you are right he will remain alone and single forever. I know a guy just like him, actually makes me wonder if its the same person, jk. But anyway, he loves being homeless, this guy is a very smart guy, he can have any job he wants. Heck he could make as much money as a doctor. He is healthy as a horse. But his problem is he is just way to lazy to want to work. And also his excuse is he thinks something is medically wrong with him, despite the doctors telling him that he is perfectly healthy.I'm like what is wrong with this guy. Like really, he could be rich living in a nice big house and driving really nice cars can have any girl he wants. Yet he chooses to live in and out of hotels (so I guess he's part time homeless if that is even the right way of saying it) he will every once in a while do little research jobs like have research done on him for certain medicines and stuff. He'd rather live in his car or under a bridge and drink all day. Then actually go out and get a job with all the skills and everything he has. I am like really. What is wrong with this guy. Is he delusional, yet he complains about being broke and always trying to borrow money from my husband. I am like really, we never loan him money because we never know if he'll pay us back. But I'm like get off your butt and get a job. He too wants someone in his life, like a wife or a girlfriend (although once he did have a girlfriend , but she was homeless too lol) but still. I'm like man you won't ever find someone if you remain homeless living like you do. It won't work. Go find a job and believe me there will be a ton of girls lined up wanting to date you.

if its a homeless man who doesnt do anything to try to fix his situation then no i wouldnt HOWEVER... sometimes things lead to other things and you end up homeless and its not really anyones fault or things just went bad and you didnt have a choice.... you have to look at the whole story and if the homeless guy wanted to do something to fix it and just needed a boost in the right direction then i dont see whats wrong with it. currently my fiance and i are homeless... not because we want to be but because thats what circumstances lead to and we are trying to fix it. we stay with friends and are both working trying to be able to get into a place but just because we are homeless doesnt mean that we are bad people or anything like that